Self pwnage?

[everman]

Education, and keep saving your money for a house.

 

[Heller]

life is about pvssy, once you get it, dont put it on a pedestal, once you get pvssy you will be of the meds, stop seeking approval and will feel much better

i lost my virginity at 12(1month before 13) to a 16 y.o slut. and have never been depressed, also have had a social life, and never had girl troubles.]

go get laid bud, plain and simple

 

[Locut0s]

Originally posted by: arrfep
Man, first things first. Man up and quit looking for approval. If you are happy and your life works for you, then that is all that matters. I lived a very similar life to yours, eerily similar, in fact. Actually if I was part Asian I would be convinced we were long lost brothers.

The thing is, people will move through their lives at different paces, and for some people, you just gotta stew for a while. I spent two years doing literally nothing, and one day it all kind of just snapped, and started falling together. I quit being so negative about my own place in life, and everything else began to look better.

You listed all the negatives. The only positive you listed was that you've got some money in the bank. A buddy of mine got engaged last fall. After congratulating him, he said to me "You know, sometimes I wish I could have a life like you. No mortgage, no bills, no kids, no responsibility. If you wanted to move to Australia tomorrow, you could."

See the flip-side of your situation. Your "successful" friends are probably asking themselves the same question. "I've got a big mortgage bill, my kids are keeping me up all night, I don't have sex anymore, I hate my job...Am I owning myself." The grass is pretty much always going to be greener. I've seen posts like this by you before and I think you're one of these people that will be constantly looking for other people to validate your existence. Don't. One of the greatest things about being in a hole is being able to look out. You see this mountain of wasted life, when really you should be seeing only potential. Some people could be envious. You get to start planning your life with $20k in the bank and 7 or 8 years of life and wisdom more than most people do when they hit the "what am I gonna do with my life" stage. Chin up, man. Don't let life beat you down. Go attack it.

Thanks very much for the kind reply. Indeed one of my faults has been approval seeking, although not nearly as much as I used to. I've actually gained a lot of self confidence since getting this job and progressing well. Much more self confidence than I had when going through the worst periods at school. I do usually have an overall much more positive outlook on life than I did before, just not all the time.

Thanks for the other replies from the rest of you too!

 

[DanTMWTMP]

well, things are looking up for you. just stick to your plan of heading back to school, stick it out, and you'll be fine. I see no problems with your outlook. As long as you head back to school and start being active again (working out, just going out more in general), then things will fall into place.

Friends help a lot. I just recently met up with some old friends from waay back. It was an awesome time to catch up. Me and my friends have just begun their careers. some went back to school, and we're all around 24-25 yrs old. I know people who went back to school and turned out awesome.

just make sure to really stay in school this time around. you have money saved up.

shiet, i am in debt from school loans, i have a car payment, and i'm trying to get a condo. wtf man, i'm in a horrible situation right now, lol. gah...