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Sometimes I wonder what the hell my fiancee is thinking

As much as I love my fiancee, I sometimes wonder about her logic on how she thinks. While I'm at work, we end up having the following conversation via our Blackberries:

Sara: Want a limited edition Street Fighter IV fight stick?
Me: No money.
Sara: Okay, just wanted to double check.
Me: How much?
Sara: $150
Me: No way! I love the gamepad you got me.
Sara: You wouldn't want to use a fight stick?
Me: Not for $150.

So we end the conversation with me thinking that she understands that I can't justify the cost of what it is. For some odd reason though, I get the weird feeling as if she was plotting to buy it regardless. It also seemed odd that she wanted to come over after closing at work tonight when normally she just goes home to relax.

Fast forward to two hours ago. Sara comes over and is leaning off to the side as I open up the front door. No sooner than when she takes a step forward, I see a huge bag containing the Street Fighter IV fight stick. I try to reason with her in taking it back, but it turns to her crying. In all honesty, we shouldn't be wasting any money with us in search of buying a house right now. This I end up telling her, but she still does not want to budge.

I finally tell her that if she wants to spend money on me, return the fight stick and make a donation to the Susan G Komen foundation that we participate in every year. This results in not working the way I expected since she still refused to take back the flight stick. I resort to caving in and telling her that the only way I'll accept it is if there are no more frivolous spending from this point on. She agrees on this and decides to be happy again.

The bad part about it all is usually she's the super grounded one who's always saving money like crazy. Me on the other hand, I'm more likely to buy something that she's had her eye on that wouldn't normally be bought or if I see something for myself. So I've decided to try and get AC/DC tickets that go on sale tomorrow. Payback is a bitch when tickets are $92.50 each.

CLIFFS:
Fiancee asks if I want a SFIV LE fight stick
I say it's not worth it
Fiancee buys anyways
I tell fiancee to return it and she refuses
Argue over the fight stick for an hour while she cries
Finally accept fight stick
Payback will be AC/DC tickets that will run me over $200 after stupid service fees
 
Originally posted by: feralkid
Huh? You bring her to tears over spending $150, but then you turn right around and blow $200?
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No kidding. Odd.

OP, also sounds like you handled it poorly. You should have happily accepted the gift, then the next day had a seemingly unrelated money talk. And wtf on the tickets?
 
Originally posted by: TrueBlueLS

The bad part about it all is usually she's the super grounded one who's always saving money like crazy. Me on the other hand, I'm more likely to buy something that she's had her eye on that wouldn't normally be bought or if I see something for myself. So I've decided to try and get AC/DC tickets that go on sale tomorrow. Payback is a bitch when tickets are $92.50 each.
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Your fiancee isn't the problem, you are.
 
Originally posted by: feralkid
Huh? You bring her to tears over spending $150, but then you turn right around and blow $200?
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She loves AC/DC and this might be one of their last tours, so at least the memory would be well worth it compared to a fight stick that could break at any point.
 
You are not going to like what I have to say. She is not going to change concerning these matters. She does not understand financial responsibility and it is not going to get better once you are married. You might have talks with her and she will say and act like she understands and agrees but she will simply revert to her natural ways. Ask and old man how he knows of what he speaks. I have seen this happen not only with my past relationships but with friends' of mine. If you can deal with a lifelong battle over such issues then marry her by all means, if you can't then quite frankly you should go your own way.
 
That's not payback, that's you being a hypocrite. It sounds like you seen the AC/DC tickets, bought them and then rationalized the purchase by calling it "payback".

If you are so worried about saving for the house then you would have not bought those tickets.
 
Sounds like she tried to do something nice for you and it blew up in her face. Although women don't make sense a lot of the time, sometimes you just need to go with the flow. 13 years of being married has taught me as much.
 
I don't see how this is OP's fault.

Sure he could have handled the aftermath of her buying the joystick differently. Root problem? Her.
 
Originally posted by: TrueBlueLS
Originally posted by: feralkid
Huh? You bring her to tears over spending $150, but then you turn right around and blow $200?
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She loves AC/DC and this might be one of their last tours, so at least the memory would be well worth it compared to a fight stick that could break at any point.
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You don't see that as completely irrational?
 
Originally posted by: feralkid
Originally posted by: TrueBlueLS
Originally posted by: feralkid
Huh? You bring her to tears over spending $150, but then you turn right around and blow $200?
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She loves AC/DC and this might be one of their last tours, so at least the memory would be well worth it compared to a fight stick that could break at any point.
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You don't see that as completely irrational?
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Not really.

