Seriously screwed up with GF... need advice

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dabuddha

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Originally posted by: Jero
Originally posted by: ThisIsMatt
Your sex life is great, but she thinks porn is immoral? Talk about selective morality.

Well, technically speaking.....

nothing in the bible against sex before marriage...as far as I know

but wacking off on porn is "committing adultery in your heart" since your "lusting" over women in your mind and adultery is against one of the ten commandments....

Aren't you lusting over women while having sex with them? Your logic has confused me :confused:
 

mi1stormilst

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I seriously don't bro...ask my wife (-: I get all the nakedness I need from her ...4 real. Now that is not to say that I have never seen it. Some people view the human body as sacred though and I agree that it should not be defiled in such a way. I would very much like to believe that there are still girls and boys being brought up by their parents to respect how special a physical relationship can be. When one has saved themselves for another whom they are willing to share themselves with completely it is a beautiful experience. Those relationships have that special bond of always having been and forever will be there first and only love.

Old Romantic (-:

EDIT > I see no point in spending countless hours staring at girls I can't have or have no interest in, I am dedicated to my wife wholly. Life is not ALL about sex, boobies, pron, video games, and wacking your monkey. Some of you obviously have to much "TIME" or is it grime on you hand. LOL. You guys need to find jobs, finish college and learn to treat women with the respect the deserve.
 

Hyperblaze

Lifer
May 31, 2001
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Originally posted by: dabuddha
Originally posted by: Jero
Originally posted by: ThisIsMatt
Your sex life is great, but she thinks porn is immoral? Talk about selective morality.

Well, technically speaking.....

nothing in the bible against sex before marriage...as far as I know

but wacking off on porn is "committing adultery in your heart" since your "lusting" over women in your mind and adultery is against one of the ten commandments....

Aren't you lusting over women while having sex with them? Your logic has confused me :confused:

If you are in love with them (or have feelings for them), it's nolonger called lust. it's called love.
However, if your having sex with someone whom you don't have feelings for whatsoever, then technically speaking, yes it is a sin.

Mind you, some people take the definition a little too far.
 

AlienCraft

Lifer
Nov 23, 2002
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Originally posted by: Bryophyte
I think she is the one who owes you an apology. She was snooping on your computer. I remember being young and immature and insecure, so I feel a certain amount of sympathy for her, but she needs to learn that 1) it's not ok for her to sneak around looking for stuff to get pissed off at you about, 2) looking at porn is not cheating, and 3) it's not ok to threaten to break up with someone in order to try to control him when what he is doing is perfectly normal. Make sure to get your balls back out of her purse before she leaves if you break up with her.
Exactly.
Some of the WOMEN I know enjoy porn with their S.O.
Girls are full of insecurities. You're headed for a break up anyway.

 

iwantanewcomputer

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Apr 4, 2004
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Originally posted by: mi1stormilst
I seriously don't bro...ask my wife (-: I get all the nakedness I need from her ...4 real. Now that is not to say that I have never seen it. Some people view the human body as sacred though and I agree that it should not be defiled in such a way. I would very much like to believe that there are still girls and boys being brought up by their parents to respect how special a physical relationship can be. When one has saved themselves for another whom they are willing to share themselves with completely it is a beautiful experience. Those relationships have that special bond of always having been and forever will be there first and only love.

Old Romantic (-:

EDIT > I see no point in spending countless hours staring at girls I can't have or have no interest in, I am dedicated to my wife wholly. Life is not ALL about sex, boobies, pron, video games, and wacking your monkey. Some of you obviously have to much "TIME" or is it grime on you hand. LOL. You guys need to find jobs, finish college and learn to treat women with the respect the deserve.

this is anandtech forums dude. you want everyone else here to just give up their whole lives for your idea of "romance"

 

hwhobbs

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Aug 25, 2004
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no offense, but you gotta be a sad sack of bones to be posting on anandtech for advice in your love life...... i mean cmon!!! you must be a total caver (one who sits in room on computer all day) to not know how to sort these things out..... but then again, you didnt really take anyone's advice here, it seemed like you were just bragging about it
 

SinNisTeR

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Jan 3, 2001
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shouldnt of been looking at it.. if you knew that that could of been the consequence, you were risking it. whatever you do, be honest with her, she deserves it. if you like your pr0n more than her. then thats what you need to tell her, otherwise, you better make it up.
 

mi1stormilst

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Mar 28, 2001
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Originally posted by: iwantanewcomputer
Originally posted by: mi1stormilst
I seriously don't bro...ask my wife (-: I get all the nakedness I need from her ...4 real. Now that is not to say that I have never seen it. Some people view the human body as sacred though and I agree that it should not be defiled in such a way. I would very much like to believe that there are still girls and boys being brought up by their parents to respect how special a physical relationship can be. When one has saved themselves for another whom they are willing to share themselves with completely it is a beautiful experience. Those relationships have that special bond of always having been and forever will be there first and only love.

Old Romantic (-:

EDIT > I see no point in spending countless hours staring at girls I can't have or have no interest in, I am dedicated to my wife wholly. Life is not ALL about sex, boobies, pron, video games, and wacking your monkey. Some of you obviously have to much "TIME" or is it grime on you hand. LOL. You guys need to find jobs, finish college and learn to treat women with the respect the deserve.

this is anandtech forums dude. you want everyone else here to just give up their whole lives for your idea of "romance"

If your whole life is wrapped up in wacking your monkey and staring at pictures of titties all day you are a very sad soul. I think my advice would be more fitting in your case...yes give it up for some worthwhile romance. Sheesh!
 

yoda291

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Aug 11, 2001
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Originally posted by: Hammer
Originally posted by: jhu
hmmm... premarital sex is ok, but porn isn't? i don't see how that's "morally" consistent.

BINGO!

I think the problem isn't so much the pornography, rather, it's the fact that he made a promise to her not to watch it and broke that promise.
 

Hammer

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Originally posted by: yoda291
Originally posted by: Hammer
Originally posted by: jhu
hmmm... premarital sex is ok, but porn isn't? i don't see how that's "morally" consistent.

BINGO!

I think the problem isn't so much the pornography, rather, it's the fact that he made a promise to her not to watch it and broke that promise.

he said it himself:

"A large part of the problem was that she'd told me before that it was something that was against her morals and I said that I wouldn't do it while we were together. "
 

huesmann

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Originally posted by: rh71
Not to anyone in particular but - I wonder how many people who say "just dump her" currently have girlfriends ... you guys say it as if the person means nothing to them.
That's irrelevant, IMO. If those people don't have girlfriends, it makes them more objective than someone who does.