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Zysoclaplem

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My bf has been talking to this other gay guy he goes to school with alot lately. He refers to me as his room-mate when talking to this guy. He is younger and better looking than me, and it upsets me that he talks to him. Is this a natural feeling? I know what gay guys have on their minds, and it's nothing good natured.
I don't want to be a jerk, but I don't want my bf to up and decide he likes this guy better. I'm not saying he will, I just always fear the worst. But on the other hand I don't want to dictate who anyone can talk to. I am just scared.
 
It's one of those things where if they're going to cheat, they're going to cheat. Not much you can do about that. Your better off just trusting your partner and hoping for the best. If he was willing to cheat on you in the first place, then you're better off finding someone else.

Just my 2 cents.

EDIT: Just had this discussion with my g/f last night. Better to be open about it.
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
My bf has been talking to this other gay guy he goes to school with alot lately. He refers to me as his room-mate when talking to this guy. He is younger and better looking than me, and it upsets me that he talks to him. Is this a natural feeling? I know what gay guys have on their minds, and it's nothing good natured.
I don't want to be a jerk, but I don't want my bf to up and decide he likes this guy better. I'm not saying he will, I just always fear the worst. But on the other hand I don't want to dictate who anyone can talk to. I am just scared.
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time for YABT.ORG
 
take out the words gay and bf and you simply have another YAGT. Nothing different about the scenario.
 
YABT? You might have to wail on this guy. I'm not sure if the laws of women apply to teh boiz....

😕 sorry.
 
Originally posted by: rh71
take out the words gay and bf and you simply have another YAGT. Nothing different about the scenario.
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That's what I was thinking. Eyes will wander, lust will develop, jealousy will form. Fact of life. Either he's going to find more interest in this other guy or he's not.

Have you talked with him about your feelings of jealousy?
 
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: rh71
take out the words gay and bf and you simply have another YAGT. Nothing different about the scenario.
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That's what I was thinking. Eyes will wander, lust will develop, jealousy will form. Fact of life. Either he's going to find more interest in this other guy or he's not.

Have you talked with him about your feelings of jealousy?
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I am not jealous of this guy. I don't even know him. I am just scared. It's been 3 years. May'be I am just a worrier.
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: rh71
take out the words gay and bf and you simply have another YAGT. Nothing different about the scenario.
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That's what I was thinking. Eyes will wander, lust will develop, jealousy will form. Fact of life. Either he's going to find more interest in this other guy or he's not.

Have you talked with him about your feelings of jealousy?
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I am not jealous of this guy. I don't even know him. I am just scared. It's been 3 years. May'be I am just a worrier.
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Sounds like you're in denial. Why else would you be scared if you weren't jealous?
 
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: rh71
take out the words gay and bf and you simply have another YAGT. Nothing different about the scenario.
Click to expand...
That's what I was thinking. Eyes will wander, lust will develop, jealousy will form. Fact of life. Either he's going to find more interest in this other guy or he's not.

Have you talked with him about your feelings of jealousy?
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I am not jealous of this guy. I don't even know him. I am just scared. It's been 3 years. May'be I am just a worrier.
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Sounds like you're in denial. Why else would you be scared if you weren't jealous?
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I am not jealous of this guy, I don't even know him. Why would I be jealous of something I already have? I am just scared and a bit upset. I guess I can talk to him about it tonight.
 
He doesn't call you his bf, but I'm guessing the two of you have sex? Dude, if that's not obvious enough for you, then I don't know what is. I'm sure you understand (and I can only imagine as I'm straight) that every gay man is looking sex, sex, and more sex. That's what they do. And don't get me wrong, I'm not bashing anyone, I'm just saying that if females were as interested in sex as males are, then the straight community would be just as bad.
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: rh71
take out the words gay and bf and you simply have another YAGT. Nothing different about the scenario.
Click to expand...
That's what I was thinking. Eyes will wander, lust will develop, jealousy will form. Fact of life. Either he's going to find more interest in this other guy or he's not.

Have you talked with him about your feelings of jealousy?
Click to expand...

I am not jealous of this guy. I don't even know him. I am just scared. It's been 3 years. May'be I am just a worrier.
Click to expand...
Sounds like you're in denial. Why else would you be scared if you weren't jealous?
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I am not jealous of this guy, I don't even know him. Why would I be jealous of something I already have? I am just scared and a bit upset. I guess I can talk to him about it tonight.
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Your jealous of the attention he's getting from your bf.

