So I just broke up with my GF of 4 years..

[Fearlss1]

Danny I had the same feelings you have..
I broke up with her,, But alwasy thought of her.. I woudl go out with other women and still just think of HER
so finally after the dreams and long sweaty nites up all alone. I finally broke down and called her..
we hung out of a few days and everything seemed fixed.. Nothing was right about this relationship.. My parents hated her, she belived in everything I didnt.. She thought and acted out life in everyway that I didnt.. we had some things in common but nothign great enuff to hold us together..
Of course I THOUGHT I Loved her.. But it was only lust...
so back to my story.. i threw everything away for this girl. all my friends etc,...
well after trying to bring the flame back I realized exaclty what drove me away from her in the first place.
"NO AMBITION" she didnt want to be anything, she wanted to be taken care of,, a pocket golpher as you could call her I guess..
Anyway as my fatehr told me " A cheetah never changes it's spots" so I had to learn the hard way.. But soon danny and LordZero your feelings will soon go away. all you hae to do is wait and let a better butterfly comes to you..
I hope this helps.. It even helps me to talk about it on here,

-=\nate/=-

sorry about the typos I am headed out the door to go on a service call..
bbl with more info heheh
I love this board sometimes,...

 

[hungrypete]

go out and party. Stay away from 'her crowd'. Find some chick whos not gonna give you any diseases but and that you can just have casual sex with. Chicks are suckers for 'freshly broken' men. Use this to your advantage, better things are right around the corner. I'm about to have to do what you are doing now, my relationship is going down the tube, I just can't forgive her for getting drunk and kissing some pimp-wannabe mofo whos gonna get his ass stomped hard next time I see him (he's avoided me for 3 months, I've stalked his ass):|

Better things are right around the corner! Don't look back!

 

[amnesiac]

LordJezo..

Last august I broke up with my g/f of 3.5 years (totally my fault).

It took me about a year to get over it. Seriously. I jumped into 2 relationships immediately after the breakup, and both of them were NOT something I'd want to go through again. Rebound relationships are horrible horrible things and should be avoided at all costs.

Like these guys have been saying, spend more time with your friends. Don't find solace in drinking or feeling sorry for yourself. It won't work. Go work out, do some self-improvement. Having this alone time can be extremely beneficial if you use it correctly.



Fearlss1 - I thought the same thing too about meeting girls only when you're already dating..
The main culprit? When you're in a relationship you're more secure about yourself and carry yourself differently whether you notice it or not. The girls definitely notice.
My secret? Just STOP CARING about meeting women. You'll find plenty when you're not looking. Trust me.

 

[Fearlss1]

BACK from my service call and
amnesiac 2.0
EXACTLY...
You may not notice the difference when you are with someone but everyone else does..
Its like
WHOA that guy/girl is happy I want that..
Look at ehr over there all content byherself... etc etc,,
Women/men strive fir things they cant get or want..
heheh dont forget about beer goggles... you take home a 10 you wake up with a 2


Man you gotta check them out sober and in the light.. the dark hides a lot of things.. Becareful you might leave the club with a SEA DONKEY
-=\nate/=-

 

[Fearlss1]

HOLY POOP...
FInally made it to GOLDEN MEMBER> and no one congratted me
=0

way to go NATE w00t

lmao
-=\nate/=-

 

[reitz]

Time heals all wounds, but beer and strippers will definitely make the wait less painful.

 

[GL]

Use this as motivation to better yourself. Go get fit, pick up a new hobby, or excel in school/work. These are all things that will make you feel better inside and make you self sufficient after being dependent on somebody else for happiness. Plus, it makes it easier down the road to meet an even better woman.

 

[DDCSpeed]

if you got into a new relationship then you will forget your ex..(you have to admit that she is now)

if you really cant get over her...i suggest you try to get back with her...

else you will be like me...reminiscing the old time....

BTW i broke up with gf of 1 yera and still feeling the effects of it but now we just friends.

BTW good luck

 

[LordJezo]

Congrats Fearlss1


As for everything else.. I really just need to be single. It has been way too long for me and I forget what it feels like. I havent been able to go out and attempt to hit on a new girl for years (at least with out feeling quilty about it). I really dont know what to expect either. I just plan on spending the next few days around lots of friends and trying to have a real good time. I still can't make my mind understand that it is over. I feel like I can just go see her and everything will be okay.

We just had a phone talk.. she told me not to call her for a few days as she tries to get me in her mind as a friend in stead of more...


This is going to be hard..

 

[Daniel]

Awhile back I had a very messy breakup with a gf of 4.5 years, its true it takes a long time, and if you want to really get over her it takes a really long time, it's lonely, it's painful but you have to do it.
And like some others said, don't just jump right into a relationship with someone else trying to foget everything, you will just have the same problems, take time, work out the issues in your own head and make damn sure you are ok with yourself before you go involving someone else in your life.

 

[GL]

If I might add some more advice (I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years earlier this year), if you feel stressed out over school or something very important, try to ease your workload a bit. It was hard enough for me trying to do my CS courses this past year let alone having the burden of dealing with a nasty breakup. In hindsight I should have dropped a couple of courses, but I didn't and my overal grades suffered. If you're at work, maybe it's time to take a couple of vacation days here and there and do something fun like travel to another city to meet with long distance friends or close family members.

Also, as far as coping goes, just surround yourself with friends to the point where you almost feel guilty for doing so. Trust me, one day they will need you there for them too and you can pay them back, but now's time to re-focus yourself on the people who have mattered in your life and who will continue to matter in your life.

And definitely think about doing some physical activity. It's a great outlet to vent the anger you'll build up and you'll naturally feel better because of the endorphins released. Not to mention you'll look better when you're ready to start dating again

As was already mentioned, the only constant in the equation of getting over a loved one is time. Believe it or not, but eventually this will merely be a footnote in your life even though it now feels like the climax.

 

[Jfur]

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You better believe it... :disgust:

 

[LordJezo]

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And it sucks.. while you are with them the women flow.. when you are single it becomes a drought,