Step Mother: Cannot stand me on a PC! Need help.

[jandrews]

her house her rules, dont like it move out etc etc. Also, she probably just doesnt want you around the house all day. It sounds like she is a stay at home wife? She probably just wants you out of the house to get some time to herself.

 

[NanoStuff]

Originally posted by: jandrews
her house her rules, dont like it move out etc etc. Also, she probably just doesnt want you around the house all day. It sounds like she is a stay at home wife? She probably just wants you out of the house to get some time to herself.

How long does masturbation take? One minute in the bathroom and you're done.

 

[Delta6Echo]

Originally posted by: Coldkilla
My bi-polar step mother is going insane. She cannot stand the fact that someone my age (20) is sitting on a computer every minute of the day. Before I go on, I will defend my position:

Edit:
During the last summer I was supposed to have surgery. But it was canceled three times... and the date keeps getting pushed back. This is why I do not have a job PRESENTLY, my last job did not grant 2+ weeks off.. So I had to quit. If the surgery went through, I would not have been able to keep my job where I was. But once it was canceled, I was out of a job. Then a new surgery was planned, and therefore it was pointless again to get a job because the day I start I'd need 2-3 months off. Then that was canceled, and now I have a 3rd date planed after this coming semester of college.

I will have a job in college, and hopefully next summer without the planned surgery's, I will have this same job or another part time job that gives me as many hours as possible.
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1. I have school in 19 days. (College 2nd year).
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2. "Going outside and socializing": She cannot stand that I do not want to do this. I have a few friends, but now they come over once a week for band practice. They have no interest in what I do (computer). My friends (due to college) have quit there jobs too, do not want to senselessly spend money on stuff they don't need.. Not to mention: When I'm on teamspeak, I'm talking to people I've known for 11 years. Does that count to socialize in any shape?
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3. "When she was a kid" with her eight brothers and sisters... were always outside running around outside. But they did not have computers back then..
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4. I don't want to go out.. Reason being: Leaving the house = spending money. No matter where I go will cost $$$, and I cannot spend any. (I used to go to "the park", with my 15 friends from high school a few years back. We went everyday, but everyone broke up after college and that was that.
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Ok so I'm 20 living at home, before those who left home when they were 18: I am welcome here at my home until I finish college. I only have to pay 3,500 a semester my University of Milwaukee (Wisconsin), and do not want to spend money I do not have on a dorm thats 4,000 a year + meals. Especially without a current job that fits my college schedule. I do want to get a job though as soon as I get a work ethic together on my new schedule, but can't get a job until I get the rhythm of changing classes and study time. She doesn't understand this... and freaks out because I'm on my PC during the time I'm waiting for school to kick in.

My father however, says he understands my position but... I still have to be in a house alone with my stepmother for 3-4 hours a day.. listening to her go on and on about "WTF are you on the computer for?! Get a job! Here.. Here's the classifieds, get a job!!! Go outside! Play baseball! Do Something!!"... Is it that time's have changed, and ones past-time has gone from always running around playing in the grass to playing on the computer?

I tell you what, I'm a hard worker when it comes to school. But I fear that this year I will need to get situated before jumping into another job. So I see it as fit to get a job a few weeks into school. But until school kicks in, I've been on my PC.. When no one's home I play the drums. (So its quiet when they're here). On Thursdays I have band practice... Idk... what to say to this women.

MOVE.OUT.OR.SHUT.THE.FVCK.UP

 

[invidia]

A hardcore WoW raider has more life than you. My friend raids 40-50 hours a week and yet we have time to go out to the gym and play Magic the gathering like the nerds we are.

 

[sniperruff]

Originally posted by: invidia
A hardcore WoW raider has more life than you. My friend raids 40-50 hours a week and yet we have time to go out to the gym and play Magic the gathering like the nerds we are.

Lol that cracked me up. MTG!

 

[effee]

Should go out more....

 

[Jeff7]

Originally posted by: Phoenix86

Originally posted by: iamwiz82
The amusing part is in a few years you will understand that she was right.

You mean where he gets a job and sits on a computer all day?

And posts here while "working" too.


Other option: get a laptop and take it outside.

 

[Coldkilla]

I guess I didn't elaborate enough in my main post. Never mind. Everything is just fine.

 

[Mxylplyx]

Originally posted by: Anubis

Originally posted by: Mxylplyx

Originally posted by: iamwiz82
The amusing part is in a few years you will understand that she was right.

