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The part I don't get about girls

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ok 50 people gave you some advice.. well sort of... and your still overanalyzing and second guessing yourself... STOP IT!!! Just do it © Nike... no what ifs or buts...

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Originally posted by: FuZioN
ok 50 people gave you some advice.. well sort of... and your still overanalyzing and second guessing yourself... STOP IT!!! Just do it © Nike... no what ifs or buts...

😛
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never do something that feels risky unless it is well thought through, and even then it is still sometimes wise to hold back. All I am doing right now is thinking it through well, and you guys are helping me do this through discussion and I appreciate that.

I WILL get to a conclusion eventually, I feel that this matter is simple enough that I can arrive at a conclusion,

some matters, like the free will vs. predestination debate are not that easy to arrive to conclusions however. feel happy that I havent made a thread about something like that.
 
I feel the same way about J-Lo, Shakira, Adriana Lima and Jenna Jameson.
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The problem is... that they have to feel the same way about you.
And if they do, then you have a good deal! 🙂

and if they don't, then GOOD! you can move on.
 
Originally posted by: skywalker66
Okay this really irritates me...

In another thread I was talking how I was going to tell a girl I had a crush on her, to be more specific I was going to tell her that I've had a crush on her for 1.5 years.

well for the update, i havent gotten around to saying anything to her yet, but it really bugs me that...


you can't just be straight up with someone. You can't tell them you've had a crush on them for 1.5 years, why? because supposedly they'll either freak out or be turned off by it.

But.. take note of another common comment made: "Don't tell her something like that until after you're in the relationship or something"

Now.. why the HELL is it all of a sudden cool and perhaps maybe even funny if a girl hears that you've liked her for a long time if she figures that out AFTER the relationship begins, vs. if she hears that BEFORE the relationship begins?

I mean its like ppl are saying I'm going to set off alarms and she is going to put a restraining order on me or something, or at least never talk to me ever again, or not say much, or try to avoid me,

Would someone please explain why this vast difference is there, when you tell something to someone later, vs. earlier?
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because by then they have gotten to know you and know that you're not a freak. or at least are deluded into thinking that...
 
Guys,

I would like to apologize earlier for not using my intuition and relying just on my logic with this question. I am starting to realize the nature of women, the psychology of them, how to get them,

its not something that can necessarily be spelled out absolutely clearly but its still the truth, and the way to go,
and the way to go is to not be obsessive, not do anything that would come off as desperate, and do be smart about how and when you advance with girls.
 
Originally posted by: skywalker66
Guys,

I would like to apologize earlier for not using my intuition and relying just on my logic with this question. I am starting to realize the nature of women, the psychology of them, how to get them,

its not something that can necessarily be spelled out absolutely clearly but its still the truth, and the way to go,
and the way to go is to not be obsessive, not do anything that would come off as desperate, and do be smart about how and when you advance with girls.
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I think we just witnessed a boy become a man. Cheers. :beer:😀

 
Originally posted by: skywalker66
Guys,

I would like to apologize earlier for not using my intuition and relying just on my logic with this question. I am starting to realize the nature of women, the psychology of them, how to get them,

its not something that can necessarily be spelled out absolutely clearly but its still the truth, and the way to go,
and the way to go is to not be obsessive, not do anything that would come off as desperate, and do be smart about how and when you advance with girls.
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horrible...horrible...organisms
 
Ask yourself this: how would you feel if another girl you barely know came to you telling you that she had a crush on you for 1.5 years? Would you say something like: great, let's go out together! or something like: hum...alright...hum... maybe someday we'll see each other again....
 
Originally posted by: Mavrick
Ask yourself this: how would you feel if another girl you barely know came to you telling you that she had a crush on you for 1.5 years? Would you say something like: great, let's go out together! or something like: hum...alright...hum... maybe someday we'll see each other again....
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I'd say... can I get you a beer? 😀


 
"The only thing we [guys] understand about girls and women is that there is nothing that we can understand about them."


On another note, I have taken the direct upfront approcah at telling a girl that I "like" her; at first it didn't come out the way I had hoped (duh), but over time, we got to be good friends. She avoided at first me and I avoided her after I "told" her.
 
Originally posted by: Mavrick
Ask yourself this: how would you feel if another girl you barely know came to you telling you that she had a crush on you for 1.5 years? Would you say something like: great, let's go out together! or something like: hum...alright...hum... maybe someday we'll see each other again....
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i would understand completely and give them an honest response.
 
