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Seeing her smile makes me angry

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Originally posted by: JM Aggie08
Well several months ago my girlfriend cheated on me with a fried of mine, so i dumped her ass. it killed me for a few months after.

Now that we are through, her world is falling apart, and everyone that ever liked her or cared about her, dosent anymore.

Is it bad that i enjoy seeing this? Her losing all of her friends and several hating her? And whenever i see her happy, i get pissed. is that bad, or does she deserve it?
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Sounds like you are still really very hurt by what happened.
(you need some closure, and need to get over it)
 
Okay so she cheated on you. Does she deserve to be dumped? Yes! Does she deserve to lose some of her friends? Of course! Does she deserve to have the fvcked up sh!t happen to her (unrelated to the relationship)? Nope.
 
Originally posted by: her209
Okay so she cheated on you. Does she deserve to be dumped? Yes! Does she deserve to lose some of her friends? Of course! Does she deserve to have the fvcked up sh!t happen to her (unrelated to the relationship)? Nope.
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hey, that doesn't stop us from laughing at him too for all the misfortune.

if that's something that someone enjoys of course.
 
Originally posted by: JM Aggie08
Originally posted by: reverend boltron
You know what's really sad? I had a very similar thing happen to me. Man, chicks are t3h sux0rz. It's okay though, I ended up deleting my myspace because I didn't want to deal with all of the baggage that goes along with it, and seriously, my life is a lot better.

But yeah, that whole mutual friends thing can be a killer, but like, lucky for me I don't see them anymore. And I can honestly say that I am very thankful that it happened now, just because I don't think I would have experienced the things that I did if she hadn't cheated on me. So praise the Lord for growth through humility. Bad things started happening to my ex too, and she always comes back to me for comfort. It's no fun at all because I don't like being put in the position to have to deny someone, but like, seriously, it really isn't worth stumbling and bringing up old feelings because someone is plucking my heart strings for theme music.
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amen
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Samething can be said about guys too. You have to realize, all women/girls are not like that, we all get screwed over. It happens. With age *hopefully* will come maturity, wisdom, knowing how to treat people. That can be said for both genders.

OP, of course you are pissed off, you have every right to be, seeing her just adds salt to that open wound, recognize it for what it is. Don't let her see you hurt, not worth that.
After awhile, you'll get to a point where you'll realize, it's just wasted energy it isn't worth it anymore. You'll learn to let it go. The old cliche', time does heal wounds.

Live and learn, time to move on, you will, eventually.
 
Originally posted by: yosuke188
stop caring.
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Not as easy for some, hard to just stop caring, and turn off your heart.

The more you live life, you'll realize there are good people out there. If you keep that perspective, you'll find decent/caring loving people. It's the people that always think they won't find someone, you won't because of that attitude. What you think can happen, and usually does.
 
Originally posted by: JM Aggie08
Well several months ago my girlfriend cheated on me with a fried of mine, so i dumped her ass. it killed me for a few months after.

Now that we are through, her world is falling apart, and everyone that ever liked her or cared about her, dosent anymore.

Is it bad that i enjoy seeing this? Her losing all of her friends and several hating her? And whenever i see her happy, i get pissed. is that bad, or does she deserve it?
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it's bad. you are still obsessed with her.
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: JM Aggie08
Well several months ago my girlfriend cheated on me with a fried of mine, so i dumped her ass. it killed me for a few months after.

Now that we are through, her world is falling apart, and everyone that ever liked her or cared about her, dosent anymore.

Is it bad that i enjoy seeing this? Her losing all of her friends and several hating her? And whenever i see her happy, i get pissed. is that bad, or does she deserve it?
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it's bad. you are still obsessed with her.
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I don't know if I would say obsessed, it's been a few months, seeing his ex, is a reminder, and a slap in the face. Obsessed to me is stalking her, that is obsessed, and sharing the same friends can be a problem.

We all have our way of dealing, and is there a set time frame to GET OVER someone? No. He already realizes what he needs to do, just work at it OP.
 