FTW!!

I'm almost frustrated with your attitude, and I dont even know you. I can only imagine how she feels having to watch you do this all day. You sound like you are living with a social phobia. You try to rationalize yourself avoiding the tribulatons of leaving the nest and growing up, which involves meeting new people and getting something resembling a life. You probably look down on people that go out and have wild drinking binges with their friends, when you should really be looking up to them. I've seen your attitude exhibited by many socially phobic, depressed, lonely people trying to justify their own pathetic existance. You will come to regret it, trust me. Look around at some of the pathetic 30+ yr old virgins that post here. Do you really want to be like them??

you do realize there are people who arnt socially phobic, who do have jobs and such that just prefer to be alone when they have free time, weather they spend it on the comp, reading a book or building a model train set, its pretty much all the same,

to generalize someone as pathetic because they prefer their own company to that or others is well pretty pathetic

If you say so. I believe there is an inner drive in all people to seek companionship, and that is why people who "prefer" to be alone are often depressed.

 

[Rogodin2]

Lock your door.

Rogo

 

[BurnItDwn]

Bring a laptop and go outside?

 

[ShadowOfMyself]

Lol you should know posting stuff about parents in ATOT is a complete NO NO, you will only get flamed by the almighty holy population

She doesnt like it, too bad, its your life not hers, you do what you want, why do you even need reasons?

 

[timswim78]

Go to the library and get on the Internet for free. Or read books there. Maybe you'll meet a cute librarian and get lucky!

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: ShadowOfMyself
Lol you should know posting stuff about parents in ATOT is a complete NO NO, you will only get flamed by the almighty holy population

She doesnt like it, too bad, its your life not hers, you do what you want, why do you even need reasons?

its her house. he does not like, to bad, its his house her rules so why does she need a reason?

 

[Coldkilla]

I love how everyone assumes it's "her house" and automatically becomes right, simply so they can make their argument. I updated my main post by rewriting it. Perhaps it might help make the conversation a little more civil.

The funny thing is, the difference between me and many others here is: A. I don't want kids. B. I don't want to get married. C. I don't want a girlfriend. (And no I'm not some gay person). D. I don't believe in God... I automatically get called: Stupid/pethetic/moron. It's great. I love reading this stuff and shaking my head in disbelief that others actually try to weigh in and say that my life choices are evil and whatever they say is the only way to do things. That my friends is pathetic.

 

[ric1287]

Originally posted by: Coldkilla
I love how everyone assumes it's "her house" and automatically becomes right, simply so they can make their argument. I updated my main post by rewriting it. Perhaps it might help make the conversation a little more civil.

The funny thing is, the difference between me and many others here is: A. I don't want kids. B. I don't want to get married. C. I don't want a girlfriend. (And no I'm not some gay person). D. I don't believe in God... I automatically get called: Stupid/pethetic/moron. It's great. I love reading this stuff and shaking my head in disbelief that others actually try to weigh in and say that my life choices are evil and whatever they say is the only way to do things. That my friends is pathetic.

while i don't agree that you shouldn't be doing other things than the computer, people need to stop this elitist bs attitude (although it would be impossible here).

Its real easy for older people to say "HEEYYY, just go out side and do stuff!!!!" Like theres some magical place that it the most fun you will have in your entire life. Do what makes you happy. If you can do well in school, have friends, and still spend a lot of time in front of ol' PC, then fine. But when that thing starts distracting you from more important things in life, its time to shift things.

 

[preslove]

I was all for agreeing with you, then I read your screen name. Coldkilla? GET A JOB!

 

[Flyback]

They just want you outside so that they can have sex. She be gettin' desperate by now with you being inside all the time.

 

[lyssword]

Try to find some temporary/unofficial jobs, like from friends/uncles or whoever, say clean their yard/mow grass. That way you can earn extra $ and don't have to have the commitment. Ask around, your relatives/friends if they know of anything like that.

 

[mooglemania85]

Originally posted by: Flyback
They just want you outside so that they can have sex. She be gettin' desperate by now with you being inside all the time.

:laugh:

That should be an interesting conversation.

"Dad, you really need to fvck [insert name] soon because she's pissing me off everytime she comes home."

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: Coldkilla
I love how everyone assumes it's "her house" and automatically becomes right, simply so they can make their argument. I updated my main post by rewriting it. Perhaps it might help make the conversation a little more civil.

