Situation with very pretty girl who is older than me has come up/

[nateholtrop]

ok heres the scoop.

I am 19. She is 28. We both work at Hudson's. Today during a slow spell. We were talking, and her break was about to end and she said we should talk sometime and so she asked if I was working tomorrow...I said yes and that whenever she had her break I would take mine and we could talk and chit chat you know the usual..anyways..I know of some stuff to talk to her about but what else???? I mean their is an age gap I know but this girl is the like the girl you dream about in your wildest dreams and I think she may be interested in me....SUCH AN OPPURTUNITY I DONT WANNA MESS IT UP!!! help and I know just be yourself. But I need some topics..she is into pyschology...I am into the obvious..computers.


Nate (in need of some conversation tips)

 

[BiggieN]

i've never been in your shoes but just act normal...don't worry too much. if she invited you out then maybe you should just let her dictate the conversation. Good Luck.

 

[PCAddict]

Just relax and see what happens. Continue to hang out with her as you are doing now and see where it takes you. One word of advice, she is approaching 30 and may be in some kind of "settle-down" mode, whereas you have the wonderful decade of exploration that is your 20's ahead of you.

 

[nateholtrop]

red i have thought about it...but at this point i dont know.

nate

 

[nEoTeChMaN]

"don't worry too much. if she invited you out then maybe you should just let her dictate the conversation. Good Luck."

If she want to take your pant off.....let her.

 

[jsm]

You should definetly talk about sex a lot. Girls also like to be aware of your extreme prowess in pleasing them and especially - the ability to please multiple females simultaneously. Even if you haven't done this, make sure to concoct some elaborate story where this happens - something roughly akin to a Penthouse Forum story. Older women really appreciate men who know what they want and take action. BE ONE OF THOSE MEN.

There are so many ways you can get a girl interested in you. Usually, showing them that you are better then them in every way possible works incredibly well. They may at first act like they don't appreciate you being a braggart or flexing your manhood, but in due time, your superiourity will win her heart!

Anyhow, if the "talk" is not going well, just make a sexual advance. She will most likely reciprocate and who knows what steamy action may ensue? Again, aggression is the key to victory!

Good luck! If you score, free hardware as a token of your appreciation will gladly be accepted. If it doesn't go so well .. it's her fault.

 

[Daniel]

I'd have to agree with Red on this one, she might just like your company and want someone to talk to on break, I wouldn't jump into anything and make a ass out of yourself, just talk to her and see what comes up, not litereally.

 

[viper007]

jsm:

That's some excellent advice you have there dude! hehe

Cheers..

 

[IBhacknU]

damn jsm... where were your 'words of wisdom' when I was 19?

 

[eyor]

if u get stuck talk about the weather...

"sooo... nice weather we're having, huh?"

 

[SuperGroove]

Hot woman who is interested in man who holds a lower position in society than she does?

Thanks for the good laugh. Be her friend. That's all she wants.

 

[nateholtrop]

She has a lower position that i do..so yah..actually she has a real job too hudsons is just for the discount.

Nate

 

[The Wildcard]

Yeah just act normal. Oh and don't get your hopes up high or get so anxious or nervous. Whatever happens will happen. Fate dictates so.....(i think.....lol)

 

[nateholtrop]

thx for all the advice peeps...lata going to bed but keep em coming I will check it before I leave for work in the morning.

Nate

P.S. Red Dawn even though I seriously hate to admit you may be right

 

[Whitedog]

If she enjoys taking breaks with you to talk, simply ask her if she'd like to get together during some Off time somewhere other than the work place? Like a resturaunt/grill type place... to talk. The worst thing you could do, is get all anxious. Relax.

BTW, do what jsm says, and you can just forget it! ROFLOL. I'd HATE to see some of the women that would fall for CRAP like that! Scary thought.

 

[Mister T]

dude, talk to her... make her laugh
casually ask her to get some dinner after work if she appreciates your company
once she lets her guard down, you own the situation...

good luck

 

[jsm]

I too have walked with a woman.

I would just like to add that I am indeed a team player. I have many more wise and unusual tips concerning womyn and the art of seduction. They've worked for me, so they can work for you! Come to my seminar!

My dad told me one piece of wisdom that I will never forget. He said: "son, when a woman says no, she means yes. And when she says yes, she means yes."

I asked my mom if this was true and she said no.

My dad is so smart.

 

[urbantechie]

<< I asked my mom if this was true and she said no.

My dad is so smart. >>



LOL!

 

[DesignDawg]

Red,
He's 19.

Nate,
I have dated many older women. As a teenager, I was generally disgusted by the way girls my own age acted. I liked the LADIES. --And they seemed to like me. Anyway, my advice from experience is, it has to just HAPPEN with an older woman. With girls your age, it's perfectly normal for you to be after them. With older ones, it's not so, and if she's gonna have anything beyond a friendship with someone 9 years younger, she's gonna have to be REALLY REALLY convinced she's interested in you. In YOU, I say. So, when you talk, be YOU. You and nothing but. Don't think up stuff to say. Just talk. Don't think for a minute that there's some magical topic you can talk about that's gonna get you on the fast track. As you will find out in the next few years, this woman has done a LOT more living than you. You go through more changes, make more decisions, and learn more about yourself and the world in the 4 years surrounding college than you do in all the other years leading up to it combined. So, she probably just wants to talk. Probably thinks you're smart. You probably are. If that's why she wants to talk to you, then, just be you. It'll come off fine. Worst case, you end up making a new friend or acquaintence and nothing more. Best case, after a good long while of friendship, she realizes she loves the person you are, and you get to try out something else. At least, that's the way it worked out with me. They weren't 9 years older, but one was 6 and one 7 years older. Close enough.

Ricky
DesignDawg

 

[ElFenix]

she works at hudson's just for the discount hahahahhahahahahaah!

thats the funniest thing i've heard all day

&quot;its funny because its true&quot; - homer simpson

 

[Dameon]

Seriously though, try not to let your fantasies go too wild. Just let her share a part of herself with you. Listen to her. Listen to her. Do not just &quot;hear her&quot;. The goal of your first meeting should be communication again, with a couple of jokes that may GENTLY suggest sensuality. No &quot;three old whores were walking up to a bar&quot; jokes or anything like that. Connect with her on level beyond what an acquaintence should be. Maybe ask her about what she thinks about just before she starts to drift to sleep, not dreams, but the time right before then. Since she's into psychology, look up Freud on the net, ask her if she thinks freud was a nutcase or a genius. Then, work it to a common ground. If you need to go to computers for familiarity, maybe ask her what's the one thing she'd change about her computer if she could. See if you can move from there.

 

[Nutcase99]

Just shoot the breeze with her man. Act normal see where it takes you

 

[purplehayes]

nate,

If she's older and REALLY pretty, I feel that you should talk about marriage! Hey, it worked for me.

I'm showing my bias, but I almost always dated older women. Not intentionally, it just seemed to work out that way.

If she's got red hair, I'd keep a ring in my pocket too.

PH


<<Edited to changed rind to ring because 'I'd keep a rind in my pocket too.' sounds pretty stupid.>>

 

[Dameon]

purplehayes, you got a thing for redheads too? My first girlfriend ever, my best female friend, and my wife... all redheads...

RLA - Redhead Lovers Anonymous

 

[nateholtrop]

thx guys I am off to work.


Nate

P.S. I will post how it went.