They're still together, but fighting frequently.
I am taller than he is, but not stronger.
If she doesn't go to prom with him, it means he's not going to prom at all. I don't think he wants to go in the first place. You're right though, there is a slight possibility of that scenerio happening, and that would suck.
Knowing her, if he were to be at prom too for whatever reason, she'd probably try to avoid him and we'd have to play that game all night.
Not very likely at all that he would come, though.
Sigh..... what to do, what to do
I am taller than he is, but not stronger.
If she doesn't go to prom with him, it means he's not going to prom at all. I don't think he wants to go in the first place. You're right though, there is a slight possibility of that scenerio happening, and that would suck.
Knowing her, if he were to be at prom too for whatever reason, she'd probably try to avoid him and we'd have to play that game all night.
Not very likely at all that he would come, though.
Sigh..... what to do, what to do
See let me add another thing...
All of that stuff in my original post about me wanting it to be special, about just her and I and no agenda, etc. ...
It really has to do with the fact that I'd like to show her a really good time, but I can't do that if I feel like I have limits placed on me because she has a boyfriend. (Don't get your minds stuck in the gutter, now) I want to walk with her arm in arm to our limo and be with her all night. But that's overdoing it for two friends. It would be perfect, though, if we were more than friends...
So instead of going to prom and being her "date" sorta kinda, but being limited because she has a boyfriend, I'd rather not go at all or go all out (i.e. hope she breaks up with him.)
All of that stuff in my original post about me wanting it to be special, about just her and I and no agenda, etc. ...
It really has to do with the fact that I'd like to show her a really good time, but I can't do that if I feel like I have limits placed on me because she has a boyfriend. (Don't get your minds stuck in the gutter, now) I want to walk with her arm in arm to our limo and be with her all night. But that's overdoing it for two friends. It would be perfect, though, if we were more than friends...
So instead of going to prom and being her "date" sorta kinda, but being limited because she has a boyfriend, I'd rather not go at all or go all out (i.e. hope she breaks up with him.)
Seize the day sooner.
Why dont you ask her out before the prom?
Maybe if you get in a couple "dates" alone, she might start to think less of you as a friend and more as a "companion"
Edit: I assume you have never hooked up with her and she does not know that you have romantic feelings for her? correct?
Why dont you ask her out before the prom?
Maybe if you get in a couple "dates" alone, she might start to think less of you as a friend and more as a "companion"
Edit: I assume you have never hooked up with her and she does not know that you have romantic feelings for her? correct?
No way. I don't even care if girls are attractive anymore if I don't share anything with them. I went through a phase where I'd always be talking about how hot this girl was and that girl.
But now I'd much, much, much rather spend time with a girl who is just cute and we have chemistry than stare blindly at some babe who bores me to death. In fact I'd rather go to prom with this girl than with anyone else, you name it-- jessica alba, jlo, hmm, I need someone asian for comparison -- sammi cheng?
But now I'd much, much, much rather spend time with a girl who is just cute and we have chemistry than stare blindly at some babe who bores me to death. In fact I'd rather go to prom with this girl than with anyone else, you name it-- jessica alba, jlo, hmm, I need someone asian for comparison -- sammi cheng?
lol, jooksing's right, we're asian and my sister's DA BIATCH Don't get on her bad side!!! Girls, aren't they fun??? On the other hand, some girls do look biatchy, but are quite nice and can be a great company
Don't get on her bad side!!! Girls, aren't they fun??? On the other hand, some girls do look biatchy, but are quite nice and can be a great company hey i was in this same type of situation... i went around telling everyone that i wasnt going to the prom.. then i got asked by a girl who is a friend of mine to go with me, because she had just broken up with her boyfriend.... i told her no, and it turned out ok and she found someone else to go with (it was actually a new boyfriend.... i think it was one of those revenge boyfriends, trying to get the old one pissed... even though it didnt piss him off at all, cause he really didnt care anymore, it worked out for everyone in the end: she had a date, i didnt want to go and didnt have to)
She may already think of me as a companion, I don't know. But it's not like I can ask someone on a date who already has a boyfriend, regardless of how much they might fight.
I do already spend a fair bit of time with her. We'll go out to lunch about once a week (not alone, but with a few others), she's over at my house or calls often. And like I said, we're off to futureshop tomorrow.
Let me share another thing that just came to mind...
One of the problems her boyfriend has with her is that she always wants to do things for him, whereas he'd rather do things for her. (And I see why he's upset-- guys don't like to let girls do things for them, they feel like they have to be the providers.)
So, for example, she wanted to make a picnic for him on his birthday but when he found out, he protested because he didn't want her to go through all of that work.
She talks about this problem a lot. Asks me what I think about it. One night we were working on physics together and there's always something better and something not so good -- she wants me to take the better chair, the better pen, and so on.
And when I said "I'll pick you up at 10 saturday morning" for futureshop, she replied "no, I'll pick YOU up at 10 saturday morning" with a smile. To me, that shows that in her mind she is comparing myself and her boyfriend because I'm willing to let her do those things, even though I have to override every instinct I have with respect to girls.
There's also the possibility that I am reading way too far into that, of course...
I do already spend a fair bit of time with her. We'll go out to lunch about once a week (not alone, but with a few others), she's over at my house or calls often. And like I said, we're off to futureshop tomorrow.
Let me share another thing that just came to mind...
