About 7 months ago I moved into a basement suite with a guy already living there. We shared a few mutual friends, and the living situation (space, cost, etc) was pretty ideal. So far living together has basically been pain free, with one major exception.
His effing girlfriend.
This guy has been dating this girl for almost 3 years, he doesn't want to move in with her, but seems to have her over every night. It's become so ridiculous that instead of buying a new 46" plasma for the living room, which I would never get to use, I instead settled for a smaller 27" that I could put on my desk.
The situation is this. I feel that while they spend a lot of the time just hanging out in his room, I feel like it really encroaches on my ability to enjoy myself. Sometimes, they dominate the living room and the TV, other times she will come over and take a shower (IMHO, you don't live somewhere, you don't take a shower, you can go home and do that). Sometimes, I'm relegated into my bedroom because I feel like a third wheel, and a person should never feel like a third wheel in their own house. Did I mention I think she has a key when her name isn't on the lease?
Now I get it, if I don't want to deal with these problems, don't have a roommate. I agree. However, to a certain extent I feel that they are being really discourteous. If they want to spend this much time together (and there are spans where she will spend several nights in a row here), they should grow up and move out together.
I've brought this up with kit gloves with my roommate before, and simply asked him to let me know when she's coming over. That way, I will know to leave the house, or come up with something to do that doesn't require being in the living room or what not. So far, this hasn't happened, and I'm really starting to get pissed off. A few times, I haven't known that she's here and late at night or early in the morning I'll get out of the shower in my towel, or be walking around in my boxers to grab something, and I'll walk out and she will be here. It's getting super uncomfortable.
I really don't want to have to be an asshole, I think my roommate is a really cool guy, however I think that to a certain degree they are really crossing the line here.
Any suggestions?
His effing girlfriend.
This guy has been dating this girl for almost 3 years, he doesn't want to move in with her, but seems to have her over every night. It's become so ridiculous that instead of buying a new 46" plasma for the living room, which I would never get to use, I instead settled for a smaller 27" that I could put on my desk.
The situation is this. I feel that while they spend a lot of the time just hanging out in his room, I feel like it really encroaches on my ability to enjoy myself. Sometimes, they dominate the living room and the TV, other times she will come over and take a shower (IMHO, you don't live somewhere, you don't take a shower, you can go home and do that). Sometimes, I'm relegated into my bedroom because I feel like a third wheel, and a person should never feel like a third wheel in their own house. Did I mention I think she has a key when her name isn't on the lease?
Now I get it, if I don't want to deal with these problems, don't have a roommate. I agree. However, to a certain extent I feel that they are being really discourteous. If they want to spend this much time together (and there are spans where she will spend several nights in a row here), they should grow up and move out together.
I've brought this up with kit gloves with my roommate before, and simply asked him to let me know when she's coming over. That way, I will know to leave the house, or come up with something to do that doesn't require being in the living room or what not. So far, this hasn't happened, and I'm really starting to get pissed off. A few times, I haven't known that she's here and late at night or early in the morning I'll get out of the shower in my towel, or be walking around in my boxers to grab something, and I'll walk out and she will be here. It's getting super uncomfortable.
I really don't want to have to be an asshole, I think my roommate is a really cool guy, however I think that to a certain degree they are really crossing the line here.
Any suggestions?
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