Should your Significant Other also be your Best Friend?

[Analog]

okay, would you tell your best friend he/she is fat?

 

[whaleskinrug]

yes

 

[Shawn]

probably

 

[alkemyst]

Definitely, both of my wives we have discussed when either of us was getting pudgy or looking not so healthy.

I suppose if I married someone with issues like my ex-fiancee it could be a problem.

 

[CraigRT]

I don't necessarily think so.... but it comes naturally I think...

my GF is not my best friend but obviously I love spending time with her.

I think it will change with time... I will probably become more of a best friend with her as it goes on... right now I wouldn't call her my best friend, but a good friend for sure... if that makes sense.

 

[psydancerqt]

my ex bf was also my best friend... so now i'm hesitant to let anyone i date get that close. i'll always have my female best friend.

 

[tennisflip]

Yup. Friends before lovers for me. So if we fall in love it will have started with a geat friendship.

 

[y2kc]

good question. my wife is a close friend.

 

[Yossarian]

my wife is more of a passing acquaintance.

 

[NTB]

Originally posted by: tennisflip
Yup. Friends before lovers for me. So if we fall in love it will have started with a geat friendship.

That's how it was with me too (I'm not married yet, but we've been going out for over a year) We were friends for quite a while before we started going out.

Nate

 

[Mustangrrl]

I think the couples that stay together forever (or for a very long time) are best friends as well as husband/wife. You have to like someone as a person to spend so much time with them, unless you're shallow teenagers and just like staring at each other.

My boyfriend is the best friend I've ever had, and I'm still great friends with my ex boyfriend, I consider him family.

 

[tennisflip]

Originally posted by: NTB

Originally posted by: tennisflip
Yup. Friends before lovers for me. So if we fall in love it will have started with a geat friendship.

That's how it was with me too (I'm not married yet, but we've been going out for over a year) We were friends for quite a while before we started going out.

Nate

Problem is most of the women I know are still my friends

 

[Goosemaster]

Originally posted by: yellowfiero
Should your Significant Other also be your Best Friend

no, they should be a good friend and your best fvk buddy

 

[HappyPuppy]

I don't always agree with Skoorb, but I am 100% on his side on his side on this topic.

I've been married 30+ years and she isn't my best friend, she is my BESTEST friend! Neither one of us has ever involved any other person in our problems or disagreements. We take care of them ourselves.

Been through 30+ and looking forward to the next 30! :Q

 

[Ness]

I think friends make the best lovers... so yes.

I mean, if a couple gets married based solely on the fact that they are physically attracted to each other, after a year or so, when sex gets to be commonplace, they have nothing to hold them together. Meanwhile, a couple that is friends still share the intrests that friends do and can find a common link besides sex.

 

[IGBT]

I would think so..mabe thats why the divorce rate is so high in the US..many married couples were never really friends to begin with..little more then bed buddies.

 

[illusion88]

I dont really know. This is a good thread though. Good insite.

 

[Tetsuo]

Originally posted by: Eli
Yes, and she is.

 

[Kenazo]

yup. And if she is not the person who you'd consider to be your very best friend, she better at least be your very best female friend.

 

[Palek]

My wife is by far my best friend. I share absolutely everything with her (so when I am asked to keep something secret, I instantly make a disclaimer that I tell my wife everything), and so does she with me. There is nothing to hide, we are like open books to each other. We know what the other is going to say before they say it, we complete each other's sentences, and we often make the exact same remarks - to the last word - about certain things. There is no one on this earth who knows me better than she does!

 

[Chrono]

Originally posted by: Skoorb

Originally posted by: sciencetoy
Geez, you guys are young. NO. Because at some point you'll have a lot of complaining about the Significant Other, and you need a best friend to complain to.

You're kidding, right?

LOL

 

[Chrono]

Originally posted by: psydancerqt
my ex bf was also my best friend... so now i'm hesitant to let anyone i date get that close. i'll always have my female best friend.

How does that work? If you don't know the person and then he becomes your b/f, don't you automatically let him closer? How can you not let your b/f be close to you? I automatically assume that you would trust your b/f more than your closests friend.

 

[huesmann]

Only if you're married. Until then you should have a best friend of the same gender. Who else is gonna bail you out when you break up with your SO?

 

[TheCorm]

Best friend as in THE best friend....maybe, maybe not.

He/She should certain be A best friend.

 

[Ernieb]

Originally posted by: NTB

Originally posted by: Skoorb
yes