Should I or shouldn't I?

[Homerboy]

background: back when I started college (14 yrs ago or so) I did a readio show on the college station (www.wmse.org... its more than just your normal pokey college station) with my good friend. It was quite fun and we were very well recevied with quite a "fan base" and were very much liked by the manager and staff. We did it for 10yrs or so, but with the birth of my child(ren), and "growing up" it was time to move on as other responsibilities like parenting, being a husband, mortgages, full time jobs etc set in and reality hit.

I've always missed the show on some levels, and regret dropping it but have always stayed in close touch with the manager, who is a good friend of mine. Just recently a promonent fixture on the station is leaving due to a move and his time slot has opened up... THE prime spot, Monday 6-9pm (each DJ has 1 show a week, 3hr slot).

The manager has now been courting me and requesting me and my friend come back and pick up were we left off. He has always wanted us to come back and do what we did, claiming we were the best talent and duo he has ever had on the station and that listeners loved us to no end. That he still gets frequent questions as to what happened to us and if we were ever coming back...

So here I am. I don't know what to do. I really want to do this, but realize that if I did do it I would be putting a burden on my wife and missing my kids (3 and 1 yrs old) for an entire day, one day a week (Leave for work at 7am, get home at 10-11pm) I just don't think that is fair to any of them. And I would surely miss my kids even for that 1 day.

On the flip side, I would love to do the show again. I never hang out with my friend anymore (hes my best friend, even my best man at our wedding. We really only email eachother once in a while, and I may stop in at his work on the weekends once a month or so to say hi. Thats about it.

I also miss the music... I used to be very into music (punk, hardcore, rock... true alternative stuff, not MTV drivle). I ahven't heard anything new in that vein for years on end.

So I dont know... should I? or shouldnt I? I guess Im not looking for a answer (there will be no poll) but more so some suggestions or items I may have over or under looked.

Any and all (serious) imput appreciated.

Thanks all.

EDIT: no cliff notes. All my words are important.

EDIT2: Sorry should have mentioned this earlier... I have mentioned it to my wife but really have yet to seriously discuss it. Thats this weekend. I'm sure she won't be overly estatic about it, but she is an udnertanding person.

EDIT3: I know I would be happy doing it, but I would also regret not seeing my wife and kids for 24hrs straight (I'm in love what can I say). I'm afraid that I will regret my decision either way.

 

[Kipper]

Sounds like it would make you happy. Talk to your family, decide what to do - I say go for it, but think it through first - will you be happier than you are now, or not/

 

[HamSupLo]

Are you a shock jock?

 

[NuclearNed]

Talk to your wife about it if it is really that important to you. It sounds like you are going to have regrets if you don't do it. Your wife will probably be understanding, at least to some extent. Between the two of you, you will find a solution that keeps everyone happy.

 

[Cook1]

Well, you mentioned that you had to give it up to get a FT job to pay off mortgages and etc. Is the pay better this time around? How does it compare to your other job, benefits? 401ks?

 

[raanemaan]

Take the chance. If not someday you will look back and wonder. Also is your partner wanting to do it again?

 

[pulse8]

Why such anguish over 3 hours a week? If it were 3 hours EVERY DAY, then I could understand.

I say do it if it makes you happy.

 

[Homerboy]

Originally posted by: Cook1
Well, you mentioned that you had to give it up to get a FT job to pay off mortgages and etc. Is the pay better this time around? How does it compare to your other job, benefits? 401ks?

Its not a paying job... strictly volunteer... only 3hrs a week though. The killer is, becuase of the fulltime job that makes up an entire day of "Work"

 

[Homerboy]

Originally posted by: raanemaan
Take the chance. If not someday you will look back and wonder. Also is your partner wanting to do it again?

Yes hes wanting to do it...

 

[TheNinja]

I'd do it. You'd only miss them 1 day a week. Heck, even with a normal 8-5 job you would only see them a couple hours that night anyway. DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[OverVolt]

3hrs/week? Go for IT!!!!

 

[Cook1]

Think of it this way...

3 hours a night
1 day a week

Guys night out.

 

[yukichigai]

Weigh the pros and cons. Sure, you miss one day a week with the kids, but on the other side of the coin this could open up a bunch of doors for you, perhaps even a new career. (If that's what you want)

I'd say do it. You can always quit later if it's not to your liking.

 

[imported_vr6]

Originally posted by: Homerboy

Originally posted by: Cook1
Well, you mentioned that you had to give it up to get a FT job to pay off mortgages and etc. Is the pay better this time around? How does it compare to your other job, benefits? 401ks?

Its not a paying job... strictly volunteer... only 3hrs a week though. The killer is, becuase of the fulltime job that makes up an entire day of "Work"

if its strictly volunteering, i would rather spend the time with the ones i love. If you were volunterring for the fire dept, then yes go for it, but for a radio show with now pay?

 

[pulse8]

Originally posted by: Kwan1

Originally posted by: Homerboy

Originally posted by: Cook1
Well, you mentioned that you had to give it up to get a FT job to pay off mortgages and etc. Is the pay better this time around? How does it compare to your other job, benefits? 401ks?

Its not a paying job... strictly volunteer... only 3hrs a week though. The killer is, becuase of the fulltime job that makes up an entire day of "Work"

if its strictly volunteering, i would rather spend the time with the ones i love. If you were volunterring for the fire dept, then yes go for it, but for a radio show with now pay?

You don't have any hobbies where you don't make money? You don't play sports or anything?

 

[JSClark]

I say go for it. What do you have to lose?

 

[notfred]

It's 3 hours a week, you're not moving to Japan or something. Your kids will be ok w/o thier dad for one evening/week.

 

[Homerboy]

wow... Im actually quite amazed at the overwhelming response of people saying to do it.

I know I will have regrets either way, thats a given I guess. And I know my wife and kids will survive that one night a week without me, but its more my selfishness of wanting my cake and eating too I guess. I will miss them those 3 hrs...

hell if I was a kid and my dad was a DJ at a rockin' radio station that would be sweet

 

[memo]

refer to sig

oh, why not bring the lady friend and the toddlers along for a show once or thrice a month?

 

[Yossarian]

this is such an easy decision when seen from the outside. just do it. 3 hours without your wife and kids should not be that big a deal.

 

[PanzerIV]

Think about it like this: If you went to night school you would be gone at least three nights a week for the same hours. This way you are only gone one night and still fulfilling a dream you have. I think your wife will probably pick up on your enthusiasm and agree with this.

I hear you on the kids thing. I am the same way but I still did the night school thing for four nights a week and we all survived it.

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

honestly...you are being a bit of a wuss. Lots of people go days, weeks, even months without seeing or even talking to their families. If you want to do it, do it. You will get over it and you will get used to not seeing them.

 

[nakedfrog]

Do it, man.

 

[Homerboy]

If anyone cares, I'm doing it.
First show 2nd week in August. There goes my lazy Monday nights.