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Originally posted by: amicold
Anyways, once there was a man named amicold, he didn't like dating too much. One day he fell in love with this great girl, they dated, it was a high point in amicold's life. One day the girl leaves, but continues to be good friends with amicold. Amicold and girl get in arguement, girl doesn't speak to amicold anymore over a minor disagreement despite two years of close friendship/relationship.

Long story short, two months later I find myself with no sex-drive whatsoever, its been like this since after the breakup. I had three weeks of depression from the breakup, I figured the sex-drive would rebound. It did for a bit, and then it vanished worse than before.

So now I have virtually no sex-drive. I'm not depressed and I haven't changed my diet or anything, I'm working out regularly as well. Is this normal or do the doctors of ATOT tink I should get my testosterone and hormone levels checked? Thanks
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If this keeps up for another month, I recommend that you see a doctor to see if there is something physical wrong and then talk to a therapist.
 
Originally posted by: letdown427
When you 'went flaccid' on one of your scores, were you tense/worrying about not having a sex drive that kind of thing? Maybe you're creating the problem by worrying about it. I'm no therapist though, I agree you probably should talk to a pro about it.

Do you have any, erm, friends with benefits (fvck buddies) that you're really relaxed with and can just, well try it out with? The sex drive is probably a psychological thing that will pass when your subconcious lets whatever the problem is, go.

Best of luck mate! Have a beer 🙂
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She was a fvck buddy. Completely relaxed with her no problems there whatsoever. It was just like I was 55 years old. For the record, I don't need Viagra, I'm very young. So yeah. It's a bit unorthodox though especially for me, I used to be very "driven" if you will. I'd chase anything.
 
Originally posted by: MisterJackson
You have a mental issue that's taking precedence over healthy normal brain functions.....i.e. you are depressed, so, you gots a limp bizkit.

You need to talk to a therapist and heal dude, the lack of sex drive is not the problem, it's just a syptom of a problem. Fix your problem and your sex drive will right itself.

I also recommend, if you go see a therapist, that you NOT take anti depressants as this will NOT help your cause at all.
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Exactly.
 
You've discovered the holy grail....a man with no sex drive!!! Just think- everything you do will not be driven by impressing girls for sex! You're FREE!!!!! You could cure cancer while creating nuclear fusion because your mind will be so clear now!

Amazing!
 
Originally posted by: Fritzo
You've discovered the holy grail....a man with no sex drive!!! Just think- everything you do will not be driven by impressing girls for sex! You're FREE!!!!! You could cure cancer while creating nuclear fusion because your mind will be so clear now!

Amazing!
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QFT.
 
Consider yourself lucky. There are many times after a breakup when I wished I could take a pill to zap my sex drive.
 
Originally posted by: amicold
Ugh, what the hell do you think I'm trying to do? I tried hooking up with other women, I went freaking flacid like an old fvcking man. Do you think I've missed the point entirely in getting over it? That's what I'm saying, I can't, I can't maintain an erection how do you expect me to move on and bone other women? That's why I said I think it may be a hormonal problem or something, emotionally that chick still has her place with me but I don't want a relationship with her.
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I don't really know, but they say medically, that if you stop using your sex drive it diminishes over time. Especially if there is a drastic change in sexual activity, as in your case. It could be something hormonal, but it is probably something natural that will pass after a while. Best bet would be to go see your family physician though.
 
-I'm not taking roids or any unnatural supplements. I only take Whey Protein for post-workout nutrition.
-As for Fritzo's remark, it's true I accomplish a lot more when I have no sexual thoughts progressing in the back of my mind.
-As for the others, I don't think it's depression, I know when I'm depressed I always have. Then again, it is common in my family, so I don't know.
-It's awkward, I find very few women acceptable now, and ones that I do, I don't find the magic there like I did with the ex. The emotion is gone, or I don't feel it, and that is probably what's doing it for me.
 
you're depressed.

see a doctor.

I don't care if you don't feel it, you are exhibiting all the symptoms and describing them to a tee.

-edit-
oh, and MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Talk to your doctor to rule out physical reasons first. Your doctor can then refer you to a therapist of some sort if it's not a medical problem.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
you're depressed.

see a doctor.

I don't care if you don't feel it, you are exhibiting all the symptoms and describing them to a tee.

-edit-
oh, and MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I know I should move on, christ. I'm trying, hooking up with other women or trying to find another is a sure way to do so but it's hard for me to do that. Don't act like you've never been in my situation, it's hard forgetting someone you cared/care about.

Oh, and I'm exhibiting one symptom of depression, the lack of interest in sex. I don't have my usual sleepiness/desire to sleep, my lack of appetite, my general bleak outlook on things. In fact, I'm doing better with life as a whole than I used to be.
 
don't diss viagra thinking it's just for old people.
I would try it few times just to get my confidence back.
 
Originally posted by: amicold
Anyways, once there was a man named amicold, he didn't like dating too much. One day he fell in love with this great girl, they dated, it was a high point in amicold's life. One day the girl leaves, but continues to be good friends with amicold. Amicold and girl get in arguement, girl doesn't speak to amicold anymore over a minor disagreement despite two years of close friendship/relationship.

Long story short, two months later I find myself with no sex-drive whatsoever, its been like this since after the breakup. I had three weeks of depression from the breakup, I figured the sex-drive would rebound. It did for a bit, and then it vanished worse than before.

So now I have virtually no sex-drive. I'm not depressed and I haven't changed my diet or anything, I'm working out regularly as well. Is this normal or do the doctors of ATOT tink I should get my testosterone and hormone levels checked? Thanks
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1) Go to a bar
2) Get wasted with the first girl that you see
3) Bring her back to your place

if you still have no sex drive see a doctor.
 
He doesn't need viagra. He physically can (probably) get an erection.

Good luck dude and see a therapist.

Koing
 
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