so if a girl doesn't return your phone call and doesn't reply to your message

[PeeluckyDuckee]

Have you been reading my autobiography? lol

It's one of the worst feelings in the world (ok maybe a slight exaggeration) when you care about someone and to have them treat you this way. In my case I sent a txt message, no reply. Email, no reply. Thought to myself she may have somehow missed it. Then called and left a voicemail a few months later. Same thing, no reply. I'm done. Finally woke up and realised the answer I got was the answer I didn't want to believe all along.

If you tell me we're still friends then all of a sudden pull this on me, I guess I wasn't surprised, but just disappointed by the way she handled things. Could've been straight up with me if she didn't feel like being friends no more and just tell me and I would've respected her wishes.

I know when I'm not wanted and have become more aware as to my whereabouts and when, to save her the grief on the off chance she might run into me. I'll take on that burden since I created the situation I guess. What sucks is we like to go to many of the same places around town. Now I'm like a vampire, only going out late at nights. *sigh*

I give you the same advice others have given me, move on.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

duh



what would YOU do if you were interested in a girl that called you?
what would YOU do if a girl you werent interested keep contacting you?

figure out the answers to those questions and it should be clear

 

[irishScott]

Just give her the link to the vagina power videos.

 

[erikistired]

you might be a stalker if...

 

[Xstatic1]

her responding doesn't necessarily mean she's not interested BUT don't call or leave another message, wait for her to reply. if she doesn't ever get back to ya, then she's obviously not interested. if she does get around to responding & what she says sound fishy, then she could be toying with ya.

 

[Farang]

You need a shrub costume and night vision goggles immediately.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: fritolays
is it a sure sign that she isn't interested?
and that I need to stop wasting time thinking about her?

I only sent one of each but neither were replied to

hello? anybody home? the answer to your question is quite obvious.

 

[RaynorWolfcastle]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: fritolays
is it a sure sign that she isn't interested?
and that I need to stop wasting time thinking about her?

I only sent one of each but neither were replied to

hello? anybody home? the answer to your question is quite obvious.

And that answer is that you haven't left nearly enough messages. If her voicemail can still accept more messages, you haven't left enough of them yet

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: RaynorWolfcastle

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: fritolays
is it a sure sign that she isn't interested?
and that I need to stop wasting time thinking about her?

I only sent one of each but neither were replied to

hello? anybody home? the answer to your question is quite obvious.

And that answer is that you haven't left nearly enough messages. If her voicemail can still accept more messages, you haven't left enough of them yet

ummm.... no. that would be a huge turnoff.

 

[RaynorWolfcastle]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: RaynorWolfcastle

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: fritolays
is it a sure sign that she isn't interested?
and that I need to stop wasting time thinking about her?

I only sent one of each but neither were replied to

hello? anybody home? the answer to your question is quite obvious.

And that answer is that you haven't left nearly enough messages. If her voicemail can still accept more messages, you haven't left enough of them yet

ummm.... no. that would be a huge turnoff.

Nonsense, girls love the attention.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: RaynorWolfcastle

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: RaynorWolfcastle

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: fritolays
is it a sure sign that she isn't interested?
and that I need to stop wasting time thinking about her?

I only sent one of each but neither were replied to

hello? anybody home? the answer to your question is quite obvious.

And that answer is that you haven't left nearly enough messages. If her voicemail can still accept more messages, you haven't left enough of them yet

ummm.... no. that would be a huge turnoff.

Nonsense, girls love the attention.

I'm telling you that would sound desperate, and any one who isn't desperate doesn't want desperate.

 

[RaynorWolfcastle]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: RaynorWolfcastle

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: RaynorWolfcastle

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: fritolays
is it a sure sign that she isn't interested?
and that I need to stop wasting time thinking about her?

I only sent one of each but neither were replied to

hello? anybody home? the answer to your question is quite obvious.

And that answer is that you haven't left nearly enough messages. If her voicemail can still accept more messages, you haven't left enough of them yet

ummm.... no. that would be a huge turnoff.

Nonsense, girls love the attention.

I'm telling you that would sound desperate, and any one who isn't desperate doesn't want desperate.

*taps mosh's sarcasm-meter* I think you need to change those batteries

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: RaynorWolfcastle

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: fritolays
is it a sure sign that she isn't interested?
and that I need to stop wasting time thinking about her?

I only sent one of each but neither were replied to

hello? anybody home? the answer to your question is quite obvious.

And that answer is that you haven't left nearly enough messages. If her voicemail can still accept more messages, you haven't left enough of them yet

ummm.... no. that would be a huge turnoff.

Nonsense, girls love the attention.[/quote]
I'm telling you that would sound desperate, and any one who isn't desperate doesn't want desperate.[/quote]
*taps mosh's sarcasm-meter* I think you need to change those batteries [/quote]
doh!

 

[b0mbrman]

Originally posted by: fritolays

so if a girl doesn't return your phone call and doesn't reply to your message

...then leave her alone.

She has your contact information, so if she becomes interested, she knows how to reach you

In fact, that should have become your policy seconds after leaving the first two messages. Call and email, then put her out of your mind.

