So, I have a friend who is a total loser...

[JulesMaximus]

This guy is a guy I was close friends with in high school many years ago. He was pretty weird back then but I liked him. Anyway, his family moved far away after he graduated high school and I never really saw him again after that. A phone call once every few years and an email once every few years lately. Then recently he unloads a sh!t storm of a life story on me. He's been on drugs, alcohol, contemplated suicide and gone from one friend/loved one to another and been kicked to the curb. It's a sad pathetic story and quite frankly I don't want to get involved.

He sent me an email this week saying he'd like to end up in San Diego (his wife kicked him to the curb and he's moving back to the states-I have no idea why...but I can guess). I haven't responded to his email and I have no intention of doing so. If he dies I will feel bad but ultimately it is his life and I'm not going to be one of the people he uses on his self destructive journey... I feel bad but there really isn't anything I can do. He needs to help himself.

I guess I know what to do...I've already done it.

 

[JulesMaximus]

This is not a parody thread...

 

[n7]

People need to take responsibility for their own actions...

Looks like he's learning that the hard way.

 

[Chompman]

Show him video games and the internet to make him less of a loser... wait a second.

 

[cherrytwist]

:beer:

 

[EKKC]

i have (had?) a friend like that too. the last time we exchanged email and he told me how he's sad and contemplated suicide. he graduated and couldnt find a good job, etc. i dont like people who bitches too much, your life is yours and only you ave control over it. if it sucks, do something about it, dont bitch. if you think you had it bad, think about all those people in africa where their very existence is a challenge. i seriously can't stand people who think about ending their own lives and no respect for those who actually do it.

him and i also have anoher who complains way too much. i lost contact with them the past year, they dont even come on to AIM no more, the only way i stay in touch with most of my HS and college friends, i would love to know how they are now, but i probably wont want to talk to them if they are still that way

 

[Zim Hosein]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
This guy is a guy I was close friends with in high school many years ago. He was pretty weird back then but I liked him. Anyway, his family moved far away after he graduated high school and I never really saw him again after that. A phone call once every few years and an email once every few years lately. Then recently he unloads a sh!t storm of a life story on me. He's been on drugs, alcohol, contemplated suicide and gone from one friend/loved one to another and been kicked to the curb. It's a sad pathetic story and quite frankly I don't want to get involved.

He sent me an email this week saying he'd like to end up in San Diego (his wife kicked him to the curb and he's moving back to the states-I have no idea why...but I can guess). I haven't responded to his email and I have no intention of doing so. If he dies I will feel bad but ultimately it is his life and I'm not going to be one of the people he uses on his self destructive journey... I feel bad but there really isn't anything I can do. He needs to help himself.

I guess I know what to do...I've already done it.

What you do depends on how much you value his friendship IMO; that value is up for you to decide.

 

[Rebasxer]

Either he'll die, and that'll be the end of it, or he'll get better and maybe reconnect the friendship, so either way not getting involved is the way to go

 

[dug777]

kick him in the nuuuuuts

 

[laurenlex]

Pray for him, and get away from the broadband, far away.

 

[jEnus]

#1 Lesson in life.

Worry about yourself and not someone else.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: n7
People need to take responsibility for their own actions...

Looks like he's learning that the hard way.

He's been learning the hard way for the past 5-10 years at least. There were times when he seemed to be on the right path but then veered sharply off it. The stories are amazing...Kind of a cross between Leaving Las Vegas and Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas.

I can't expose my son to that kind of drama.

 

[Bozono]

Get the stereo and PC first. Tell him you'll pay shipping. What Country is he moving back from anyhow?

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: EKKC
i have (had?) a friend like that too. the last time we exchanged email and he told me how he's sad and contemplated suicide. he graduated and couldnt find a good job, etc. i dont like people who bitches too much, your life is yours and only you ave control over it. if it sucks, do something about it, dont bitch. if you think you had it bad, think about all those people in africa where their very existence is a challenge. i seriously can't stand people who think about ending their own lives and no respect for those who actually do it.

him and i also have anoher who complains way too much. i lost contact with them the past year, they dont even come on to AIM no more, the only way i stay in touch with most of my HS and college friends, i would love to know how they are now, but i probably wont want to talk to them if they are still that way

Multiply your friend x50...seriously.

