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So what would you do in this situation?

imported_DocHolliday

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Didn't proof read this either... so there are probably some errors

About a month ago I was out w/ a couple friends and see a couple girls. The most attractive girl is getting hit on pretty aggressively by one of the guys I'm with. So I just sit back and notice that she just keeps staring at me... Even while he's talking to her. The situation gets pretty uncomfortable and I pull out my phone to make a call. She asks to see my phone and puts her number in it.

At this point I'm like ummmmmmm kay and definitely don't argue about it. To make a long story short he ends up going home and she asks me to go back to her house w/ her (for obvious reasons). The rest is history ;)

So, we talk for another week and one day I call and leave a message and she doesn't call me back? I shrug it off and go about my business. I was out the following week w/ that same friend and he keeps talking about this girl he has and how great she is. It turns out that she was talking to us both at the same time and decided that she wanted to be w/ my friend more than me. I was a bit irritated by the fact that she was talking to him and me at the same time, but no big deal. Well, when he mentioned that it's the same girl I get a sort of odd/surprised look on my face. And he keeps prying and prying why I reacted that way so eventually I tell him what happened and that she was talkign to us both at the same time. After that he says well then I'm just going to tell her off. I think "well that's probably a good idea"

Of course that's not what he does and starts dating her and apparently never brings up the issue about the two guys at one time thing. I guess she left for college this week which is about an 8 hour drive away.

Last night we are out drinking again (she's not there), and the guy says "HEY WE GOT BEEF" which I think sounds retarded, but that's beside the point. I ask what he's talking about and he says "She's not like that, you're lying, I have a good girl!" then proceeds to tell me how he's going to kick my a$s if she denies the story about me and her (which I'm sure she would considering the sort of person she is). I try to calm him down telling him we can talk about it later, outside or whatever, but he continues to try to fight me. I tell him "if you touch me you're going to jail" just to try to get him to think about what he's doing his reply is "fvck it you're talkin sh1t about my girl I'll go to jail I dont' give a fvck." Oh! i forgot to mention he's doing this in front of his boss at his place of employment. His boss now steps in and tells him to go home. At one point during this altercation I told him that I could prove I wasn't lying as well. He wasn't having any of that either.

So, the question is! What would you do in this situation?


Attempt @ cliffs

1. friend hitting on girl
2. girl decides she wants to take me home after he leaves for the night
3. go home w/ girl
4. girl then talks to us both and ends up choosing him
5. he forces me to tell him that I got w/ her the first night they met
6. shrugged it off
7. 'friend' comes back 2 weeks later (last night) claiming that I made it up and he's going to ask her about it. if she denies it then he wants to fight me. (no reasoning w/ him, tried that)
 

Carbo

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I don't have the time to read your post, so I'll wing it and say dump the bitch and take on a gay lover. Am I close?
 

mdchesne

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THATS NOT LONG, fvck cliff notes you lazy SOBs.

here's what you do: show your friend her phone number that (hopefully) is still on your phone

if he doesn't buy it, tell him he's a retard and to have a good life with a whore :)
 

Blieb

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It sounds like he's a chump ... I honestly wouldn't worry about it ... sounds like you should ahve kept your mouth shut, as you weren't that good of friends.

But seriously, I'd let him throw the first punch, then I'd go to work on him. Better start training Rock-o
 

sixone

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Forget about her - she made a choice and it wasn't you. Get over it. Even if she did pick you, she'd probably dump you as soon as she met a new guy, took him home, and tried him out. No great loss.

Stay away from your 'friend'. He's clearly carrying a grudge that you had her first, so he needs some time to learn to live with it. It's going to come up every time he gets drunk, so just steer clear for a while. In any case, when she dumps him, and she surely will, he might change his perspective.
 

imported_DocHolliday

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well I did delete her number, and he does know I had it at one point so that's solved.

and yeah... after that nonsense I'm not going to consider him a friend anymore.

should have kept my mouth shut? yes that would have been a good idea, but people have a way of being persistant.
 

daveymark

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if your cliffs is interesting enough, people will read the whole thing, and then you will get the help you need. Help us help you. :)
 

imported_DocHolliday

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Originally posted by: sixone
Forget about her - she made a choice and it wasn't you. Get over it. Even if she did pick you, she'd probably dump you as soon as she met a new guy, took him home, and tried him out. No great loss.

Stay away from your 'friend'. He's clearly carrying a grudge that you had her first, so he needs some time to learn to live with it. It's going to come up every time he gets drunk, so just steer clear for a while. In any case, when she dumps him, and she surely will, he might change his perspective.


Oh quite over her! no worries there!

I really agree w/ you saying she surely will dump him... especially considering she just want back to college :Q

good advice about staying away... although avoiding will be difficult considering I spend a great deal of time where he works

 

mcvickj

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Originally posted by: DocHolliday
Originally posted by: daveymark
if your cliffs is interesting enough, people will read the whole thing, and then you will get the help you need. Help us help you. :)

okay I'll try on cliffs... ;)

Don't give into the whiners. If they can't read a few words then it is their problem.

I say just avoid him for a few weeks. He will cool off and it will be a thing of the past. With her going to college it sounds like she will do the same thing to him shortly.
 

imported_DocHolliday

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Originally posted by: mcvickj
Originally posted by: DocHolliday
Originally posted by: daveymark
if your cliffs is interesting enough, people will read the whole thing, and then you will get the help you need. Help us help you. :)

okay I'll try on cliffs... ;)

Don't give into the whiners. If they can't read a few words then it is their problem.

I say just avoid him for a few weeks. He will cool off and it will be a thing of the past. With her going to college it sounds like she will do the same thing to him shortly.

doh! too late! made cliffs! but yeah... avoidance as much as possible sounds like the plan
 

PatboyX

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unless she banged you in that "rest is history" night you are probably coming off as a little needy and strange considering. everyone "talks to" more than one person. thats how one goes about dating, getting to know some people and then deciding one of them is working out. its weird and often awkward to acknowledge this which is why so many people tend to just let it slip by as a strange trait of human relationships. and, as you have learned, bringing it up to someone who is now in a relationship with a person who did this in a small enough world that the dude knows can make for some confrontations.
the dude will always pick the chick he is trying to bang or is banging over his friends. she is perfection, you are just a schmuck he has known for a long time.
just dont bring it up to the dude and things will be fine. but he might be one of those "now that i have a chick, i only hang out with her" type of guys.
let him be that. when/if that relationship goes sour, he will still need friends. figure out then if you care or not.

 

Shadowknight

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Originally posted by: PatboyX
unless she banged you in that "rest is history" night you are probably coming off as a little needy and strange considering. everyone "talks to" more than one person. thats how one goes about dating, getting to know some people

QFT. You weren't in an actual relationship, you had just started casual dating, and not much of that. Your buddy, on the other hand, is being a jerk. If he tries to attack you get the cops on him. If he keeps threatening you over something you meant in earnest, he isn't the type of guy you might want to be friends with.