So what should I do? Friend who was house sitting broke a few ground rules.

[RbSX]

Backstory:

Girlfriend's friend was house sitting for me over the last 4 days.

Situation:

I'm not this person's hugest fan, she wouldn't do anything malicious. I, however, strongly dislike her boyfriend and his friends. I brought this up with my girlfriend who suggested that I throw her a bone and take a leap of faith and ask her just to help her out financially and what not.


Issue 1:

The ground rules were very simple, while I was semi-comfortable with her boyfriend staying over, her friends coming over was simply not allowed.

While I was taking the recycling out tonight, I noticed that there was a bottle of vodka, 24 beer cans (of beers that I don't drink so I know they weren't mine), and 2 huge bottles of corona in my glass box.

I'm 99% certain it was her boyfriend and his friends, it's weird enough for him to be sleeping in my bed, it's even weirder for them to be having people over.

Issue 2:

There were some scheduling issues with this girl, she was supposed to go on vacation today but that was canceled, because of that we chose her. Yesterday I got a text saying she was leaving this morning because she had decided to go on vacation, this left our house empty, and our dog alone for 16 hours.

This wouldn't be a huge issue but last year our house was broken into and everything was stolen, hence the reason for someone staying in our house. Her working for us was contingent on her being available for all 4 days.


So.. what now?

What should I do? The obvious thing is to not have her back, that's definitely going to happen.. I don't want her back.

I am yet to pay her so I'm not sure if I should mention anything when I do it, or should I just let it slide.

The house was in decent shape, and my dog isn't dead.. I guess that's one good thing.

Cliffs:

-Took a leap of faith and asked girlfriend's friend to house sit
-Simple ground rules: No boyfriend's friends
-Ground rule broken
-She left a day early

Okay, now what?

 

[Crusty]

I'm lost after the first few sentences. HUH?

 

[brxndxn]

You need a house-sitter for 4 days?

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: brxndxn
You need a house-sitter for 4 days?

Yes, to look after my dog, as well there have been a rash of break ins over the last year.

 

[Wheezer]

Originally posted by: RyanSengara

Originally posted by: brxndxn
You need a house-sitter for 4 days?

Yes, to look after my dog, as well there have been a rash of break ins over the last year.

Get her side of the story, sure...she'll probably bullshit you but at least you gave her a fair chance.

Remind her of what the ground rules were, the ones she violated and remind her that she left before you got back and take it out of her pay accordingly.

 

[jersiq]

Honestly, no amount of chastising will do any good.
Instead, thank her for what she had done, and inform her that she would no longer be asked to house sit for them because of the rules that were broken.
I know it probably pisses you off about what happened, but considering how you felt about it going in, you shouldn't feel the need to berate her.

 

[Bill Brasky]

It's not worth getting in a fight with your GF over. Pay the girl and get better home security or find someone more trustworthy.

If it was your friend, I would definitely bring up your issues, and reduce pay.

 

[Capt Caveman]

Originally posted by: Wheezer

Originally posted by: RyanSengara

Originally posted by: brxndxn
You need a house-sitter for 4 days?

Yes, to look after my dog, as well there have been a rash of break ins over the last year.

Get her side of the story, sure...she'll probably bullshit you but at least you gave her a fair chance.

Remind her of what the ground rules were, the ones she violated and remind her that she left before you got back and take it out of her pay accordingly.

This

 

[rudeguy]

Any chance of working in a 3some with her and your gf?

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: rudeguy
Any chance of working in a 3some with her and your gf?

I am not a huge fan of her roommate, she's got eating problems, if she put on a few pounds maybe.

 

[Freshgeardude]

tell her the dog almost died and you had to take it to the vet for some IV that costed 100 bucks and make her pay for it. after she gives you the money, hand it back and tell her, next time dont break the ground rules or leave my dog alone for 16 hours.

 

[lokiju]

She was supposed to watch the place for 4 days but only watched it for 3. Seems simple enough, pay her no more than 3/4 what you had agreed to.

 

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: RyanSengara
I am yet to pay her so I'm not sure if I should mention anything when I do it, or should I just let it slide.

Tell her you know that people were over because of the bottles, and that the point of having her over was to watch her dog. Then ask her if there is any reason you should pay her anything, and see what she says.

 

[AlienCraft]

:camera:'s of the GF's friend, the errant sitter, or no can tell: 404 not found...

 

[Rike]

Originally posted by: lokiju
She was supposed to watch the place for 4 days but only watched it for 3. Seems simple enough, pay her no more than 3/4 what you had agreed to.

This seems completely logical and fair . . . which is exactly why it will probably piss her off!

 

[gooseman]

I would just be thankful nothing went wrong and go ahead and pay her but I'd let my girlfriend know that you wouldn't be "throwing her anymore bones". It will get back to her.

 

[xanis]

Take that day out of her pay. If she asks why you're paying her less, tell her why, and add in that you could have taken out more for her being a twat and breaking the rules but you're being nice.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

How much were you paying? I missed that part...

 

[KingGheedora]

You have a girlfriend? I may be confusing you with someone else, but I thought you were gay.

I dunno what you can do. You can't punish that girl for any of what she did. Just use someone you trust next time, or leave your house alone and get some automatic lights to make it seem like someone is home?Or improve your security so no one can break in. And then drop the dog ofof with a friend or a dog sitter.

 

[CocoGdog]

At least there were no condom wrappers, ky jelly/lube, etc... all over the house. But - you know that they did it in your house - you know it.

 

[Viper GTS]

I vote just drop the issue. If the only thing you noticed was a few beer bottles no real harm was done.

Just scratch her off the list of future house sitters.

Viper GTS

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: KingGheedora
You have a girlfriend? I may be confusing you with someone else, but I thought you were gay.

I dunno what you can do. You can't punish that girl for any of what she did. Just use someone you trust next time, or leave your house alone and get some automatic lights to make it seem like someone is home?Or improve your security so no one can break in. And then drop the dog ofof with a friend or a dog sitter.

Def. confusing me with someone else.

There's no way of improving the security of our house really, it's almost entirely glass heh.

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
How much were you paying? I missed that part...

$50/day

She works during the day so it's not bad.

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: CocoGdog
At least there were no condom wrappers, ky jelly/lube, etc... all over the house. But - you know that they did it in your house - you know it.

Yes I do which is even weirder.

 

[SlickSnake]

Ask her to sign a release for the video rights.