 

[mooglemania85]

i don't think picking some random girl's # from the phone book is the best way to meet women. just my 2 cents, though.

 

[DarkThinker]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: RaynorWolfcastle

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: fritolays
is it a sure sign that she isn't interested?
and that I need to stop wasting time thinking about her?

I only sent one of each but neither were replied to

hello? anybody home? the answer to your question is quite obvious.

And that answer is that you haven't left nearly enough messages. If her voicemail can still accept more messages, you haven't left enough of them yet

ummm.... no. that would be a huge turnoff.

Nonsense, girls love the attention.

I'm telling you that would sound desperate, and any one who isn't desperate doesn't want desperate.[/quote]
*taps mosh's sarcasm-meter* I think you need to change those batteries [/quote]
doh! [/quote]

Jeez mosh!

 

[MisterJackson]

She's just playing hard to get dude.....persistance is your friend.

I'd show up at her job just incase she lost her phone and has no internet access.

If she happens to hit you with a restraining order, just remember, there are plenty of stalkees in the sea!


Seriously dude, all guys go through this to SOME degree or nother at some point in our lives. You'll look back on this years from now and laugh about how you sweated something so stupid.

The key to dealing with girls is to seriously not give fvck (sorry Mosh, but you know it's true). Be mysterious. Calling over and over is the exact opposite, she knows she's got you if she wants you. And she very likely won't want you if she knows she can have you.

I say from this point forward you MIGHT be able to salvage some face if you NEVER try to contact her again. Even if she calls back, play like it's no big deal and watch her show much more interest.

The sad thing about this is you can get exactly what you want by doing the exact opposite of what you're doing now.....it just takes awhile to learn that.

 

[nonameo]

Dude, leave at her door a box of condoms in a baby basket with a note that says "We COULD have been using these... but noooooooo..........."

That is sure to win her over.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
She's just playing hard to get dude.....persistance is your friend.

I'd show up at her job just incase she lost her phone and has no internet access.

If she happens to hit you with a restraining order, just remember, there are plenty of stalkees in the sea!


Seriously dude, all guys go through this to SOME degree or nother at some point in our lives. You'll look back on this years from now and laugh about how you sweated something so stupid.

The key to dealing with girls is to seriously not give fvck (sorry Mosh, but you know it's true). Be mysterious. Calling over and over is the exact opposite, she knows she's got you if she wants you. And she very likely won't want you if she knows she can have you.

I say from this point forward you MIGHT be able to salvage some face if you NEVER try to contact her again. Even if she calls back, play like it's no big deal and watch her show much more interest.

The sad thing about this is you can get exactly what you want by doing the exact opposite of what you're doing now.....it just takes awhile to learn that.

seriously, i agree. showing too much attention is not the way to go. absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that.

i once had a guy ignore me, and it made me want him so much more.

 

[DarkThinker]

LOL, I just remembered my ordeal long long time ago with an ex-co-worker, we played a little game of what I like call Cold War.
I showed some interest in her by asking her out for a cop of joe a couple of times, she thought she was all high and mighty, after that I tried getting in touch with her a couple of times by phone (without leaving her a message) in order to setup a real date somewhere nice, and I was expecting a call back in no time. 3 days passed she didn't call me back.

First time I called her and thought I would get a call back soon but that didn't happen. Next time I called again after like 3 days because I started having doubt that maybe she wasn't OK or something happened to her, I called I got nothing but a ringing tone and then the automatic voice mail. I hanged up, and then waited like 30 minutes and called her from a pave phone, she answered immediately I said nothing and hanged up and moved along and scratched that attention whore of my mind and I am pretty sure she realized after I hanged up that it was me and that she just screwed herself bigtime!

Poor thing was so stupid, after half a year passed of my last attempt at contacting her, she sends me an SMS, saying that she is sorry of not being able to contact me back (she made it sound as if she wasn't able as opposed not willing to contact me back).
She didn't even have the courage to call me up and apologize.
Fast forward a couple of months after that, I am walking into my university's book store and then guess who the fvck I see standing in line? Ya it's that dipshit bitch, I was walking in and she was standing in line to pay for her books. Man she spotted me and her face turned pale! She found her self so embarrassed she didn't know what to do or say she fcking froze in there with not even her eyes blinking! Not so tough when not hiding behind your cell phone and messages bitch!

I just walked calmly and slowly by her while giving her a cold up and down look without acknowledging her, I was really filled with disgust when I saw her and I just kept walking to the back of the store, I would say she pissed herself that day big time.

These techniques of ignoring people only work on stupid people that have no dignity, people like that had they been in my place would have returned her SMS with a phone call or something.

I left her hanging just like she did to me, and I didn't reply to her or anything, ended up winning the Cold War big time

 

[PeeluckyDuckee]

Originally posted by: DarkThinker
LOL, I just remembered my ordeal long long time ago with an ex-co-worker, we played a little game of what I like call Cold War.
I showed some interest in her by asking her out for a cop of joe a couple of times, she thought she was all high and mighty, after that I tried getting in touch with her a couple of times by phone (without leaving her a message) in order to setup a real date somewhere nice, and I was expecting a call back in no time. 3 days passed she didn't call me back.

