Should I Turn My Kid In ?

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Chooco

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Originally posted by: GDogX
here we go again, a person that has to start putting jewish people into the middle of this
huh? how is parenting any different for Jewish people?

 

UDT89

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let the kid go

just because us kids are smarter than the system says enough.


LOL, i cant wait for the comments on that last line.


All i gotta say, i help my buddy pass a test once. we did it back when beepers were cool.
 

Chooco

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what i do is right programs in my calculator so it asks you which variable you are looking for and it calculates it all out for me. MAN i love programming simple things :)

for physics i just remember it though so don't say i cheat, i only use 'help' for things with long equations you will never use unless you specialize on some sort of......something.
 

mindless1

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No, you shouldn't turn your kid in...

The lesson that she'll learn, is not to trust you. The parent-child trust is more important now than ever, will play a VERY large part in her future (far more than math will). Let her know that you know she cheated, that there will be very specific, dire consequences if she doesn't get at least a "B" average in math next year. Hopefully that'll force her to "catch up" with all the math she should've already learned.
 

skace

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VFAA, you can't tell me it doesn't work because I am living proof.

"Kids are young and curious. They will do it..."

Until they understand why they weren't supposed to touch the stove. This understanding is possible without touching the stove but that takes more work. There are multiple ways to learn things, always were, always will be.
 

VFAA

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Hey you may be the one smart kid that always listened and the one that mommies talk about at the park all the time with compliments. But hey, not everybody is like you. I always listened to my mom and never got in any trouble. my brothers? They're different. The fact is that there's 2 of them so you've got a different story. Bad parent you may say? I don't think so. Most kids are just curious and will do something until they've felt their mistake.
 

PushHands

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Ok, I have to admit I did not read through the entire thread but instead read through most of the 20 posts or so. I'm a college student and have been fair from being an angel when it came to tests and such in high school.

Looking back, though I would have hated it so much, what would probably be ideal is for me to be made accountable for such actions but to have the support that is needed to help me see and change my ways. I wasn't prolific cheater, but did when it was of utmost importance (which ever that means :))

There is no easy answer my friend, and the complete solution goes deeper than this singular circumstance. I've thought a lot about issues such as these and it only seems that parents have to pre-emp them. I believe a longer term and more effective solutions runs deeper. Just a thought.
 

Johnlee

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I have a 15 yr old daughter and a 16 yr old boy. My daughter is testing me in every way, and I suspect she hates me too. But I love her and I am not going to give in, I few hard years with her now will save her a lifetime of grief later. I am her father, and it is my job to make sure she turns out right, no matter what the cost.

Holy crap! Parenthood can really suck @ss.
 

Chooco

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no you get that rush of power from being able to make demands no matter how unreasonable they.....keep in mind that they will hate you if you do that though lol

i'm just wondering but do you parents out there who have angry kids know WHY they hate you? the only people i know who hate their parents is because they are very controling and they do not trust their kids.
 

aimn

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There is a fine line between loving your kids and enabling them. I personally would go straight to the school and have them retest her. Otherwise it is my opinion that you are telling her it is ok to not study and cheat on the tests. Tough Love........rocks.
 

UltraQuiet

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Originally posted by: sysadmin
There is a fine line between loving your kids and enabling them. I personally would go straight to the school and have them retest her. Otherwise it is my opinion that you are telling her it is ok to not study and cheat on the tests. Tough Love........rocks.

Why does she deserve a retest? If she doesn't get it would you hire a lawyer and sue them?
 

WA261

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i am curious about how many of you have children that are answering this....if you do not have children, you do not understand the thinking of a parent...it is easy to say "turn her in", but if you had a child it not just about "right & wrong"... most parents would do anything for thier children...i would not just let her off, i would punish her, but i would sure in the hell not turn her in and risk her failing or something...
 

UltraQuiet

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but i would sure in the hell not turn her in and risk her failing or something..

Then in my opinion you would have taught her nothing except that "mommy will protect me".


Yes, I have two kids.
 

F117NightHawk

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Just let it go. School is nothing but a load of crap anyway. Your daughter isn't learning anything of value. If she has to use stealth and cunning to get out of the hellhole we call school, I say more power to her.
 

jyrixx

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turn her in!
she'll never learn

cutting down internet time isn't the answer... the internet is the best parent!
 

Samsonid

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Since I have no children of my own, I'd rather not make any suggestions.

However, I do take interest in the comments posted in this thread and I'd like to contribute this Article.

The reason for the article is that some people here hinted about strictness while others hinted on being too leanient and there was a small debate (if I remember correctly) of which method is preferable.
 

SammyBoy

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Honestly, ( AND THIS REALLY REALLY ISNT A ME-LIKE ANSWER), I would do something.....Maybe not turn her into the school, but ground her azz for the first week or 2 of summer.

Listen to this. First of all....if she wasnt gonna pass her MIDDLE SCHOOL MATH FINAL without cheating, she has a long life of failure ahead of her in highschool and college, so u shouldnt let her think she's always gonna get the B or whatever

As a kid who sometimes cheats in highschool (not on finals....ok fine on finals a little :) ) Ive gotta say school was too damned easy in 1-8th grades for me, and i never learned a work ethic at ALL, except for the rare assignment that interested me when I might spend 5 hours when 1 hour was necessary. Now im a junior (well...senior now) in highschool, and oh crap, THERE IS NOTHIGN INTERESTING, so i get C's and D's while mental midgets and bimbo's slide by with B's...just cuz they spend 2 hours doing dumb spanish homework every night.

Anyhow, the only thing that has carried me this far in highschool is that im smart enough to get B's on basically all of my tests in honors classes without studying or really paying attention sometimes. If your daughter is having a hard time in middle school...good god....get her in gear now rather than later...she's gonna have a hard time