That's it, I am moving on, but ...HOW ?

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: loup garou

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Zaitsevs
well, how did you two break up?

Let's say we were never together to begin with we were just playing a little match of mind games

Translation: I'm a stalker who's been served a restraining order.

LOL, no but still made me laugh though good.

 

[Skunkwourk]

Originally posted by: Zaitsevs
Did you break up with her? or vice versa?

what's the story ?

Here I believe its this one...

 

[Zaitsevs]

Ah I got ya, well...

If that's the case, you have to just be confident and realize she wasn't meant for you anyways, I mean if all you did was play mind games, then there isn't really anything for you to be .. sad about .. is there?


I mean, okay you miss her and whatever. You have to go into a relationship realizing you can walk out of it at anytime, because you can. If she doesn't treat you with respect, you tell her that straight up. You don't chase her down, if she really wants to be with you, she will. But if not, then you pick up your bags and move onto somebody who wants you for you.

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: Zaitsevs
Ah I got ya, well...

If that's the case, you have to just be confident and realize she wasn't meant for you anyways, I mean if all you did was play mind games, then there isn't really anything for you to be .. sad about .. is there?


I mean, okay you miss her and whatever. You have to go into a relationship realizing you can walk out of it at anytime, because you can. If she doesn't treat you with respect, you tell her that straight up. You don't chase her down, if she really wants to be with you, she will. But if not, then you pick up your bags and move onto somebody who wants you for you.

TBH I was pretty much over her I had that determination to put things behind me, and then she texted me on V-day and I was like oh crap I thought I had this issue burried under the sand, but that SMS started giving me second thoughts and those second thoughts caused third thoughts ...etc you get the idea.
But now what I do realize is that I need to find someone else but how you know ?

 

[Zaitsevs]

you realize that if your .. past ' fling' was meant to happen, it would have.

and you .. start going to outlets looking for girls if that's what you really want.

if not then find something that makes you happy

 

[EGGO]

Where's the giant: YAGT?

Kill her.

 

[ArJuN]

I know exactly how you feel man...very similar situation. I was working my ass off trying to get over this girl...then vday rolled by...she forced a conversation on me even though I was trying to avoid it because I knew I'd be dragged back in. So she kept asking me who my valentine was, and I just kept saying stupid stuff or that I didn't have one. But she kept bringing the topic up. So I said ****** it and asked her if she wanted to be my valentine. Then she was all of sudden happy and went on to tell me how she was waiting all day for me to ask her that...how the hell am I supposed to get over her with that? If I come up with anything I'll update you...

 

[Mo0o]

Write some sh1tty poem, cut yourself and listen to linkin park. Whatever you do, dont post on atot about that girl again

 

[Zaitsevs]

Originally posted by: ArJuN
I know exactly how you feel man...very similar situation. I was working my ass off trying to get over this girl...then vday rolled by...she forced a conversation on me even though I was trying to avoid it because I knew I'd be dragged back in. So she kept asking me who my valentine was, and I just kept saying stupid stuff or that I didn't have one. But she kept bringing the topic up. So I said ****** it and asked her if she wanted to be my valentine. Then she was all of sudden happy and went on to tell me how she was waiting all day for me to ask her that...how the hell am I supposed to get over her with that? If I come up with anything I'll update you...

you realize she just wanted a valentine, basically using you in an indirect way.


I don't like valentines, it makes more people sad when it's supposed to be a happy day.


but if things turn out for the better and she wants to be with you, or something along those lines, then hey it wasn't so bad.

but if she stops talking to you, I'd cut it right there and metaphorically smack the ho, and tell her you don't deserve that disrespect.

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: ArJuN
I know exactly how you feel man...very similar situation. I was working my ass off trying to get over this girl...then vday rolled by...she forced a conversation on me even though I was trying to avoid it because I knew I'd be dragged back in. So she kept asking me who my valentine was, and I just kept saying stupid stuff or that I didn't have one. But she kept bringing the topic up. So I said ****** it and asked her if she wanted to be my valentine. Then she was all of sudden happy and went on to tell me how she was waiting all day for me to ask her that...how the hell am I supposed to get over her with that? If I come up with anything I'll update you...

:thumbsdown: for mind-games.
You see my problem is that I can't tell the difference between a girl trying to play hard to get, and a girl that doesn't want you to get her at all, you know. :thumbsdown: to mind games, hang in there buddy.