First time I called her and thought I would get a call back soon but that didn't happen. Next time I called again after like 3 days because I started having doubt that maybe she wasn't OK or something happened to her, I called I got nothing but a ringing tone and then the automatic voice mail. I hanged up, and then waited like 30 minutes and called her from a pave phone, she answered immediately I said nothing and hanged up and moved along and scratched that attention whore of my mind and I am pretty sure she realized after I hanged up that it was me and that she just screwed herself bigtime!

Poor thing was so stupid, after half a year passed of my last attempt at contacting her, she sends me an SMS, saying that she is sorry of not being able to contact me back (she made it sound as if she wasn't able as opposed not willing to contact me back).
She didn't even have the courage to call me up and apologize.
Fast forward a couple of months after that, I am walking into my university's book store and then guess who the fvck I see standing in line? Ya it's that dipshit bitch, I was walking in and she was standing in line to pay for her books. Man she spotted me and her face turned pale! She found her self so embarrassed she didn't know what to do or say she fcking froze in there with not even her eyes blinking! Not so tough when not hiding behind your cell phone and messages bitch!

I just walked calmly and slowly by her while giving her a cold up and down look without acknowledging her, I was really filled with disgust when I saw her and I just kept walking to the back of the store, I would say she pissed herself that day big time.

These techniques of ignoring people only work on stupid people that have no dignity, people like that had they been in my place would have returned her SMS with a phone call or something.

I left her hanging just like she did to me, and I didn't reply to her or anything, ended up winning the Cold War big time

I really don't understand why grown up adults play these stupid games of ignoring people simply cause they can doesn't make it right. It's a cop out, imo. Then have to worry about running into them later on in life. How about growing some balls and telling him/her straight up what's on your mind how you want things to be or not to be, instead of dicking around treating people with such disrespect and such hurtful manner.

 

[eleison]

Originally posted by: PeeluckyDuckee



I really don't understand why grown up adults play these stupid games of ignoring people simply cause they can doesn't make it right. It's a cop out, imo. Then have to worry about running into them later on in life. How about growing some balls and telling him/her straight up what's on your mind how you want things to be or not to be, instead of dicking around treating people with such disrespect and such hurtful manner.

What was on his mind was the following:

"Yo biatch.. when didn't you call me.. freakin hole... i though we werz tight... like boyfriend girlfriend... but you were just playing"...

In this case, not saying anything and ignoring is probably the best choice out of the two. The more mature thing to do is to just say hi... do some small talk and walk away... after all, even if a girl dissed you, it doesn't mean you have to act rude. Yea, she dissed you... but these things happen.. be the bigger person. them being rude does not mean you should be to.

 

[DarkThinker]

Originally posted by: eleison

Originally posted by: PeeluckyDuckee



I really don't understand why grown up adults play these stupid games of ignoring people simply cause they can doesn't make it right. It's a cop out, imo. Then have to worry about running into them later on in life. How about growing some balls and telling him/her straight up what's on your mind how you want things to be or not to be, instead of dicking around treating people with such disrespect and such hurtful manner.

What was on his mind was the following:

"Yo biatch.. when didn't you call me.. freakin hole... i though we werz tight... like boyfriend girlfriend... but you were just playing"...

In this case, not saying anything and ignoring is probably the best choice out of the two. The more mature thing to do is to just say hi... do some small talk and walk away... after all, even if a girl dissed you, it doesn't mean you have to act rude. Yea, she dissed you... but these things happen.. be the bigger person. them being rude does not mean you should be to.

Man you have no clue, a girl like that works as an amplifier you give her a small signal at the input and then you end up with ass loads of a signal at the output.
Had I talked to her at the bookstore I would then trying to be polite, what she would think is:

"ZOMG!!!! He still likes me BIG TIME, oh man he was dying for this opportunity, God am I one lucky bitch hehe, I am so cute he can't control himself, oh man I will have him kissing my ass and buying me expensive gifts in no time, I better call my girlfriend and stand by for instructionZzzz!!"

 

[PeeluckyDuckee]

Originally posted by: eleison

Originally posted by: PeeluckyDuckee



I really don't understand why grown up adults play these stupid games of ignoring people simply cause they can doesn't make it right. It's a cop out, imo. Then have to worry about running into them later on in life. How about growing some balls and telling him/her straight up what's on your mind how you want things to be or not to be, instead of dicking around treating people with such disrespect and such hurtful manner.

What was on his mind was the following:

"Yo biatch.. when didn't you call me.. freakin hole... i though we werz tight... like boyfriend girlfriend... but you were just playing"...

In this case, not saying anything and ignoring is probably the best choice out of the two. The more mature thing to do is to just say hi... do some small talk and walk away... after all, even if a girl dissed you, it doesn't mean you have to act rude. Yea, she dissed you... but these things happen.. be the bigger person. them being rude does not mean you should be to.

My bad, I was actually referring to the girl who started all this.

 

[Bill Brasky]

Tomorrow is Friday night. Go out and find another girl.