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Staying at someone else's home

johnjohn320

johnjohn320

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I hate it. Is it just me? I travel quite a lot and enjoy it. I don't mind just "crashing" at a friend's home for a night, but living there for several days, staying in a guest room or on a couch? I'm not a fan. I always feel awkward and out of place, like I'm walking on eggshells to be a "good guest" and not intrude. It's my own prolbem, no one makes me feel that way. I just feel awkward and eager to get back to my own home or a hotel.

Obvious exceptions: a really close friend of a long period of time; an attractive girl whose bed I'm sharing 😉, and the like.

Am I weird?
 
Having been on both sides of this coin, I'd prefer to have a guest who is like you. That being said, I don't like staying at someone else's house for more than a night or two.
 
johnjohn320 said:
I hate it. Is it just me? I travel quite a lot and enjoy it. I don't mind just "crashing" at a friend's home for a night, but living there for several days, staying in a guest room or on a couch? I'm not a fan. I always feel awkward and out of place, like I'm walking on eggshells to be a "good guest" and not intrude. It's my own prolbem, no one makes me feel that way. I just feel awkward and eager to get back to my own home or a hotel.

Obvious exceptions: a really close friend of a long period of time; an attractive girl whose bed I'm sharing 😉, and the like.

Am I weird?
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Nope. They can tell you to GTFO any time they want if you do something they don't like.

I visited my sister in another state and she got pissy with me because I purchased a 2 liter of coke which she didn't like in her house because of her kids. It's their way or the highway.
 
I dont mind staying at someone else's home but it pisses me off to no end when the come home unexpectedly.
 
I don't mind staying at someone's house as long as I'm not trapped, i.e, no car. I'd rather rent a car than have to rely on my host to get around.
 
ive got a number of good friends i could easily stay with for a couple of days without any issues. id rather not, as i prefer my own space, but anyone id want to stay with for a couple of days are people laid back and easy to deal with
 
I don't like staying anywhere else but home, I just feel dirty without my shower and my bed. I dunno why.
 
usually the only time i do "crash" somewhere is when i am not in good enough shape to drive... this happens quite a bit, but i allllways prefer going to bed, and waking up in - my own bed 🙂
 
I dont like staying at anyones house, not even a relative.
Much prefer a cheap hotel and basic rental car. I dont mind seeing them all day, but I wanna feed and clean myself and go to sleep on my schedule.
 
I don't like staying with people for that same reason. I want to help by picking up but some people get offended by that because they think you think their house needs picking up.

Its just the way I am. I even tidy up a hotel room before I leave.
 
rudeguy said:
I don't like staying with people for that same reason. I want to help by picking up but some people get offended by that because they think you think their house needs picking up.

Its just the way I am. I even tidy up a hotel room before I leave.
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have u ever left a hoodie in one? j/k
 
rudeguy said:
I don't like staying with people for that same reason. I want to help by picking up but some people get offended by that because they think you think their house needs picking up.

Its just the way I am. I even tidy up a hotel room before I leave.
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Thats another one I dont like. People who live in filth and chaos and when I try to straighten up a few things just so its doesnt feel like I live in filth and chaos they get all pissed off.
Well god dammit dude! Maybe if you cleaned your fucking house once in a while!

Got a ride from a dude to work one time. He had a wife and 3 kids. The car was fucking NASTY!
Old mcdonalds burgers and worse junk laying on the floor for a week at a time. We were sitting around the shop with nothing to do so I suggested we take a trash bag out and at least toss some of the outright garbage he had in there. Guy flipped out and ranted on me for about 10 minutes. We could have done the job in that time.
Didnt even try to hint we could also bring a vacuum and some windex and maybe paper towels to soak up whatever ungodly liquids were fermenting in the fucking car.

You know that nasty slob you roomed with in college? Guess what family he came from?
 
Luckily, I haven't really had the problem of the people being slobs. In fact, sometimes it's the opposite-everything's so unbelievably neat and nice that I feel like I'm sleeping in a museum where I can't touch anything.
 
I lost the desire for sleepovers before I hit my teens. I hate staying at someone else's house, and would rather stay in my Jeep.
 
johnjohn320 said:
I hate it. Is it just me? I travel quite a lot and enjoy it. I don't mind just "crashing" at a friend's home for a night, but living there for several days, staying in a guest room or on a couch? I'm not a fan. I always feel awkward and out of place, like I'm walking on eggshells to be a "good guest" and not intrude. It's my own prolbem, no one makes me feel that way. I just feel awkward and eager to get back to my own home or a hotel.

Obvious exceptions: a really close friend of a long period of time; an attractive girl whose bed I'm sharing 😉, and the like.

Am I weird?
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Sadly, you are completely normal. We hate ourselves and whenever we are on somebody else's turf our self evaluation turns on and we become concerned that others will see us as we feel we truly are, worthless.

Now that you know this you can use it to help relax a bit. Note that if you don't go looking for the faults of others you will start to maybe trust they aren't looking for yours. And you will know too that that weird feeling is just projection, the fear that others see what you unconsciously feel. Remember it is just a feeling and not the real deepest truth. You are actually an image of God, a facet of a priceless gem. If you could just realize that the world will want you to eat at its table.
 
I hate it...I'd rather spring for a motel than to stay in a friend or family member's "guest room" or on their couch.
 
johnjohn320 said:
Luckily, I haven't really had the problem of the people being slobs. In fact, sometimes it's the opposite-everything's so unbelievably neat and nice that I feel like I'm sleeping in a museum where I can't touch anything.
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You know they cleaned for a week before you came over, right? They usually live like slobs. 🙂
 
Ehh ... used to spend much of the summer at my grandma's house and sleeping in one of the guest rooms. So, I'm comfortable staying at other people's places, as long as theres a comfortable place to sleeep....
 
It really depends on who. Most of the time we travel as a couple and cats are a bad time for my wife, she has allergies. All my family has cats and always has, so staying over is problematic. If it were not for that we would be fine with staying with friends.
 
I have no problem with it. I offer to help the hosts, and do the obvious courteous things...other than that I have no qualms about relaxing and making myself at home with friends and family.
 
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