Should I go to a huge party thrown by a person I hardly know? *dope!*

[theNEOone]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: theNEOone
i usually read these stupid ass pathetic posts and realize that they aren't worth a reply, but i'm gonna go ahead and waste 30 seconds.

if you had to start a thread like this, i think the obvious answer is that you should not go to the party. now, if you want to regain what little sense of a social life you have remaining, get drunk off your ass and go have a good time.


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Hey man,
I understand where you're coming from... The last time I went to a big-ass party I ended up clinging to the person I came with, talking about our highschool years and such... It was pathetic - i didn't mingle at all and it was not even by choice.. With so many people it's oddly harder to make connections... so I just get anxious about invites like this, especially from strangers (no matter how cute that stranger may be)... What if i make an ass out of myself? it's not like a friend i've had for years who'll forgive me.. i just feel that the stakes are high.. i dunno, i'm thinking too much.. i know...

who said anything about mingling? just go grind some random drunk girl. good times.


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[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Dr Smooth

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Well, I've been talking to this girl on and off (mostly off) for the past few months via friendster... Good kid but I honeslty don't know her very well.. She invited me to a huge get together at her place (90+ people) and I'm wondering if I should go... a) I'd have to bring a guest - I had arguments with my best friend and got dumped by my gf so I don't know many people presentable enough to bring to a party (I could bring Andreea,a friend I'm getting closer to, but that would be odd)... and b) I don't do well at parties...

I'm also afraid that it may be a pitty invite since the girl asked me how my gf was so I spilled the beans on our now defunct relationship.. I hate pitty invites and would feel pathetic if i went based on one.. i know i'm over analyzing things.. that's what I do- i think too much...

so what do you guys think?

Go to the party and make sure you talk to people you do not know about topics besides computers and computer related subjects.

Easy for dr. smooth but not for me!

Doing this is not easy but it is worth it. Try it and you will meet women. Read the New York Times and Washington Post websites to get an idea of what is going on so you can participate in conversations. Learn to listen to what people, women, say so you can respond.

 

[Rainsford]

What is this, the WB?

Just stop over thinking this and just go, or don't go. But don't read so much into it. It's a party, there aren't "high stakes" or anything like that. If you go, just try and have fun.

But also don't just go because some frat boy on ATOT told you to go to get drunk and bang some random girls. Not everyone has to enjoy that. If you do, super, it's a good time. But if you don't, don't let someone tell you what you should like doing. On the other hand, if you are just worried about being a little awkward, there's no better way to fix that than putting yourself in those kinds of situations. It's a skill you can learn, and no one really notices as much as you think.

 

[Excelsior]

Dude..you THINK too much.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Rainsford
What is this, the WB?

Just stop over thinking this and just go, or don't go. But don't read so much into it. It's a party, there aren't "high stakes" or anything like that. If you go, just try and have fun.

But also don't just go because some frat boy on ATOT told you to go to get drunk and bang some random girls. Not everyone has to enjoy that. If you do, super, it's a good time. But if you don't, don't let someone tell you what you should like doing. On the other hand, if you are just worried about being a little awkward, there's no better way to fix that than putting yourself in those kinds of situations. It's a skill you can learn, and no one really notices as much as you think.

Yeah, my life has resembled the WB a bit - only with as attractive girls and a very lucky but insecure fat indian kid in the middle of the mess... Well, you guys should be happy - you've convinced me to invite Andreea and I'll go if she does (I couldn't handle going alone).. I'm not going to bang anyone, just to make some connections and hand out my business card a bit... But, yeah... I'll try not to over analyze everything...

edit: i'll post an update when Andreea rejects - i mean- replies to my invitation...

 

[hevnsnt]

Don't Go!

If / When anyone asks "why weren't you there"
tell them that you stayed home and tried on your elf ears and acted out scenes from Lord of the Rings.

 

[jcwagers]

Originally posted by: Rainsford
What is this, the WB?

Just stop over thinking this and just go, or don't go. But don't read so much into it. It's a party, there aren't "high stakes" or anything like that. If you go, just try and have fun.

But also don't just go because some frat boy on ATOT told you to go to get drunk and bang some random girls. Not everyone has to enjoy that. If you do, super, it's a good time. But if you don't, don't let someone tell you what you should like doing. On the other hand, if you are just worried about being a little awkward, there's no better way to fix that than putting yourself in those kinds of situations. It's a skill you can learn, and no one really notices as much as you think.

Wow....that was an excellent post Rainsford!

jc

 

[Perknose]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: bR Go. Stop thinking.

even if it's a pitty invite? wouldn't that make me pathetic?[/q]

Too late! 😀

But seriously, go, you know you want to. Okay, maybe you don't know you want to, but you do. . . want to.

