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Semi-YAGT: How does a typical long distance relationship work? (its over)

SithSolo1

SithSolo1

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Long story-short:

Met a girl about a month ago.
Talked off and on for said period.
Went out with said girl for the 1st time Tuesday, for the 3rd time Wednesday.
Said girl went back home(2.5hours Southwest of here) last night. :brokenheart: Told me to call her today if I wanted and that she would probably be outside sunning by the pool.
In 1 week she will be moving back to school(3hours North or here) and doesn't have a clue when she will be back in here(she said it may be as little as a few weeks).

Anyway, that is a highly-abridged version of the story. If you would like the whole story PM me.

Now, how do I make this relationship work?
Should I call her daily, every 3, weekly? I am horrible when it comes to talking over the phone, but I love hearing her voice(weird eh?).
Should I visit her at school ala surprise, wait for her to ask, or suggest that it would be no problem for me to visit her?
Should I invite her down here? She's never been to a football game here at UGA. I thought about getting us tickets to one of the home games.

I know most of you think I'm hopeless but I really want this thing to work. Anyway, thank you for all your help. 😀
 
How do they work?
They don't.

She's in college, and to be honest, her eye will probably catch someone else during your absence.
So will yours I bet.
 
Originally posted by: oblizue
How do they work?
They don't.

She's in college, and to be honest, her eye will probably catch someone else during your absence.
So will yours I bet.
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What he said.
 
Originally posted by: oblizue
How do they work?
They don't.

She's in college, and to be honest, her eye will probably catch someone else during your absence.
So will yours I bet.
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How do they work? Communication, trust...the latter doesn't seem like it's very built up between you two, given the short time frame. I would say to be wary of going into a LD relationship so fast...probably not worth it for you guys.
 
You went out three times? Odds are against you.

It usually takes an already committed relationship for them to work out in the long term.
 
I guess you can call her daily to have a little chat..or even just to say good night. Don't have to talk long.. just see how her day goes and stuff. If you think that's too much then.. every 2 or 3 days is fine.

If time/money permits go visit her.. surprise her. But make sure she's not busy with school work.

If she really cares about you she'd drive down and visit you too.

if this is the beginning stage of your relationship.. you have to work extra hard to keep this relationship going...

good luck
 
Ok ok, so at most will still be friends? I can live with that.
I can make time(my dad can always fly me up there) and money is not an issue for me, for her it seems to be.
I guess I'll just have to wait and see. 😕
 
" How does a typical long distance relationship work?"
1. One person moves to be with the other person
or
2. Someone finds another person.
 
Maybe I just feel really attached as this was my first relationship in my 20 years of existence(sad, I know). I just feels good not to be alone(I have friends but none are female).
 
Call her when you feel like it. Visist when you can, but no surprises, cause you never know what she will be doing. Try it out and see what comes of it.

HOWEVER, do NOT pass up oppertunities to meet new people. Go out and party and such. If you meet someone, and you think something can work, just tell your current one that.
 
Originally posted by: FallenHero
Call her when you feel like it. Visist when you can, but no surprises, cause you never know what she will be doing. Try it out and see what comes of it.

HOWEVER, do NOT pass up oppertunities to meet new people. Go out and party and such. If you meet someone, and you think something can work, just tell your current one that.
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Soooo, should I call her today?
My friends said no because it will look like I have nothing to do on a Saturday night...
 
Keep in touch, but don't get your hopes up. Long distance seldom works. I'd suggest just gettin freakin with local honeys, and when she returns, tryin to hook up.
 
Long distance relationships only work one way. You stay celibate and she drops her panties for every d!ck that looks at her. Joo lose!:Q
 
Originally posted by: HappyPuppy
Long distance relationships only work one way. You stay celibate and she drops her panties for every d!ck that looks at her. Joo lose!:Q
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BAHhaahaha. Eeek. Yes. Although there are some exceptions to the norm and I've seen long distance relationships that do eventually work out, most of the time they do not, unless you have definite future plans to be near each other. Think about it... if she's going off to school, this is a time in her life where she'll change drastically in a short period. You've only known her a month, but it's up to only you to decide whether or not that's long enough to put yourself in an obviously doomed relationship. Unless you have a twitchy feeling that's telling you it's gonna be 'OK.
 
OK, lets look at the facts:

She is a small town, country, Christian girl with little money to spare. She is going to a very small, private, Christan college. She has a beautiful smile, captivating eyes, and a wonderful personality.

I am a college town, city boy with money(so to speak). I go to a very large, public, party college. I am a loser(If you don't believe this I'm sure M4H would be more than happy to enlighten you) who is still wondering why GOD smiled upon me and allowed me the honor of going out with this girl.

If this thing is gonna fail, it'll fail on my end first. Right?

:brokenheart:

Ah who am I kidding. 🙁


The whole going off to school thing explained:
She has been at a 2 year private college for 1 year. She came here for summer school before her second year. She will be coming back here for 2 years after she finishes this next year.
 
Don't listen to these assholes. There is absolutely no reason why it can't and won't work if you are both commited. Don't let anybody tell you that LD relationships don't work, my girlfriend and I will strongly disagree.

We were 4.5 hours from eachother for the first 7 months. We've been together a year and 9 months now.
 
Its VERY hard to make it work.... you both have to be dedicated to it.


1) With only knowing her a month you don't have much luck.

thats just my experience 🙁 if she finds a guy locally even remotely interesting...
 
Originally posted by: Eli
Don't listen to these assholes. There is absolutely no reason why it can't and won't work if you are both commited. Don't let anybody tell you that LD relationships don't work, my girlfriend and I will strongly disagree.

We were 4.5 hours from eachother for the first 7 months. We've been together a year and 9 months now.
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A year and 9 months isn't spit in the big pond, my friend.
 
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