Should she tell him before wedding?

[Ferocious]

Does the 'for better or for worse' apply only after the ceremony?

I think she should.

His reaction (both immediate and delayed) might speak volumes about stuff.

story

 

[CrackRabbit]

Ah, makes more sense with the link.

 

[no0b]

I think that before marriage they should have disgussed children. And at that time she should have said something. Failure for her to say anything means marriage under false pretensise.

AKA fvck the b!tch.

 

[spidey07]

holy crap of course.

What an evil, evil woman.

 

[LookingGlass]

There is no room to *think* about this. Should of been discussed before hand.

 

[Ferocious]

Originally posted by: LookingGlass
There is no room to *think* about this. Should of been discussed before hand.

yeah.

this is a slam dunk.

She MUST tell him!

 

[Zenmervolt]

Wouldn't she want to know of the situation were reversed? What if she were fertile and her boyfriend knew that he had a low/nonexistant sperm count? I doubt she would believe it would be right for him to keep the secret from her in that case.

ZV

 

[KarenMarie]

OMG! how in the world can someone stand before another and pledge and oath knowing they are lying about something so important.

In this case... omission is most certainly a lie.

Hellofa way to build a foundation for a lifelong commitment!!!

 

[swtethan]

yes she should tell him, and if he truely loves her then he'll have to accept that and work through it

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
OMG! how in the world can someone stand before another and pledge and oath knowing they are lying about something so important.

In this case... omission is most certainly a lie.

Hellofa way to build a foundation for a lifelong commitment!!!

I can hear the conversation now...

"gee, we've been married for 5 years and trying to conceive for 2. Maybe we should get your female parts checked out and my male parts checked out."

"I forgot to tell you I was infertile.'

"WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DIAF"

 

[LookingGlass]

If the relationship is not based on truth and honesty. The marriage is doomed to fail, before it even begins. I couldn't do that to someone. /me wonders what happened to the couple.

Doesn't matter, low sperm count, infertile for her. Kids, or no kids, that should be discussed before they walk down that aisle.

 

[JustAnAverageGuy]

Obviously.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: swtethan
yes she should tell him, and if he truely loves her then he'll have to accept that and work through it

no, he immediately drops her because she can't conceive. That's what you call a deal breaker.

 

[intogamer]

opps I did option number 2... option 1 my bad

yeah it is info that the BF needs to know

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: spidey07

Originally posted by: swtethan
yes she should tell him, and if he truely loves her then he'll have to accept that and work through it

no, he immediately drops her because she can't conceive. That's what you call a deal breaker.

I agree. But...

He may or may not drop her over it. That would be up to him. But it certainly might be a deal breaker... and if it is, that does not make him a bad person.

If he has lifelong goals, and one of them is to have biological children with his wife, then it might not be a good idea for him to marry a woman who cannot concieve. This doesn't make him a cad. Not at all.

It takes more than just love to have a successful marriage. A lot more. Unity in goals is very important. As is honesty. Both of which need serious examination before these two walk down the aisle.

 

[HappyPuppy]

Originally posted by: spidey07

Originally posted by: swtethan
yes she should tell him, and if he truely loves her then he'll have to accept that and work through it

no, he immediately drops her because she can't conceive. That's what you call a deal breaker.

Why do you say that? I would have married my wife whether she was fertile or not and she would have done the same.

There are alternatives up to and including adoption. But then, some people think that an adopted child just isn't as good as "having your own".

 

[mcvickj]

Damn straight she should tell him.

 

[maddogchen]

"What? you're infertile? then why you still making me wear condoms?"

 

[swtethan]

Originally posted by: maddogchen
"What? you're infertile? then why you still making me wear condoms?"

qft

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Ferocious
Does the 'for better or for worse' apply only after the ceremony?

I think she should.

His reaction (both immediate and delayed) might speak volumes about stuff.

story

she definitely should. if he loves her it won't matter. there are other ways to have children together.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: HappyPuppy

Originally posted by: spidey07

Originally posted by: swtethan
yes she should tell him, and if he truely loves her then he'll have to accept that and work through it

no, he immediately drops her because she can't conceive. That's what you call a deal breaker.

Why do you say that? I would have married my wife whether she was fertile or not and she would have done the same.

There are alternatives up to and including adoption. But then, some people think that an adopted child just isn't as good as "having your own".

You're right. And I am one of them. I want my and my mates genes passed on and would refuse to settle on that very strong belief.

 

[iwantanewcomputer]

if she didn't tell me until after the wedding...i would be outa there. if she told me before wedding...i would be supportive and look at options to adopt or use a surrogate mom

 

[mwtgg]

Originally posted by: maddogchen
"What? you're infertile? then why you still making me wear condoms?"

"Well honey, HPV made me infertile. Oh yeah, condoms don't stop the transfer of it..."

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: iwantanewcomputer
if she didn't tell me until after the wedding...i would be outa there. if she told me before wedding...i would be supportive and look at options to adopt or use a surrogate mom

you would not be outta there if she told you after the wedding.

you could still be supportive and look at options to adopt or use a surrogate.
hells, for that matter depending on what the issue is you could use a donor egg and your sperm and she could still have the baby.

 

[Ferocious]

Though off topic.........

I can't imagine why anyone would prefer kid born in a laboratory (or due to one) over adopting.

I'd think I look at that lab kid always knowing they weren't meant to be here.

Maybe not...I dunno.