Originally posted by: LookingGlass
Originally posted by: JM Aggie08
Originally posted by: reverend boltron
You know what's really sad? I had a very similar thing happen to me. Man, chicks are t3h sux0rz. It's okay though, I ended up deleting my myspace because I didn't want to deal with all of the baggage that goes along with it, and seriously, my life is a lot better.

But yeah, that whole mutual friends thing can be a killer, but like, lucky for me I don't see them anymore. And I can honestly say that I am very thankful that it happened now, just because I don't think I would have experienced the things that I did if she hadn't cheated on me. So praise the Lord for growth through humility. Bad things started happening to my ex too, and she always comes back to me for comfort. It's no fun at all because I don't like being put in the position to have to deny someone, but like, seriously, it really isn't worth stumbling and bringing up old feelings because someone is plucking my heart strings for theme music.
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amen
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Samething can be said about guys too. You have to realize, all women/girls are not like that, we all get screwed over. It happens. With age *hopefully* will come maturity, wisdom, knowing how to treat people. That can be said for both genders.

OP, of course you are pissed off, you have every right to be, seeing her just adds salt to that open wound, recognize it for what it is. Don't let her see you hurt, not worth that.
After awhile, you'll get to a point where you'll realize, it's just wasted energy it isn't worth it anymore. You'll learn to let it go. The old cliche', time does heal wounds.

Live and learn, time to move on, you will, eventually.
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Yeah, obviously guys do that stuff too. And I realize that not all women are like that, but really though, we were talking about our experiences with women, and specifically having bad things happen because of selfishness. While I appreciate where you're coming from, I really think that people could gather that I wasn't talking about every single woman out there. I wasn't saying that guys couldn't be t3h sux0rz either, I was really just being human, and relating to the OP because I know that it hurts, and that there are things to do that will help the healing process, like not putting yourself in places where you're going to see her, etc...

You are right in what you said though, so good job.
 
Originally posted by: JM Aggie08
Well several months ago my girlfriend cheated on me with a fried of mine, so i dumped her ass. it killed me for a few months after.

Now that we are through, her world is falling apart, and everyone that ever liked her or cared about her, dosent anymore.

Is it bad that i enjoy seeing this? Her losing all of her friends and several hating her? And whenever i see her happy, i get pissed. is that bad, or does she deserve it?
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you are delusional my friend, time to move on.
 
Was she a bitch for cheating on you? Yes

Are you a bitch from reveling in her misery? Even more so.

Get on with life man.
 
Originally posted by: tweakmm
Was she a bitch for cheating on you? Yes

Are you a bitch from reveling in her misery? Even more so.

Get on with life man.
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Agreed. Either choke the life out of her or move on.
 
Originally posted by: Nebor
Originally posted by: tweakmm
Was she a bitch for cheating on you? Yes

Are you a bitch from reveling in her misery? Even more so.

Get on with life man.
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Agreed. Either choke the life out of her or move on.
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[sarcasm]Yeah, that's a real mature thing to do, and say. Yay for the next woman you guys meet!![/endofsarcasm]
 
Originally posted by: LookingGlass
Originally posted by: Nebor
Originally posted by: tweakmm
Was she a bitch for cheating on you? Yes

Are you a bitch from reveling in her misery? Even more so.

Get on with life man.
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Agreed. Either choke the life out of her or move on.
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[sarcasm]Yeah, that's a real mature thing to do, and say. Yay for the next woman you guys meet!![/endofsarcasm]
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You should already feel sorry for most women that ATOTers meet. Late at night, ATOT is filled with guys who'd rather be part of the late night posting hilarity than go to bed with their girls.
 
Originally posted by: Nebor
Originally posted by: LookingGlass
Originally posted by: Nebor
Originally posted by: tweakmm
Was she a bitch for cheating on you? Yes

Are you a bitch from reveling in her misery? Even more so.

Get on with life man.
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Agreed. Either choke the life out of her or move on.
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[sarcasm]Yeah, that's a real mature thing to do, and say. Yay for the next woman you guys meet!![/endofsarcasm]
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You should already feel sorry for most women that ATOTers meet. Late at night, ATOT is filled with guys who'd rather be part of the late night posting hilarity than go to bed with their girls.
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Doesn't say much for the men around here now does it. But, I wouldn't be so sure about that. 😉
 
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