Pretty sure his basic viewpoint:

His use out of a $150 joystick: $10

Her use out of a $92 ticket to AC/DC: $150+

Makes sense.
 
Originally posted by: Tweak155
Originally posted by: feralkid
Originally posted by: TrueBlueLS
Originally posted by: feralkid
Huh? You bring her to tears over spending $150, but then you turn right around and blow $200?
Click to expand...

She loves AC/DC and this might be one of their last tours, so at least the memory would be well worth it compared to a fight stick that could break at any point.
Click to expand...

You don't see that as completely irrational?
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Not really.

Pretty sure his basic viewpoint:

His use out of a $150 joystick: $10

Her use out of a $92 ticket to AC/DC: $150+

Makes sense.
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You're joking, right?

The whole issue was his berating his fiancee about spending money they should be saving for a house.

How does his blowing an additional $200 make any sense?
 
Originally posted by: feralkid
Originally posted by: Tweak155
Originally posted by: feralkid
Originally posted by: TrueBlueLS
Originally posted by: feralkid
Huh? You bring her to tears over spending $150, but then you turn right around and blow $200?
Click to expand...

She loves AC/DC and this might be one of their last tours, so at least the memory would be well worth it compared to a fight stick that could break at any point.
Click to expand...

You don't see that as completely irrational?
Click to expand...

Not really.

Pretty sure his basic viewpoint:

His use out of a $150 joystick: $10

Her use out of a $92 ticket to AC/DC: $150+

Makes sense.
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You're joking, right?

The whole issue was his berating his fiancee about spending money they should be saving for a house.

How does his blowing an additional $200 make any sense?
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Because he made it CLEAR the joystick was not worth $150 to him.

He is going on an assumption as to how much she will appreciate the ticket.

It is a gamble.
 
Originally posted by: Tweak155
Originally posted by: feralkid
Originally posted by: Tweak155
Originally posted by: feralkid
Originally posted by: TrueBlueLS
Originally posted by: feralkid
Huh? You bring her to tears over spending $150, but then you turn right around and blow $200?
Click to expand...

She loves AC/DC and this might be one of their last tours, so at least the memory would be well worth it compared to a fight stick that could break at any point.
Click to expand...

You don't see that as completely irrational?
Click to expand...

Not really.

Pretty sure his basic viewpoint:

His use out of a $150 joystick: $10

Her use out of a $92 ticket to AC/DC: $150+

Makes sense.
Click to expand...



You're joking, right?

The whole issue was his berating his fiancee about spending money they should be saving for a house.

How does his blowing an additional $200 make any sense?
Click to expand...

Because he made it CLEAR the joystick was not worth $150 to him.

He is going on an assumption as to how much she will appreciate the ticket.

It is a gamble.
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It's blowing money.

 
Originally posted by: feralkid

It's blowing money.
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And she OBVIOUSLY didn't get that when she bought the joystick anyway.

It makes sense. Just think about it until it makes sense to you, we don't have to jack the OP's thread.

Simple line of logic (why I think it makes sense):

- OP didn't want to waste money on something he knew he wouldn't appreciate at face value

- GF buys it anyway. (This now disregards OP's desire to NOT blow money)

- OP re-emphasizes that this is a wasted expenditure.

- GF talks him into keeping it. This now removes OP's worry of spending money, as well as her normal penny pinching ways for this occasion.

- OP now feels obligated to return the favor. His original wishes have been overlooked by GF, so now money is not the object anymore - it is the desire to have the other person appreciate the gift.

- OP decides these tickets are the ultimate solution. While he never did (and still doesn't) want to spend money, his GF did not respect/understand this. So he goes against his will to please her.

It really is quite selfless.
 
Originally posted by: Ronstang
You are not going to like what I have to say. She is not going to change concerning these matters. She does not understand financial responsibility and it is not going to get better once you are married. You might have talks with her and she will say and act like she understands and agrees but she will simply revert to her natural ways. Ask and old man how he knows of what he speaks. I have seen this happen not only with my past relationships but with friends' of mine. If you can deal with a lifelong battle over such issues then marry her by all means, if you can't then quite frankly you should go your own way.
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Obligatory armchair marriage counselor ATOT post.
 
? newnameman ? thinks it's cool that because the douchebag couldn't figure out how to clear his cache and he can "time warp" that he has to fuck with the threads titles. Fuck off you douche.
 
Originally posted by: SSSnail
? newnameman ? thinks it's cool that because the douchebag couldn't figure out how to clear his cache and he can "time warp" that he has to fuck with the threads titles. Fuck off you douche.
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Say what? 😉
 
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