The funny thing is, the difference between me and many others here is: A. I don't want kids. B. I don't want to get married. C. I don't want a girlfriend. (And no I'm not some gay person). D. I don't believe in God... I automatically get called: Stupid/pethetic/moron. It's great. I love reading this stuff and shaking my head in disbelief that others actually try to weigh in and say that my life choices are evil and whatever they say is the only way to do things. That my friends is pathetic.

Nah, you'll grow up soon enough. It just might take a little longer than most.

 

[dugweb]

the funniest part about your post is your reasoning for why you are justified to sit on your ass.

You're a perfect example of a reactive personality, as opposed to proactive. I find it terribly hard to believe that your grades slipped last semester solely because of the job you had.

For some reason I sense WoW's presence in the midst of all that "video editing" and "team speaking". Get a job and get your priorities strait.

 

[Cogman]

Originally posted by: Coldkilla
I love how everyone assumes it's "her house" and automatically becomes right, simply so they can make their argument. I updated my main post by rewriting it. Perhaps it might help make the conversation a little more civil.

The funny thing is, the difference between me and many others here is: A. I don't want kids. B. I don't want to get married. C. I don't want a girlfriend. (And no I'm not some gay person). D. I don't believe in God... I automatically get called: Stupid/pethetic/moron. It's great. I love reading this stuff and shaking my head in disbelief that others actually try to weigh in and say that my life choices are evil and whatever they say is the only way to do things. That my friends is pathetic.

A. You just want to argue with whatever anyone tells you so really your not worth the good advice. But for future reference here it is. Laugh at it all you want but you cant say it wasn't given to you.

B. I see nothing in your original post to refute your step mom's owning of the house you currently live in. Because she married your father she also owns the house. As well, she IS working so she IS complimenting your free room and board. Like it or not she is supporting you and as such you should have the common decency of at least TRYING to make her happy.

Not only that, but who is paying for you electric bill, who bought your computer, who provides the laundry equipment? You clean the house? big deal, if you take 8 hours cleaning the house then there might be something to that claim but you said yourself you spend the majority of the day chatting on the internet.

C. I have yet to learn what the "I don't believe in god or want a girl friend" Has anything to do what everyone else has said to you. If you are truly doing this for college then do yourself a favor and go to the library, check out a book, and read. Or even stay in the Library just long enough to be out while your Step Mom is home, and viola, problem solve. If you check out a book in your chosen career and study it you will be all the more prepared for the next semester of college.

I don't your choices are "evil" I think your have a crappy attitude, one that says "I DESERVE to sit here and play on my computer all day long because my real mom accepts it!" Sometimes parents let you get away with crap that isn't necessarily good for you. You're step mom is right in being concerned with you spending too much time on the computer. Too much of a good thing is bad for you. Unless you are becoming a crack developer or studying then I can't see any justification for monopolizing all of your time with a computer.

Seriously dude, just take 30 minutes and go for a walk. You'd be surprised at how much a little exercise can help you're attitude. You say you have friends? Go speak with them in person (if possible of course, I don't know where you live so I don't know how far things are away from you)

Basketball is fun as well to just shoot some hoops, and see if you can improve your shot. I understand that you don't like sports, I don't really either. but sometime getting out is something you have to do. Just do what you're step mom wants and avoid the belittlement and heartbreak that ensues. she isn't exactly telling you to be unhealthy and try and kill yourself.

 

[SlowSpyder]

Originally posted by: ShadowOfMyself
Lol you should know posting stuff about parents in ATOT is a complete NO NO, you will only get flamed by the almighty holy population

She doesnt like it, too bad, its your life not hers, you do what you want, why do you even need reasons?

I would agree with you if the OP supported himself. For whatever valid reasons and for whatever excuses the bottom line is he doesn't support himself and lives in his dad/stepmom's home so the rules aren't his to make.

 

[AznAnarchy99]

Originally posted by: dugweb
the funniest part about your post is your reasoning for why you are justified to sit on your ass.

You're a perfect example of a reactive personality, as opposed to proactive. I find it terribly hard to believe that your grades slipped last semester solely because of the job you had.

For some reason I sense WoW's presence in the midst of all that "video editing" and "team speaking". Get a job and get your priorities strait.

I hope there is some WoW presence. At least he would be making progress in something rather than chat on TS all day and "video editing".