So...just how does one go about getting dates?

[Fox5]

Originally posted by: Rogodin2
You ask a women to go kayaking with you.

Rogo

Ah, so you suggest I ask her if she's interested in white water?

 

[Fox5]

Originally posted by: Injury

Originally posted by: Fox5

Originally posted by: Injury
Have you tried just asking a girl out?

Just go to a bar and don't leave until they close or you have a number.

I'm not going to say "lower your standards", but I will say that finding the hottest girl there and only trying for her probably won't work in your favor.

Take a risk and you might find someone you truly do love, rather than someone you'd really just like to bang.

Well, not 21 yet...
And I rarely get names, let alone numbers. I've never asked for either though.

I think we found your problem. Why don't you introduce yourself to girls from now on. As formal as you want. Hold out your hand. That's all it takes. Make some chit chat from there on.

Hi, my name is Fox5.
(she will introduce herself.)
Who ya here with?
-> If she says a guy, there is a 95% chance it's her boyfriend. Make a little more small talk and then move along.)
-> If she says nobody or a couple of friends or something, assume she's single and keep mingling.

General ideas:
-Don't blow your load trying to impress her right off. If she likes you, she likes you. If don't get that impression, then just move on.
-Be interested in what they have to say. Don't just be intrested in trying to get them. Ask questions when they tell you stories to let them know you are paying attention and not just 'in one ear...'
-Make girls feel good about themselves. Don't be a kiss-ass, but if a girl tells you a story, use lines like "Wow, that's pretty sweet." or "Geez, I don't think I could handle that." Picking when to say things like that is the hard part. You don't want to sound like a helpless fool.
-Don't talk about your mom. I love my mom as much as a kid can love his mom... but there is little about my mom that could attract a girl to me.
-Don't bitch about things.
-Smile. Wear a smile even if it's the worst day you've had in months. Even just the slightest of upturned cheeks will do it. Nobody is going to flock to the guy who looks pissed off and depressing.

But the most important thing you need to know is this:
You aren't going to get any girls unless you ask them out. A girl knows within a few minutes of meeting you whether she would date you or not, so if you can't bring yourself to ask for her number after 20-30 minutes of talking to her, you're way behind. Don't wait for a girl to ask you. If you can't ger her number or if she rejects you, then you are no worse off than you were before you walked in the door. So what's your excuse for not trying, huh?

Thanks, yeah, those really do sound like things to keep in mind.
Lol, I wouldn't talk about my mom, my family and I aren't exactly close.
Smiling..is an interesting situation for me. Most of the time I look like I've having the time of my life (which can be a problem on its own if the situation is wrong), but the moment I get bored I look like I'm ready for bed.
Heh, yeah, I guess I should go in with a bit more open mind about the conversation and just try to get to know people and find out what's interesting about them.
The bitching is something I can easily avoid, but when one of my stock topics is school, it tends to always come up that I meet the girl with the 2.5gpa who's absolutely pissed at how hard a course is or how stupid the professor is. I'm really not sure what to respond, since I don't wanna seem like mr. smartypants, but I really don't have any problem with classes, nor do I try to get good grades. (correspondingly, I don't always, but my GPA has been pretty solid right below an A-, not great but better than 99% of the people I meet)

I mainly go to parties to try to get away from school though, so even not trying to pick up girls, it's pretty dumb of me to focus on it in conversations.

OTOH, you're topic selection is dismal. Girls (well most people really) love to talk about themselves, find out what their major is, ask them questions about it, what they like, what sort of classes are, what their future career plans are, etc. Do you go to a big school where sports are on everybody's mind? I've found that most girls are more into sports than guys think they are, or are least educated in what's going on with their university

Small school, mostly commuters. Sports may be a go, but my knowledge of them is poor, and quite a few people at our school have no idea about any of the teams.
Heh, this kind of reminds me of how I used to do it back in high school. I rarely ever told a girl anything about myself, I kept them going just by picking out good questions to ask them, and coming up with clever ways to avoid answers to questions they might not like. (religion, politics, past relationships)