I apologize in advance for the long post, but this is a pretty serious problem and requires some significant explaining to understand the whole picture.
Just some background information first: I am a college junior living off-campus in Collegetown with 5 other roommates. All six of us are fraternity brothers, and we signed the lease last March. When we signed, we were all fairly good friends.
We moved into the place in late August, and within the first couple of weeks, 5 of us began to have problems with a roommate, who Ill refer to as Tom. He was loud, inconsiderate, and had the need to make every single conversation about himself. He would enter a room and begin talking about his day/problems, even if we were all in the middle of a conversation. We all began to get annoyed, but dealt with it until around October, when things started to escalate.
Starting around October, he began to go a little too far going into our rooms and taking things at his convinence (clothes, random toiletries, etc.). Not a big deal, but not something we were comfortable with. Even after telling him multiple (read: dozens) of times, he continued the behavior. I wouldnt call it stealing, but it certainly wasnt okay.
This continued for another couple months. At this point, all 5 of us hated Tom, and couldnt even stand his presence. It got to the point where even if he was just in the room, we would all be put in a bad mood. Hard to explain without seeing just how unbearable this kid is, but trust me, hes bad.
Problems escalated again in December before winter break. Tom has had a history of doing a lot of drugs. All six of us are very tolerant of weed (and all of us happen to smoke quite a bit of it), but Tom was a big fan of psychedelic drugs and did them extremely frequently. All of us have tried psychedelic drugs in the past, but Tom had turned it into a fairly regular occasion (starting a few years back, even before we knew him).
When we returned from winter break, we caught Tom stealing $200+ of one of our belongings. We all sat him down and told him that this was completely unacceptable, and we no longer considered him our friend and did not enjoy having around. He somehow got the hint, and began spending almost all of his time at our fraternity house, and came to our apartment only once a week to pick up clothes.
This has been the situation since January/February, and it has been very ideal. He still pays for rent, rarely comes by, and doesnt interfere with our lives.
However, we all just returned from Spring break, including Tom. From what it seems, it looks like Tom is trying to move back in and become a part of the group again. We were disappointed that he returned, but after last night, we are all ready to give him an ultimatum for him to leave and officially move out.
He came home last night at around 1am, wasted, and proceeded to bother us for attention while we were watching the end of a movie. We continued to tell him to be quiet, etc., and finally he went to his room. A few minutes later, we heard a lot of loud screams from his room. It was pretty concerning, knowing his drug habits, so we went to his room. He was lying on the floor, moaning and screaming, tripping on DMT.
To clarify, this was not his first time doing DMT. He has been regularly doing it all semester, and has also been doing heroin, cocaine, mescaline, and even synthesized crack cocaine (keep in mind he is a rich kid from Long Island he should not be doing crack).
None of us want this in our house. We have told him repeatedly we do not want hard drugs in our house. At this point, I want to give him an ultimatum to get out of our house immediately, or I will call the police. Not a step I want to take, but I do NOT want hard drugs like DMT and heroin under my roof.
My other friends have suggested we call his parents and have them step in, but Im not sure the best course of action. We can also call the schools health services for their advice, but again, Im not sure if that is the best course of action, but Ive never dealt with a situation like this before.
I know this is a long post, but I really appreciate the advice. Really lost what to do here
Cliffs:
Just some background information first: I am a college junior living off-campus in Collegetown with 5 other roommates. All six of us are fraternity brothers, and we signed the lease last March. When we signed, we were all fairly good friends.
We moved into the place in late August, and within the first couple of weeks, 5 of us began to have problems with a roommate, who Ill refer to as Tom. He was loud, inconsiderate, and had the need to make every single conversation about himself. He would enter a room and begin talking about his day/problems, even if we were all in the middle of a conversation. We all began to get annoyed, but dealt with it until around October, when things started to escalate.
Starting around October, he began to go a little too far going into our rooms and taking things at his convinence (clothes, random toiletries, etc.). Not a big deal, but not something we were comfortable with. Even after telling him multiple (read: dozens) of times, he continued the behavior. I wouldnt call it stealing, but it certainly wasnt okay.
This continued for another couple months. At this point, all 5 of us hated Tom, and couldnt even stand his presence. It got to the point where even if he was just in the room, we would all be put in a bad mood. Hard to explain without seeing just how unbearable this kid is, but trust me, hes bad.
Problems escalated again in December before winter break. Tom has had a history of doing a lot of drugs. All six of us are very tolerant of weed (and all of us happen to smoke quite a bit of it), but Tom was a big fan of psychedelic drugs and did them extremely frequently. All of us have tried psychedelic drugs in the past, but Tom had turned it into a fairly regular occasion (starting a few years back, even before we knew him).
When we returned from winter break, we caught Tom stealing $200+ of one of our belongings. We all sat him down and told him that this was completely unacceptable, and we no longer considered him our friend and did not enjoy having around. He somehow got the hint, and began spending almost all of his time at our fraternity house, and came to our apartment only once a week to pick up clothes.
This has been the situation since January/February, and it has been very ideal. He still pays for rent, rarely comes by, and doesnt interfere with our lives.
However, we all just returned from Spring break, including Tom. From what it seems, it looks like Tom is trying to move back in and become a part of the group again. We were disappointed that he returned, but after last night, we are all ready to give him an ultimatum for him to leave and officially move out.
He came home last night at around 1am, wasted, and proceeded to bother us for attention while we were watching the end of a movie. We continued to tell him to be quiet, etc., and finally he went to his room. A few minutes later, we heard a lot of loud screams from his room. It was pretty concerning, knowing his drug habits, so we went to his room. He was lying on the floor, moaning and screaming, tripping on DMT.
To clarify, this was not his first time doing DMT. He has been regularly doing it all semester, and has also been doing heroin, cocaine, mescaline, and even synthesized crack cocaine (keep in mind he is a rich kid from Long Island he should not be doing crack).
None of us want this in our house. We have told him repeatedly we do not want hard drugs in our house. At this point, I want to give him an ultimatum to get out of our house immediately, or I will call the police. Not a step I want to take, but I do NOT want hard drugs like DMT and heroin under my roof.
My other friends have suggested we call his parents and have them step in, but Im not sure the best course of action. We can also call the schools health services for their advice, but again, Im not sure if that is the best course of action, but Ive never dealt with a situation like this before.
I know this is a long post, but I really appreciate the advice. Really lost what to do here
Cliffs:
- Live with 6 roommates, one of them does a lot of drugs
- Caught him doing DMT in his room yesterday
- We have told him multiple times we do not want hard drugs in our house
- Has happened multiple times
- How do we proceed from here in getting him out of the house?
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