I'm not gonna bother reading all this, only say "Just ask her to go out sometime, you pussy." It doesn't do any good to just tell you that you like her.

"I like you."

AND??? WHO CARES? WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO ABOUT IT?
Saying you simply like her shows that you don't have balls and that you want her to do the dirty work here. Stop being a loser, the worst she can say is "no."
Don't waste your time just saying "I've liked you for 1.5 years." Because who gives a crap HOW LONG you've liked someone. Does that mean you get some sort of special prize? HELL NO. It just means you've wasted A YEAR AND A HALF of your life being too much of a damn chicken to ask her out. Pick up your skirt, find your balls and do it, you sissy.
 
Originally posted by: ness1469
I'm not gonna bother reading all this, only say "Just ask her to go out sometime, you pussy." It doesn't do any good to just tell you that you like her.

"I like you."

AND??? WHO CARES? WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO ABOUT IT?
Saying you simply like her shows that you don't have balls and that you want her to do the dirty work here. Stop being a loser, the worst she can say is "no."
Don't waste your time just saying "I've liked you for 1.5 years." Because who gives a crap HOW LONG you've liked someone. Does that mean you get some sort of special prize? HELL NO. It just means you've wasted A YEAR AND A HALF of your life being too much of a damn chicken to ask her out. Pick up your skirt, find your balls and do it, you sissy.
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A lot of people have given him the same or similar advice. I guess he needs to talk about it before he actually does anything....
 
Yeah, you're gonna have some rough times, bud.

Honestly you just don't understand, and you won't until you are forced to see how relationships work.
Good luck, heh.
 
you're so darn angry about this that I really do wonder why you're stalking this poor girl... go see episode 2 or something and leave this girl alone!
 
First what are u scared about? oh no i asked her MY VIRGINITY NOOOOO!😉

common man ness gave good advice although u probably will take it offensive...i think u hallucinate a lot...loose pride and self esteem to quickly therefore afraid of being judged,probably feels abit inferior as well...u should change this cause it is affecting u and will most likely not help u mate with any female...change this quick before u start putting ur hand in play
 
Why after but not before, easy. Because before she doesn't know if you're crazy or not, but after she already knows you're not (so we hope) and thus it becomes "cute". And besides at that point she already likes you. It's the same reason you can grab your gf's breast unexpectedly and get a giggle out of her, but if you did that when you barely knew her she would slap you.

dfi
 
"You can never enter a girl's mind, but telling a girl you like her before anything has even started is the DUMBEST thing you can ever do..."

Are you sure, Kauru? I don't think your statement matches his question. In spite of that, I don't think telling a girl you like her is bad. I, for one, don't like guys playing games and pretending. I like them to be up-front about their feelings toward me, as I could usually tell early on, anyway. If they pretend and then come later after I show no sign of opening up, I'll tell them off and never, ever consider them 'cuz it's just so childish to me that any guy would act like high school kids.

[Skywalker:] "Now.. why the HELL is it all of a sudden cool and perhaps maybe even funny if a girl hears that you've liked her for a long time if she figures that out AFTER the relationship begins, vs. if she hears that BEFORE the relationship begins?"

Do you want to know the rethorical question I always asked a guy who professed his love for me for 2 years, even though it wasn't reciprocated? Well, I was puzzled and always asked: "How could you claim your undying love for me when you don't even know me!"

I thought that was extremely odd that someone who didn't know me would say how he loved me and wanted to spend his life with me. It freaked me out, but I was pretty strong, or so I thought, to just shun him. A naive person may just think, "Oh, this person must really love me if he's had this feeling for that long." However, even a naive person may not think that way; instead, she might freak out. I kind of began rationalising the former way, though . . . as the person persisted.

Think for a moment, Skywalker: If a stranger came to you and professed an undying love for you (i.e., one that's persisted for long), would you really think, "Oh, love is irrational, abstract, just an uncontrollable emotion, so it's okay!" or would you wonder how someone who didn't know you or get to know you would say that? I mean, even if it were a pretty lady, you would be happy but see it rather odd that she would say that without knowing you, wouldn't you? You said you were in her circle of friends, but it sounds deeper if you seem to be spying her in other ways. If you were that close to her or knew her much, you wouldn't have to do things like that.

You can keep on asking, but you'll only see what you want to see, and hear what you want to hear. Pause for a moment and reason yourself.
 
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