Originally posted by: bozack
Originally posted by: Ferocious
Talking to many of these women....some were in happy marriages....but most felt no passion or excitement in their current marriage. And most were either quite well off....or at least very comfortable....and nearly all had some sort of professional career or business.
Intersting to see that some women in "good" relationships would be willing to commit adultury so easily....those in failed relationships are easier to understand, but why anyone who was happily married would risk it is beyond me.
Well, now that we're back on track (thread was hijacked for a while); I know a couple who had this problem. His wife was a cousin of my bro-in-law and they were close to us. He was a teacher so, once a year, he'd go to camp with his students for a week. His best friend knew this and showed up at his home and did his wife. She cheated on him for a while till he finally found out. They're still married, but his friend and him are no longer friends. They grew up together too.
Her reasoning was that she was somewhat, raped the first time. She resisted a little, but realized she liked it and allowed him to continue. She said sex felt much better with the friend, eventhough she was not in love with him. She and her husband are still together, but my wife told me that she told the women she'd probably do it again if she was in the position again. Why he doesn't divorce her is beyond me, but they seem happy together and I'm not going to tell him what to do with his life. When I think about it, I just feel that perhaps he feels trapped. He could divorce her, but he'd just be losing his wife, someone he loved so much and he'd have nothing to gain from the divorce.
Then I know another guy who was married to this wife for a long time. They were an asian couple. His wife started working at a company and ended up cheating on him with a very large black guy. He found used condoms in her car one day and showed up at her work to confront her. He was confronted by this guy who said to leave his girlfriend alone. They got divorced and she just moved on to another guy, while he's stuck, lonely and depressed. Sometimes I wonder how these situations could have come about and how I can prevent it for myself.
I would never want to be in that position nor do I wish it on others, so I think telling stories so men can have an idea of why women cheat or how these situations can come about would be educational and helpful.