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Suspecting your s/o cheated on you...

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You reap what you sow.

You should not have flirted with your ex.

You made the first move.

You pushed her over the line.

:disgust:

She should have dumped your ass a long time back.
 
Originally posted by: bigrash
you shouldn't have spoken to your ex in the first place
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Bingo, unless you cleared it with your current SO, I don't think that is a good idea.

Also, since you can't seem to trust her, and she is more distant, maybe the best thing to do is sit down with her and tell her you are sorry about not clearing talking with the ex with her (even though it is your choice, it would have been considerate to at least have told her straight out you were just talking and reassured her), and then really letting her know how you feel. After that it is up in the air if you two should continue or not, but you could end on okay terms if you do it right.
 
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Originally posted by: Riverhound777
End it. Her denying it means nothing, women will Always lie about cheating, even to themselves.
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And even if you do get proof, she will somehow spin it such that it's YOUR fault.
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Hell it IS his fault!
Miss the part about him talkin to the ex?

Hey, if your gonna pull sh1t and play games you damn well better expect your girl to do the same.

Apparently some forget those very simple kindergarten rules.

Treat others like you want to be treated.

More importantly we should ask the OP "So hows it feel?"
 
Four months? I wouldn't worry about it as the relationship hadn't been serious up to that point anyway from the way you describe it. You should build your trust with her from this day forward.
 
Its all downhill from here. You will never fully trust her and without it, your relationship will sour. Start fresh, there are many fish in the sea.

Words of wisdom.
 
A buddy of mine who has been married nearly 15 years put a key-logger on his wifes laptop at the house and uncovered a ton of evidence that she had been having an affair on him since early 2006. He spoke with a divorce lawyer a month ago who basically told him it would be financially devastating to divorce and it would in their best interest to seek counseling, even though she has now come clean and admitted the year long affair.
 
Originally posted by: bigrash
you shouldn't have spoken to your ex in the first place
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agreed. She thought the relationship wasn't 100% serious and it really falls on your mistake IMO. Don't get me wrong, the relationship sounds like it was rocky in the first place, but you can't blame her for doing what she thought you were doing (if that makes sense)
 
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Assuming I didn't bang my ex during that time, I'd kick her to the curb for cheating. 😛

- M4H
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or just go back and rip your ex up a few nights 😛
 
Two things:

1) :camera:s of ex? 😛

2) Are you going to share with us the "fairly substantial evidence" you came across?
 

i think we need to see the pics of your gf and your ex-gf. Then we can decide on whether you should keep your gf or go back to you ex-gf
 
Originally posted by: jjones
Four months? I wouldn't worry about it as the relationship hadn't been serious up to that point anyway from the way you describe it. You should build your trust with her from this day forward.
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I agree except for the building part. Now that you know she isn't 100% straight with you about "crashing on come couch" (oops Freudian slip not gonna correct it), you know what she is like. Move on, or continue to hit it if you have no other options and you can do it without caring.
 
Originally posted by: bigrash
you shouldn't have spoken to your ex in the first place
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How about his GF should be mature enough to trust him? and not go "crashing on some couch" to 'get him back'.
 
Last gf cheated on me finally admit to it. I just calmly said "Oh um ok, well Good luck." and hung up the phone. Never heard from her again.
 
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