Let's say your bf found some new hobby and it took a lot of his spare time so that you saw a lot less of him. You would start to feel left out and abandoned. You'd be jealous of his new hobby. You don't have to know the guy to be jealous of him.
 
Originally posted by: Ilmater
He doesn't call you his bf, but I'm guessing the two of you have sex? Dude, if that's not obvious enough for you, then I don't know what is. I'm sure you understand (and I can only imagine as I'm straight) that every gay man is looking sex, sex, and more sex. That's what they do. And don't get me wrong, I'm not bashing anyone, I'm just saying that if females were as interested in sex as males are, then the straight community would be just as bad.
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No, he calls me his bf, just not to this guy. He tells this guy I am his roommate.
And I am not looking for sex, sex, and more sex. We have been together for almost 3 years, and I don't look elsewhere. We also live together, and have done so for 2 years.
 
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: rh71
take out the words gay and bf and you simply have another YAGT. Nothing different about the scenario.
Click to expand...
That's what I was thinking. Eyes will wander, lust will develop, jealousy will form. Fact of life. Either he's going to find more interest in this other guy or he's not.

Have you talked with him about your feelings of jealousy?
Click to expand...

I am not jealous of this guy. I don't even know him. I am just scared. It's been 3 years. May'be I am just a worrier.
Click to expand...
Sounds like you're in denial. Why else would you be scared if you weren't jealous?
Click to expand...

I am not jealous of this guy, I don't even know him. Why would I be jealous of something I already have? I am just scared and a bit upset. I guess I can talk to him about it tonight.
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Your jealous of the attention he's getting from your bf.

Let's say your bf found some new hobby and it took a lot of his spare time so that you saw a lot less of him. You would start to feel left out and abandoned. You'd be jealous of his new hobby. You don't have to know the guy to be jealous of him.
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If my bf wants to break up with me, or see other people, then he should tell me. I wouldn't be angry or jealous. I just don't want to get cheated on. I don't want that to happen.
 
Then you need to confront him.

Playing games and sitting in the shadows and thinking up suspicious thoughts aren't doing you any good.
 
Originally posted by: conjur
Then you need to confront him.

Playing games and sitting in the shadows and thinking up suspicious thoughts aren't doing you any good.
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Playing games?

I will talk to him. May'be it's all in my head, and I have nothing to worry about.
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: Ilmater
He doesn't call you his bf, but I'm guessing the two of you have sex? Dude, if that's not obvious enough for you, then I don't know what is. I'm sure you understand (and I can only imagine as I'm straight) that every gay man is looking sex, sex, and more sex. That's what they do. And don't get me wrong, I'm not bashing anyone, I'm just saying that if females were as interested in sex as males are, then the straight community would be just as bad.
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No, he calls me his bf, just not to this guy. He tells this guy I am his roommate.
And I am not looking for sex, sex, and more sex. We have been together for almost 3 years, and I don't look elsewhere. We also live together, and have done so for 2 years.
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if he doesnt call you his bf to this other dude, that means he wants some from him, and you being his bf is a cock-block in his new venture.
 
Soooo... what is all this YAGT YABT etc. talk?

I have tried to figure it out by myself, but I can't for the like of me, I also have no idea what NEF means.
 
Sounds like your boyfriend wants a little action on the side if he's claiming that you're his roommate. In any case, you need to talk to him and find out what's going on. He may not have the sack to tell you he wants to break up so he's screwing around instead.
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
My bf has been talking to this other gay guy he goes to school with alot lately. He refers to me as his room-mate when talking to this guy. He is younger and better looking than me, and it upsets me that he talks to him. Is this a natural feeling? I know what gay guys have on their minds, and it's nothing good natured.
I don't want to be a jerk, but I don't want my bf to up and decide he likes this guy better. I'm not saying he will, I just always fear the worst. But on the other hand I don't want to dictate who anyone can talk to. I am just scared.
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how do you know your bf refers to you as a room mate with this guy? I would want to know why he does this. Is he trying to keep certain options open by not letting this guy know he is in a long term relationship? edit: guess you need to ask him to find out.



 
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