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Sticky situation between 2 roommates

shocksyde

shocksyde

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Scenario:

Roomie #1 and roomie #2 met in college and have been roommates in Maryland for 4 or 5 years. As far as I know, they've never had any major problems.

#1's father falls ill with cancer around Xmas 2008, and #1 goes to Florida to be with family. #1's mother also falls ill. #1 is then laid off in mid-January. Obviously, a shitty hand has been dealt. #1 eventually decides to stay in FL to be with her family and looks for jobs in the MD area while down in FL. #1 is still in FL and has not yet found a job in the MD area.

#2 has an issue with living alone, and has been doing so for the past 4 months.

#1 pays rent and her share of utilities until recently. Now #1 doesn't want to pay for any of the cable or internet. I can understand this, but it does put an added burden on #2. #1 eventually asks #2 to find someone to sublet her portion of the lease. #2 does not want to live with someone she doesn't know and doesn't want to bring a friend in, only to have the friend kicked out when #1 eventually wants to come home.

Now #1 and #2 are in a huge back and forth fight over what's fair and if #1 should end her lease so that #2 can find someone to live with her.

What the hell is fair in this situation? Is there a way to resolve this without a broken friendship? To be honest, one of them is my girlfriend and I'm friends with the other, so I'd rather not see them fight.
 
Originally posted by: Perknose
#2 needs to grow up.
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QFT

If #2 doesn't want to live with a stranger and doesn't want to bring a friend in, then she shouldn't be complaining because either of those will solve the money problem. She should just be satisfied that #1 is still paying the rent even though she's not even living there.
 
If #1 expects to come back to a home in MD, then she should keep paying the rent. If not, and that's understood, #2 needs to grow up.
 


What's fair?

Lie down.

Put one up front on your face.

The other one at the back on penis.

That way both of them get action at the same time. What could be more fair than that?
 
Does #2 have to agree to a sublet?
Why not completely cut #1 from the lease (with penalties) and just move on.
 
Originally posted by: lxskllr
If #1 expects to come back to a home in MD, then she should keep paying the rent. If not, and that's understood, #2 needs to grow up.
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:thumbsup:

p.s. which one is your girlfriend?
 
Originally posted by: Inspector Jihad
Originally posted by: lxskllr
If #1 expects to come back to a home in MD, then she should keep paying the rent. If not, and that's understood, #2 needs to grow up.
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:thumbsup:

p.s. which one is your girlfriend?
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#2 is my girlfriend. I just sent her an email telling her I think she should attempt to work it out and not make #1 terminate her lease. I didn't think I was looking at it with biased eye, but based on the responses in this thread, it appears i was.

ATOT to the rescue!
 
#2 needs to stfu and understand that the world isn't always perfect and that #1 needs all the help she can get.
 
Originally posted by: shocksyde
Originally posted by: Inspector Jihad
Originally posted by: lxskllr
If #1 expects to come back to a home in MD, then she should keep paying the rent. If not, and that's understood, #2 needs to grow up.
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:thumbsup:

p.s. which one is your girlfriend?
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#2 is my girlfriend. I just sent her an email telling her I think she should attempt to work it out and not make #1 terminate her lease. I didn't think I was looking at it with biased eye, but based on the responses in this thread, it appears i was.

ATOT to the rescue!
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good stuff...besides, if they are good friends, #2 should do what she can to help out #1. i mean, they've been living together for 5 yrs so you think #2 would be willing to bend to help a friend out.

i would try to figure out when #1 is tentatively going to come back so #2 can sublet the apt accordingly.
 
#1 has paid her portion all the way through, seemingly uncomplainingly, and has been doing everything right within her power. #2 needs to make an effort to find a new rooomate and be a good friend to #1 by letting her out of the lease. If #2 seriously digs in her heels and tries to extract cash from #1 under these circumstances, without making any attempt to be a decent human being according to the circumstances, she's being a real jerk.
 
If 1 wants to keep the place for when she comes back, she needs to continue paying everything she agreed to. If she wants it sublet she should be making those arrangements, particularly if she wants to be able to bump the person out. If 1 wants out period, she should continue to pay till 2 can find someone else.

Life may suck for 1 but that doesn't mean an open inventation to return the favor to 2.
 
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