So I just broke up with my GF of 4 years..

[LordJezo]

Anyone want to give me some advice in what to do now?

Anyone?

 

[yobarman]

The time of getting over a relationship is half of the time of the actual relationship.

Nothing gets you over quick like the next.

 

[DannyLove]

ummm, try to get rid of anything or everything that reminds you of her.

btw: how exactly did it end if you dont mind me asking, but it can help in getting over her

and before thereds says it: pics?

danny~!

 

[LordJezo]

How did I end it? Well, things have been getting worse and worse as the days have gone on... I cpuldnt bare it any longer. Ended it after a long conversation......




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and before thereds says it: pics?
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Blah

 

[EagleKeeper]

Do not jump into another relationship until you are "sober".

Learn from what went right and wrong in the last one.

 

[Fearlss1]

I went through the same thing.. I have had 3 long relationships..
Dont go out looking for a new woman. Just go out hang out with friends.. Dont get drunk and start talking about her.. 99% of wanting an old gf back is the sex,, PResuming you 2 had sex..
No matter how great it was there is always someone in the same room better. Get rid of everything that reminds you of her.. pics, cards, letters, etc etc...
Dont call her.. dont talk to her when she calls you.. Dont drive by her house or work to see if shes there...
Nothing of the sort.. Just go out and start hanging out with females friends.. I actually found out that this method helps the most..
Oh yeah and BTW...
Dont date someone that has the same qualities that your last gf has.. or else you will be in the same situation...
-hope this helps.. best of luck-

Only time will heal your wounds
-=\nate/=-

 

[thereds]

danny, what are these 'pics' you speak of?

 

[CaseTragedy]

I went through the same thing when I started college. Got dumped by my g/f of 4 years.
My schoolwork suffered. Don't let that happen to you.

Find comfort in your friends and spend more time with them to let it pass.

 

[Bleep]

I would like to say count your blessings. No alamony no child support and no more (if you really love me you will ------------insert statement here. Do not think of any of the good things about this relationship only remember and think about the bad things. You will find that there are more bad things than good things or you would still be together.
Bleep

 

[Dood]

4 yrs seems kinda young...

 

[rml]

We have seen so many divoice, breakup here in this forums. Let's spend more time with our other half and with our children (if you have any) to prevent this happening. I spent a lot less time now

 

[DannyLove]

Fearlss1: damn, that was excellent advise. as you read that i noticed that i still do things to remember my other gf that i had. i thought i got over her, but no, i haven't. she was too......... beautiful to forget. sorry thereds, i have no pic of thisone/.

danny~!

 

[LordJezo]

<< I went through the same thing.. I have had 3 long relationships..
Dont go out looking for a new woman. Just go out hang out with friends.. Dont get drunk and start talking about her.. 99% of wanting an old gf back is the sex,, PResuming you 2 had sex..
Only time will heal your wounds
-=\nate/=- >>



But that other 1% is so painful...


Thanks guys for showing support....

 

[SSERAB]

hmmmmmmm maybe bang lots of other chicks and never ever go back, you'll wind up married like me hehehehehehe.

 

[Nitemare]

Best thing to do is cut her out of your life for now until you can deal with it. Get rid of her pictures, stash em somewhere if you want, but don't look at them.
Don't get drunk alone.(especially on anandtech..hehe, you might get banned)

Surround yourself with your buds and try to avoid doing the things that you did together..

and go out on a major boinking-spree too. You have to make littleJezo happy too.

 

Go out and spend a lot of money on yourself.
Then go out with all your manly man friends and get wasted.
Spew to them all yoru secrets about women.

 

[Fearlss1]

DannyLove

whoa thnx this is the first time I belive you have ever even referred to any of my post.. I am actually seriously glad... I usually have nothing important to say, nor any good advice, but when it come to women I am usually pretty good with reasoning and how they(most women) think.. and at times I have some valuable info..

LordZer0
But that other 1% is so painful...

why yes it is, but this is where you have to realize.. Sex can only hold a relationship together so long. then you have nothing at all, same as beauty, body, etc etc..
If you like all men, enjoy sex, realize the reason the sex was so good/special/perfect between you 2 was because of the time you spent learning about each other, and you obviously found her attractive.. You and her both knew exactly what you liked/how you liked it. You 2 basically trained each other to your own likes..
This will come again with another woman whom you spend that much time with

-=\nate/=-

 

[mdennison]

Congratulations! It took me about a year of hating my ex before our 3 year relationship ended. Oh well....Go get some!

 

[Kelvrick]

<< Go out and spend a lot of money on yourself.
Then go out with all your manly man friends and get wasted.
Spew to them all yoru secrets about women. >>



But manly man friends don't need secrets about women. Unless you mean, unmanly man friends...

 

[TheBlondOne]

Pretty much, it'll all be ok....after awhile. Unlike everybody else, I think it sucks to get rid of everything that reminds you of a person. Obviously she was (is) special to you, so I would recommend keeping that stuff. But DO go out with friends, DO put yourself into your work, etc. Get your mind off of her for awhile.

My theory has always been, when a good relationship ends, a better one will come along sooner or later. You just have to give it time. And just when you thought it couldn't happen, someone even better for you will come into your life.

 

[DannyLove]

Fearlss1: well, the reason i commended your advise is because it brought back so many memories of my old gf. its been 2 years since the breakup and i still think about it. I know i should take your advise and move on, but something isnt allowing me too. i too have extensive knowledge of the things we call "women" but this one is bothering me a bit. i've been having weird dreams of her. urg. it seems like unfinished business sometimes and as i try to contact her (as you requested not to) i get nothing.

i have to get over her. seriously. its hard though. really is for me.

danny~!

 

[iamshady]

Hey, we saw that pic before... sorry to hear about it though

 

[Fearlss1]

OK lordzero and anyone tell me this isnt true..
Why is it you meet many girls you who date when you are with someone..
Why is it when you are single you never meet anyone...(in a sense)
Is it b/c woman like men who are taken? hehe no but taken women are nice
or is it because you have a total different attiude when you go out, b/c you not out hounding the hunnies like all the other guys,???

TheblondeOne is mostly right I agree. But if you want to get your mind off of her get the stuff that reminds you of her out of your site possibly even at a friends house if you think you may want it one day,,
But then if you do keep it what are you going to do with it show your new girl friends?


Here is something I took out of one of my other threads
My lesson in most situations
"dont fix it if it aint broke" "Dont try and make it something its not" and last "Dont ever put in more than you getting back"
-=\nate/=-

 

[vash]

Find some ladies looking for booty, that'll help a feel better.

Always worked for me, at least.

vash

 

<< But manly man friends don't need secrets about women. Unless you mean, unmanly man friends... >>



Well not secrets, but a B!itch session about women.