So...i'm leaving my wife after 7 1/2 years...

[Malladine]

My story:

I was 18, she was 44...i from England, her the US.

We talked for 3 months online, met for 2 weeks (vaca type deal), talked for 2 months more online then i moved to the US. We married 5 months later.
This was June of '99.

Long story short, she was controlling and antisocial and as a result i have very few, if any, people who truly care about me, know me...
So it's very scary to think of being alone, with no support.

The easy answer is to GET THE HELL OUT THERE AND MAKE FRIENDS right?
Doesn't make it less scary though.
I guess suck it up, get through the loneliness, make friends and meet people...and avoid older women? lol

I just recently, month and a half ago, met a girl at work who knows i have selfesteem issues, she is helping so much, but i don't want to scare her off with neediness...even though i feel it.

I have no idea what i expect to gain writing this, but maybe it'll help. Worth a damn shot anyway.

 

[shortspanishguy]

Originally posted by: Malladine

I was 18, she was 44.

hmmmmmm

 

[RallyMaster]

I'm calling shens on marrying older woman.

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

she better be hot...

 

[Balt]

So she's 51 or 52 now?

I don't blame you.

 

[Patt]

You don't have to avoid older women ... just those that are more than twice your age!!

<typical>There are many fish in the sea.</typical>

 

[shortspanishguy]

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats
she better be hot...

hmmmmmm

 

[SlowSpyder]

18 and 44? And that didn't work out?

 

[Malladine]

hmmm is right. But it's true. All too true.

Not gonna get into all our problems, it's done. I just want to move on.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

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- M4H

 

[swtethan]

why such a big age gap?

 

[Cruisin1]

WTF?! 18 and 44?! Is she at least rich?

 

[Aikouka]

What made you take up a long distance relationship with a woman who's old enough to be your mother? Not trying to be mean about it, but that really puts the age difference in check.

 

[dirtylimey]

On the plus side, if you just wait it out for a few more years she will be dead and you can inherit her fortune. That is why you married her... right? For the fortune?

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

LOL at everyone's reluctance to demand pics. :laugh:

TT may have value WP

 

[jhayx7]

Talking about it is a good step. Why not go sign up for a new hobby? That way you can meet some new people and get to learn something new.

 

[Patt]

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
LOL at everyone's reluctance to demand pics. :laugh:

 

[Malladine]

What made me do it?

I was shy around chicks, somewhat reclusive and didn't get along with my mother. She was depressed.

We clicked online, which i'm sure everyone here can appreciate?, and it went from there.
We both disregarded the age difference, after much discussion.

 

[So]

<backs out of thread slowly>

 

[Malladine]

lol, no, no fortune. Money wasn't an issue. I did love her for the first few years. The rest i was pretty much staying with her because i was scared, i felt obligated for several reasons, and i'm stubborn.

 

[Malladine]

a new hobby is a good idea...

 

[GuitarDaddy]

TTIWWP

 

[Malladine]

what? oh, this thread is worthless without pics?

Well...why? She's 52, she is a bit saggy, tall, i mean, it's not about her. She's out of it now

I'm...fine with my looks

 

[HannibalX]

Sounds like you wanted a mother and then grew up and didn't want a mother anymore.

 

[RallyMaster]

I'm guessing you found at the end that she was your REAL mother? Beginning to sound like Oedipus here...