So go.

And, hey, try this one on: Pretend to yourself (and then, to others), that you're doing some sort of sociological field study on primate party behavior. If you're nervous, write up a series of important sounding questions to ask beforehand. Be sure to make two or three of the questions off the wall hilarious. Ask a close friend of yours with an actual personality if you can't think of any beforehand.

Then go to the party, and make it a working point to ask every woman you can the series of questions. It will be crucial for you to have a drink or two yourself during this process. The woman will magically start to look better, and you will become infinitely more suave and charming with each suceeding sip. Stop at three or four drinks, however. There's science to consider.

You won't necessarily bag a babe thereby, but you will discover that you somehow magically had fun and managed, for one blessed evening at least, to escape that wretched, scaly, overanalytical hairshirt you habitually wear called "your usual self."

Try it.

Trust me.

You have nothing to lose.

 

[Geekbabe]

The only "pitiful" thing would be if you pass up a chance to go and have some fun.go have a good time for yourself.

 

[Gagabiji]

If there are free drinks, there is also free food then right? SO WHAT IS THE QUESTION! 😉

 

[SackOfAllTrades]

geez, look at all these posters sportin e-boners over a party...it's like you guys never get asked or anything...

 

[virtuamike]

Oooh party. Girls + alcohol =

:beer:😀😎:heart::Q🙂😛

I've never been to a party where I've known everyone, just go and have a good time.

 

[bmacd]

lol @ eboners!

-=bmacd=-

 

[NeoPTLD]

oops wrong thread

 

[arcenite]

just go motherf!cker

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Bring your Indian family.

 

[Salvador]

Absolutely!

Sal

 

[slackerinabox]

*update*
so i invited a friend of mine to go with me.. she said that she doesn't like to go to big parties but invited me to go see 'spartan' with her that night instead... so i'm conflicted.. andreea's cute but so is the girl who's party i'm invited to... and, also, i'd meet other people at the party.. but hanging out with andreea and getting to know her a bit more would be good too.. ahhhh!

 

[TitanDiddly]

Originally posted by: bR
Go. Stop thinking.

 

[jjones]

You're turning into a drama queen.

 

[tweakmm]

WHY ARE YOU STILL ANALYSING THIS? Just go or don't, neither choice is going to shape the outcome of your life.

 

[Vortex22]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
*update*
so i invited a friend of mine to go with me.. she said that she doesn't like to go to big parties but invited me to go see 'spartan' with her that night instead... so i'm conflicted.. andreea's cute but so is the girl who's party i'm invited to... and, also, i'd meet other people at the party.. but hanging out with andreea and getting to know her a bit more would be good too.. ahhhh!

So go alone... that way you won't have anyone to cling on to and you'll be forced to socialize!

 

[makessense]

make plans with andreea another day... go to the party.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Vortex22

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
*update*
so i invited a friend of mine to go with me.. she said that she doesn't like to go to big parties but invited me to go see 'spartan' with her that night instead... so i'm conflicted.. andreea's cute but so is the girl who's party i'm invited to... and, also, i'd meet other people at the party.. but hanging out with andreea and getting to know her a bit more would be good too.. ahhhh!

So go alone... that way you won't have anyone to cling on to and you'll be forced to socialize!

my question is, go hang out with andreea (who i'm getting to know slowly) or go to jess' party... it's a complicated choice because they're both so damn cute! i'm booked friday and sunday night so it's an either or situation... I see the logic in turning down andreea's invite but guys like me don't reject girls like her... it's complicated..

 

[freakflag]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Vortex22

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
*update*
so i invited a friend of mine to go with me.. she said that she doesn't like to go to big parties but invited me to go see 'spartan' with her that night instead... so i'm conflicted.. andreea's cute but so is the girl who's party i'm invited to... and, also, i'd meet other people at the party.. but hanging out with andreea and getting to know her a bit more would be good too.. ahhhh!

So go alone... that way you won't have anyone to cling on to and you'll be forced to socialize!

my question is, go hang out with andreea (who i'm getting to know slowly) or go to jess' party... it's a complicated choice because they're both so damn cute! i'm booked friday and sunday night so it's an either or situation... I see the logic in turning down andreea's invite but guys like me don't reject girls like her... it's complicated..

No, it's retarded.

Here's some simple math for you:

Movie + Girl You're Slowly Getting To Know = 20% chance of getting laid with vigorous effort and a large outlay of cash.

Hot Chick + Party With More Hot Chicks + Alcohol = 80% to 90% chance of getting laid with minimal effort and free booze.