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: Mo0o
Write some sh1tty poem, cut yourself and listen to linkin park. Whatever you do, dont post on atot about that girl again

I didn't post about that girl, I didn't even link anything back to that thread I was posting about how I can move on so you would see less threads about her and more threads about someone else you know

 

[Mill]

In a couple of months you won't care. So, order a pizza tonight, drink some beer, and masturbate to some kinky porn. It's for the best.

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: Mill
In a couple of months you won't care. So, order a pizza tonight, drink some beer, and masturbate to some kinky porn. It's for the best.

lol , no thanks but at least I know what your plans are for tonight :shocked:

 

[The Linuxator]

 

[AznAnarchy99]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: ArJuN
I know exactly how you feel man...very similar situation. I was working my ass off trying to get over this girl...then vday rolled by...she forced a conversation on me even though I was trying to avoid it because I knew I'd be dragged back in. So she kept asking me who my valentine was, and I just kept saying stupid stuff or that I didn't have one. But she kept bringing the topic up. So I said ****** it and asked her if she wanted to be my valentine. Then she was all of sudden happy and went on to tell me how she was waiting all day for me to ask her that...how the hell am I supposed to get over her with that? If I come up with anything I'll update you...

:thumbsdown: for mind-games.
You see my problem is that I can't tell the difference between a girl trying to play hard to get, and a girl that doesn't want you to get her at all, you know. :thumbsdown: to mind games, hang in there buddy.

similar situation. i was on and off with this girl for a few months, blah blah, i wanted to end it for various reasons but i still think about her.. alot... i have like 2 other girls that i could get with but its not the same when all u think about is the one that left... im right where you are right now so if you know what to do, tell me also =

 

[iamtrout]

You know, the same exact thing happened to me. I fell madly in love for the first time in high school, and to a German foreign exchange student no less. Oh man, she was so beautiful, so smart, and so nice. We did the mind games, and it turned out that she didn't want anything to do with me. So, like you, I entered into a period where I just couldn't get over her. Kept on thinking about her. That sorta thing. So one day I invited her out to the park, because she was about to leave, and I uppercutted her and while she was knocked out I set her on fire, grilled a few steaks, and was done with it. Oh, I did save her head though. She's always with me. I love her so much. She's in the back on the bookshelf, top row third head from the left.

Yay!

 

[GeekDrew]

Originally posted by: Mill
In a couple of months you won't care. So, order a pizza tonight, drink some beer, and masturbate to some kinky porn. It's for the best.

That doesn't work for everyone.

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: AznAnarchy99

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: ArJuN
I know exactly how you feel man...very similar situation. I was working my ass off trying to get over this girl...then vday rolled by...she forced a conversation on me even though I was trying to avoid it because I knew I'd be dragged back in. So she kept asking me who my valentine was, and I just kept saying stupid stuff or that I didn't have one. But she kept bringing the topic up. So I said ****** it and asked her if she wanted to be my valentine. Then she was all of sudden happy and went on to tell me how she was waiting all day for me to ask her that...how the hell am I supposed to get over her with that? If I come up with anything I'll update you...

:thumbsdown: for mind-games.
You see my problem is that I can't tell the difference between a girl trying to play hard to get, and a girl that doesn't want you to get her at all, you know. :thumbsdown: to mind games, hang in there buddy.

similar situation. i was on and off with this girl for a few months, blah blah, i wanted to end it for various reasons but i still think about her.. alot... i have like 2 other girls that i could get with but its not the same when all u think about is the one that left... im right where you are right now so if you know what to do, tell me also =

1- Gloves
2-???
3-Profit!


You are asking me ,LOL I am more lost than anyone I know, my problem is not getting girls to like me ,I do make a good impression on most of the girls I spend time with, but my poblem is getting the girl that I think is special to like me, that is a different equation all together

 

[AznAnarchy99]

we need a bottle of vodka here

 

[The Linuxator]

For me all that keeps me going is ATOT , without that I am not sure if I would have made it without a breakdown .

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: GeekDrew

Originally posted by: Mill
In a couple of months you won't care. So, order a pizza tonight, drink some beer, and masturbate to some kinky porn. It's for the best.

That doesn't work for everyone.

