WOW sounds exactly like my life with Val!
we are trying to work something out between us as a compromise on this issue was well.
WOW sounds exactly like my life with Val!
we are trying to work something out between us as a compromise on this issue was well.
Go floating in a sensory deprivation tank. It's really fun. That or take dancing lessons together. That would also be good times.
Fern
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Surely you can find one ot two TV shows that you both like. My wife likes crime stuff, which I don't, but I started watching CSI with her and ended up liking it well enough. Lost is another decent TV show that women seem to like.
Otherwise, plenty of good non-TV suggestions here.
Siddhartha
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Originally posted by: pclstyle
"between calls" seems to account a good deal of time, judging by the rapidity of your responses.
And although the inspirational speech given by your bank manager was undoubtedly very touching- NO, pouring coffee for the tellers is actually NOT a critical part of their operation.
Sorry.
Oh, and the focal point of this harrassment is: You play games, your gf watches TV. The first douchebag that offers her any semblance of an exciting fling is going to walk her out of your life, leaving you bawling into your headset, snot soaking your wireless keyboard, tears blurring your vision, obscuring the 24" monitor you emptied her engagement ring fund to purchase.
You're doomed
LOL... well thats kinda mean, but sorta true.
Man, there must be some recreational parks nearby that you two can go out to and enjoy some nice walks together. Maybe start going to see movies together and have dinner out once in awhile. Try to remember what it was like when the two of you first met, and how you romanced her then. What kind of fun things did the two of you do together then? Surely you have some common interests that pulled you two together. Working out in a gym together... go sight seeing at a beach if you have one close enough to drive to... In Houston near where we live it's a 45 minute drive.
Try to find some mutual TV programs you both like. Obviously you don't like what she's watching so maybe you can compromise on some TV programs that the two of you can watch together. TV time is a great way to talk about current world events, cuddling is always a great intimate thing... nothing wrong with that... Man, that usually ends up in wild sex for me..LOL
Go make some new friends together... get to know some locals at the local bars or pubs. Go throw darts together or play pool at a bar. That sometimes can be fun.
Very important to remember that the computer games can be fun, and a great stress reliever for you but you need to limit your time on them. Just as she needs to limit her time on the TV. You two need to do other things that involve activities with each other. That is what being in a relationship is all about. It is a constant process, constantly evolving... you always have to work at it.
lol yeah, the only thing we fight about is doing things together, we communicate, fornicate, and finance-icate fine....I just prefer to get off of work jump on my BF2 server and kill people till around 10 and usually 4am on the weekends. We do go out to the bar across the street about every weekend. She just has this thing about cuddling and watching the style channel......click click boom...
Look at it this way: You getting her into BF2 would be like her trying to get you into Will & Grace. There's a compromise somewhere.
Either: A) Find a show you both like (there *are* good shows out there); or B) Find a console game she'd enjoy. But sticking someone in front of a PC FPS is not the best way to get them interested.
Either: A) Find a show you both like (there *are* good shows out there); or B) Find a console game she'd enjoy. But sticking someone in front of a PC FPS is not the best way to get them interested.
how about talk?
my wife and i have been married for almost 10yrs, yet we still talk for an hour or two every night before she goes to bed. her day, my day, current events, things ive read, things shes read, future plans with the house, etc. etc.
she has to be at work earlier than i, so i save my "cave activities" for after she goes to bed.
my wife and i have been married for almost 10yrs, yet we still talk for an hour or two every night before she goes to bed. her day, my day, current events, things ive read, things shes read, future plans with the house, etc. etc.
she has to be at work earlier than i, so i save my "cave activities" for after she goes to bed.
Find something you both like to do that is not television and not video games.
My wife and I regularly:
Are involved with community theaters
Curl
Play board games
Do home improvement projects
Cook
Decide to try something totally new and learn it together.
My wife and I regularly:
Are involved with community theaters
Curl
Play board games
Do home improvement projects
Cook
Decide to try something totally new and learn it together.
Yes, Yes! Sometimes just having a simple conversation face to face and enjoying each others company is great.
If your spending more than 2 to 3 hours a day on your games, then I would wonder about your relationship and if it will last much longer. Your escaping into those games and not focusing on the one person who is most important (or at least should be) in your life.
Just my take on it.
Well... in the gamer's defence there are some games that unless you have 2-3 hours or more to commit to them, don't bother playing. You'll never really get anywhere. Unfortunately these are also the best games currently out. And I can see his point about hating to sit & watch mind numbing TV. At least with a game you have to think & react.
My g/f and I work things out like so. Mondays we both play softball. Tuesdays she does bible study with a group of girls, thats my night to blow as many people up as I want. Wednesdays we usually cook dinner together. Thursdays she takes care of domestic stuff at her place & again I blow people up. Fridays we go out. Weekends are whatever is going on that particular weekend.
Edit: But in response to the OP's original question. Try playing a sport together or something. Basically the best compromise here is to do something that doesn't involve your PC or her TV. Just try random stuff. You never know what you may hit on that the 2 of you love. Rent a Harley one weekend and see where the road goes. Try one of Amazon's books on techniques and see how many ways you can make her squeel. Or look around for some activity groups in your area that interest you.
Curl? SWEET! Like the ice and broom thing? I thought that was only an olympic sport... didn't realize anybody actually did it recreationally...
I'm sure you're an asshole, so I guess we are even....I was simply stating the facts about my job, not bragging.
ROFL @ "cave activities" that describes it perfectly. I also try to do the same although I'm not living with my s/o currently.
Edit: Also we've started bowling lately, though I'm terrible at it AND I'm a sore loser.
There are probably a lot of things she would rather be doing, but can't because you're on the computer every night. Keep it up and I predict she'll give up on you a lot sooner than you think. All it takes is for someone else to come along and show her what she's been missing.
Anyways, the fact that you're here asking questions indicates that you're trying to improve the situation, but you still seem awfully reluctant to give up your gaming, like you're being forced to do this. It that's the case, she's going to pick up on it, which makes the whole exercise kind of pointless. Trust me, I've been in your shoes before, and I know how hard it is to act genuinely enthusiastic about spending a night out shopping with her when all you want to do is go home and get your game on.
So, get your priorities straight. If you had to choose between her and BF2 at this very minute what would you pick? It would be wise to make the decision now, because if your woman is anything like the women I know, you won't get an ultimatum before she decides to give you the axe. In an instant you will become a wonderful footnote in her history, that loser she dumped because he wouldn't get off the fvcking computer.
To sum it all up, UNPLUG OR SHE WILL FVCKING DUMP YOU.
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