One of the problems her boyfriend has with her is that she always wants to do things for him, whereas he'd rather do things for her. (And I see why he's upset-- guys don't like to let girls do things for them, they feel like they have to be the providers.)
So, for example, she wanted to make a picnic for him on his birthday but when he found out, he protested because he didn't want her to go through all of that work.
She talks about this problem a lot. Asks me what I think about it. One night we were working on physics together and there's always something better and something not so good -- she wants me to take the better chair, the better pen, and so on.
And when I said "I'll pick you up at 10 saturday morning" for futureshop, she replied "no, I'll pick YOU up at 10 saturday morning" with a smile. To me, that shows that in her mind she is comparing myself and her boyfriend because I'm willing to let her do those things, even though I have to override every instinct I have with respect to girls.
There's also the possibility that I am reading way too far into that, of course...
Alphathree33:
Maybe the best solution is talk it out with her. Let her know how you feel and tell her you would respect her choice if she would like to back out on going prom with you. Tell her you have thought about her situation with her bf and where the problems are. Apologize that you betrayed an friendship and it wasnt your intention. Its because she is so special that you just couldnt help yourself and have fallen for her. She may or may not feel the same, but most of the time if you fall for a girl, she will know. Girls have radars.
But if you dont want to ruin her relationship, all I can say is what makes you think you wont be a better bf?
BTW: Some guy fell for my gf the same way. Asked her if she would leave me for him. I can tell you I dont like him very much but I give him respect for asking anway. My Gf is still with me maybe thats why I think he is daring and not as pist off. In the same moment I feel kind of sorry for him too. What does that say about me? nothing. Its just my gf loves me thats all, even if i am nerdy as @#$.
Maybe the best solution is talk it out with her. Let her know how you feel and tell her you would respect her choice if she would like to back out on going prom with you. Tell her you have thought about her situation with her bf and where the problems are. Apologize that you betrayed an friendship and it wasnt your intention. Its because she is so special that you just couldnt help yourself and have fallen for her. She may or may not feel the same, but most of the time if you fall for a girl, she will know. Girls have radars.
But if you dont want to ruin her relationship, all I can say is what makes you think you wont be a better bf?
BTW: Some guy fell for my gf the same way. Asked her if she would leave me for him. I can tell you I dont like him very much but I give him respect for asking anway. My Gf is still with me maybe thats why I think he is daring and not as pist off. In the same moment I feel kind of sorry for him too. What does that say about me? nothing. Its just my gf loves me thats all, even if i am nerdy as @#$.
My prom sucked! But only because I had to go with my GF at the time
I'm not even sure what the question is now....
if it's whether or not you should go, you should go! How many senior proms are you going to have anyways?
I'm not even sure what the question is now....
if it's whether or not you should go, you should go! How many senior proms are you going to have anyways?
Originally posted by: Electric Amish
When I met/was dating my former GF, now wife of 10 years, she had already promised to go to the Senior prom with another guy. She went with him. In the end it all worked out, tho.
amish
Amish, you're my hero.
That's too cool. And no, for all you cynics out there I am not being facetious. On a different note, I'd have to agree that Asian women are on average more manipulative.
-PCM
I bet you're that guy thats the girl is cheating with from the other thread.
That would be kinda funny.
I didn't go to my senior prom. I didn't like most of the people in my class anyway. College is a thousand times better than high school. you just have to find your groove.
That would be kinda funny.
I didn't go to my senior prom. I didn't like most of the people in my class anyway. College is a thousand times better than high school. you just have to find your groove.
MadRat
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If you like to be second place then go to the prom and be the "used" fella. Just remember these quotes:
<<SpecialEd:
"one word: rebound
be careful... you're walking on thin ice with your emotions.">>
and
<<BiGRuk515:
"Here's my input on the girl topic. Don't be the other guy. I dont know the whole siutation so I can't say that my opinion here is right no the money but it seems shes more concerned about going to the prom period than going to the prom with you.">>
and
<<sheselectric:
"If she talks about her b/f constantly forget about it.">>
The overwhelming majority here looks at you as some tender emotional geek who is about to get his heart broken when he goes to prom and finds out that people really do screw each other over trivial matters and in a public forum. Not one single guy hearing about your change of heart prior to prom will be thinking any different when they look at you. They'll be thinking "awwww, poor geek doesn't even have a clue what's going to happen prom night does he?" Not trying to be harsh, just helping you understand you'll lose this one.
<<SpecialEd:
"one word: rebound
be careful... you're walking on thin ice with your emotions.">>
and
<<BiGRuk515:
"Here's my input on the girl topic. Don't be the other guy. I dont know the whole siutation so I can't say that my opinion here is right no the money but it seems shes more concerned about going to the prom period than going to the prom with you.">>
and
<<sheselectric:
"If she talks about her b/f constantly forget about it.">>
The overwhelming majority here looks at you as some tender emotional geek who is about to get his heart broken when he goes to prom and finds out that people really do screw each other over trivial matters and in a public forum. Not one single guy hearing about your change of heart prior to prom will be thinking any different when they look at you. They'll be thinking "awwww, poor geek doesn't even have a clue what's going to happen prom night does he?" Not trying to be harsh, just helping you understand you'll lose this one.
dude, don't think you're qualified either... there are P4 motherboards that support pc100 pc133 SDRAM...ex. Tyan S2090, Supermicro P4SBE, ect. don't make fun of people when you don't know what you're talking about either.
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