The survey's calculations has flaws.
http://www.usatoday.com/story/money/personalfinance/2014/07/04/american-dream/11122015/
First, the median home price is 213,400 as of may 2014, This would cut nearly 4K from housing to $13,134.
Groceries at 12,659 or 1055/month is a not trying to be thrift budget for a family of 4. I know you can feed a family of 6 for less than that easily if you're decent with sales/coupons.
Car expenses at 11,039 for a single 4WD SUV is outrageously expensive, but you can have two cars, buying a new car every 5 years and keeping them 10 years costs close to that, which is closer to my version of the american dream for family of 4.
Medical expenses is based on the milliman medical index with 5544 employee contribution, 3600 out of pocket expense, and 12,886 employer contribution. The family could use 2500 fsa for a tax deduction later.
what is the 4K for "education expense", you can't sent two kids to private school for 4K and public school cost + school supplies isn't 4K. Is this some weird average of the two because it doesn't list the source directly. let's use 500 for public school.
Apparel at 2631 and utilities at 1956, neither seems wrong to me.
Extras(Vacation - 4580, entertainment - 3667, restaurants - 3662, cable, internet, cell - 3100, Misc. - 2000), while none of these is outrageous, all of them are easy to cut down if you want to.
Savings of 5000 for college and 17,500 for 401K are good habits.
Taxes of 32,357 is a WAG(wild-ass guess). it pegged a flat 30% of income per a model for this income level, but is it no way close to this household(married with kids). The national average property tax rate is ~1%, so property taxes on the house are ~2500. Car taxes assumed to be 1000/year(probably high). Assuming state income tax rate is flat 6%(higher than most states' effective tax), then family would pay 8072 in FICA, 5281 in state, and 6141 federal(standard deduction/exemption, two $1000 child tax credits, 17500 401K deduction, 8044 healthcare deduction(5544+2500)). Total taxes of 21995.
Gross income is $113,567. If you cut 10,000 from the extras and food(coupons, drive on the vacation instead of flying, eat out only once a week, etc.) then this number drops below $95,000 because of the reduce taxes and 401K to maintain a 15% savings rate.
In 2012 for 4 person households, median income is 79698, 40% made more than 95K, 29% made more than 115K, and 23% made more than 130K. Hard to think the american dream isn't affordable.
http://www.census.gov/hhes/www/cpstables/032013/faminc/finc01_000.htm