 

[EKKC]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: EKKC
i have (had?) a friend like that too. the last time we exchanged email and he told me how he's sad and contemplated suicide. he graduated and couldnt find a good job, etc. i dont like people who bitches too much, your life is yours and only you ave control over it. if it sucks, do something about it, dont bitch. if you think you had it bad, think about all those people in africa where their very existence is a challenge. i seriously can't stand people who think about ending their own lives and no respect for those who actually do it.

him and i also have anoher who complains way too much. i lost contact with them the past year, they dont even come on to AIM no more, the only way i stay in touch with most of my HS and college friends, i would love to know how they are now, but i probably wont want to talk to them if they are still that way

Multiply your friend x50...seriously.

rofl. i multiply mine by another 2x!

jokes aside, like someone said above i dont think you should worry others over yourself. i treasure my friendship with them, but theres no way in hell that i will be a participant in anyone's self destruction. what you do with your life, again, is your own choice. you can share your problems with me, but when you say that there;s nothing that you can do to change the situation, i get pissed and say bye to you

 

[pr0]

Maybe talk to him... give him a little motivation. Don't exactly get involved but give him advise. Everyone has to start somewhere. My childhood was crap compared to all my friends... But then I realized I need to do something about it and did. He probably just needs your motivation.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: EKKC

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: EKKC
i have (had?) a friend like that too. the last time we exchanged email and he told me how he's sad and contemplated suicide. he graduated and couldnt find a good job, etc. i dont like people who bitches too much, your life is yours and only you ave control over it. if it sucks, do something about it, dont bitch. if you think you had it bad, think about all those people in africa where their very existence is a challenge. i seriously can't stand people who think about ending their own lives and no respect for those who actually do it.

him and i also have anoher who complains way too much. i lost contact with them the past year, they dont even come on to AIM no more, the only way i stay in touch with most of my HS and college friends, i would love to know how they are now, but i probably wont want to talk to them if they are still that way

Multiply your friend x50...seriously.

rofl. i multiply mine by another 2x!

jokes aside, like someone said above i dont think you should worry others over yourself. i treasure my friendship with them, but theres no way in hell that i will be a participant in anyone's self destruction. what you do with your life, again, is your own choice. you can share your problems with me, but when you say that there;s nothing that you can do to change the situation, i get pissed and say bye to you

Yeah, I know...and I had no hesitation in making the desicion I did. I sent the latest email to my wife and she thought it was really messed up too. I talked to him about a year ago on the phone and it seemed like he was fishing around for a place to live at that time but I wasn't going to offer that. No fvcking way.

Like I said, I would be sad if I found out in a year or two that he actually wound up dead but I won't blame myself at all. You make choices in life and he's made plenty in the last 15 years. Still, he was a bright guy...he could have been so much more.

 

[EKKC]

tell him everything in life is relative.

you have a sucky life? thank whoever god you believe in that you're no at some third world country
you have a fever? there are people with AIDS and cancer
you think your gf is hot? well she aint Jessica Alba, is she?
you think you're rich? there's always Bill Gates
you think your dual SLi 7800 GTX rox0rs? well that is the best... for the moment...

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: pr0
Maybe talk to him... give him a little motivation. Don't exactly get involved but give him advise. Everyone has to start somewhere. My childhood was crap compared to all my friends... But then I realized I need to do something about it and did. He probably just needs your motivation.

His childhood was great. His parents had money, nobody beat him...it's not that simple.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: EKKC
tell him everything in life is relative.

you have a sucky life? thank whoever god you believe in that you're no at some third world country
you have a fever? there are people with AIDS and cancer
you think your gf is hot? well she aint Jessica Alba, is she?
you think you're rich? there's always Bill Gates
you think your dual SLi 7800 GTX rox0rs? well that is the best... for the moment...

He'd laugh in my face if I told him that...

 

[EKKC]

why does he have a SLi 7800 GTX setup?!?!? :Q

 

[intogamer]

drugs are bad hmmkay?

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: EKKC
why does he have a SLi 7800 GTX setup?!?!? :Q

I think he send email from internet cafes. He had a huge inheritance many year ago and blew it all on drugs, booze and living the high life. Then he proceeded to rack up hundreds of thousands of dollars of credit card debt...which he ducked out on. I never knew him during those years.

Anyway, he wound up marrying a wealthy Asian woman and living in Japan for the last couple years but it seems she's seen the real person and has kicked him to the curb now.

 

[EKKC]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: EKKC
why does he have a SLi 7800 GTX setup?!?!? :Q

I think he send email from internet cafes. He had a huge inheritance many year ago and blew it all on drugs, booze and living the high life. Then he proceeded to rack up hundreds of thousands of dollars of credit card debt...which he ducked out on. I never knew him during those years.

Anyway, he wound up marrying a wealthy Asian woman and living in Japan for the last couple years but it seems she's seen the real person and has kicked him to the curb now.

your friend = winnar!
i mean he didn't sign no prenup, right? RIGHT??? if so then he deserves to die. j/k

again. i have no respect for people ending their own lives. look at how many people die everyday... involuntarily. look back 4 years ago 9/11, 3000 people died not knowing WTF happened. last year christmas, 100000+ people were swept away by water.

if people would think before they act, this world would be so, so much better.

 

[Xyclone]

Then don't. If you get involved, he WILL drag you down with him; I've seen this happen way too many times, it's not cool. I would just do my best to avoid him, unless he seriously and drastically changes his lifestyle.