Did you try that just now or previous experience

 

[Schfifty Five]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Really how do you move on ? After observing myself for a while , it's easier said than done, the reason why I can't take this girl of my mind is because she is the only one that was actually able to enter that area, well to solve the equation I said to myself it's time to let more enter that area, lately I let a couple of my friends introduce me to about half a dozen of girls over this 3-day weekend, so I speant the past 3 days talking to a variety of girls, but as cute and funny as they were, the more I talked to those girls, the more that I realised why I liked the first girl that I used to like and just didn't see any point from the meeting the rest of the girls my friends wanted to introduce me to.

And I think an even more important question is, how do you prevent a previous negative experience from affecting current ones ?
Everytime I see a girl that there might be some nice potential for something happening I just remember my last experience and just retreat before anything starts up, it's just frustrating

Don't you find it hilarious how in your previous thread you developed these really negative feelings toward that girl saying how she wasn't worth your time etc etc etc...and here you are, freakin out that you will never find anyone else like her.

So what happened with that girl, did you finally tell her you liked her and she flat out rejected you?

 

[GeekDrew]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: GeekDrew

Originally posted by: Mill
In a couple of months you won't care. So, order a pizza tonight, drink some beer, and masturbate to some kinky porn. It's for the best.

That doesn't work for everyone.

Did you try that just now or previous experience

I've tried the "pizza, beer, and jerkin'" idea.

It's been a couple of months now.

Still hasn't worked.

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: Schfifty Five

Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Really how do you move on ? After observing myself for a while , it's easier said than done, the reason why I can't take this girl of my mind is because she is the only one that was actually able to enter that area, well to solve the equation I said to myself it's time to let more enter that area, lately I let a couple of my friends introduce me to about half a dozen of girls over this 3-day weekend, so I speant the past 3 days talking to a variety of girls, but as cute and funny as they were, the more I talked to those girls, the more that I realised why I liked the first girl that I used to like and just didn't see any point from the meeting the rest of the girls my friends wanted to introduce me to.

And I think an even more important question is, how do you prevent a previous negative experience from affecting current ones ?
Everytime I see a girl that there might be some nice potential for something happening I just remember my last experience and just retreat before anything starts up, it's just frustrating

Don't you find it hilarious how in your previous thread you developed these really negative feelings toward that girl saying how she wasn't worth your time etc etc etc...and here you are, freakin out that you will never find anyone else like her.

So what happened with that girl, did you finally tell her you liked her and she flat out rejected you?

Hmm let me dig up stuff from that thread , here :


January 06
OK guys here is what happened today at work and I am going to make it as short as possible :

- I go to work.
- She is there we greet each other and we start working.
- Close to the end of the shift I go to her and I tell her :

Me : I was just thinking .
She : mhh?
Me : Since we don't have work Friday evening I was wondernig if you would like to go out with me and maybe we can do something together either have dinner or maybe go to the movies ?
She : Look, I know how much you care for me and how much you would like this to workout, but I really don't think it's going to, and I rather us just stay the way we where before.
Me : Hmmm, well I would have loved to see things work out but I really got a different impression from you. But It's ok, I am glad that you were able to be honest about it.
She : I am really sorry XXXXX.
Me : Shakes head.

- I took off work, and most probably I will not see her again in my life, and I hope I never will, it was just too much of a trauma like experience for me during the last two weeks....


After that happened I convinced myself that she doesn't a thing to do with me, and I accepted the fact and didn't contact her again for + 2 and a half months. but htne v-day comes along and :




February 14th ( AKA FCKN VALENTINES DAY!! ) :

OK so I am hanging out here at this coffee place sipping a cop of joe and chatting with a good friend of mine, and out of no where I get this text message, but from who ?

Well you got it ,it's HER!! The message says :


"Hey XXXXXXX Happy Valentines day, sorry I haven't called how are u"

^
^

WTFMINDGAMES !!!!

Note that we had Zero contact with each other since the last time we saw each other (The day before the beginning of the fall semester)
I really don't feel like messaging her back, and I most probably won't, but just in case I do, it will be along the following lines :

"Hey XXXXXXX Happy Valentines day, I am doing good."


WTF does she thinks I am ? A disposable plastic cup or something ?

OK I get it, she realizes that she is lonely on Valentines day (she wouldn't have been like that if she wasn't a MIND-GAMES QUEEN) and decided that she will honor me with her crappy company for a day or two ?

[b/]

And perhaps now you understand

 

[sourceninja]

What has happened to men. I think the next generation of men will be physically born without balls.