That is another thing that has seemed to strange to me. Conservatives are generally all about family. Allowing gays to create more stable households/families should be something that conservatives inherently value.
Agreed.
A lot of them are religious, and that doesn't allow them to support same-sex anything regardless of potential benefits.
You don't have to respect that, but at least acknowledge it. Just because a 5 year old can properly shoot a gun doesn't mean we allow 5 year olds to own guns.
Just sayin'..
But as Eskimospy points out, gay people remain gay if their marriage rights are removed. They don't become nice, hetero types; they just remain less secure, financially and socially. Anything bad one can imagine due to homosexuality is the same either way; the only difference is whether we allow them to enjoy the same rights, security, and respect under the law as the rest of us. We as individuals remain free to reject gay marriage either way - admittedly, with the notable exception that one cannot unlawfully discriminate on the basis of that rejection. But that's the same with everything. One can despise fat people at will; one cannot refuse to sell them sheets or bread or flowers based on that hate.
If we support marriage, love, and family, then absent some great specific societal ill we should want those things to be as widespread as possible.
Except that the opinion by Kennedy essentially says that if a state recognized marrying 6 year olds the federal government would have to recognize the marriage as well.
Except he doesn't strike it down because of the equal protection clause:
http://www.slate.com/articles/news_...constitutional.html?google_editors_picks=true
Kennedy appears to be engaging in a lot of legal rambling to hide the fact that he has no real basis for overturning DOMA. His actual basis is probably more along the lines that SSM is becoming more popular and he is swaying with the winds.
The SC is clearly not endorsing a right to SSM, or SSM would be legal in all 50 states now.
The downside is redefining marriage to be nothing more than a benefits grabbing circle-jerk. The liberal claim is that marriage has nothing to do with commitment, family, or values. That is in fact central to their argument in favor of SSM.
Perhaps I'm reading too much into the decision, but it seems to me that laws against gay marriage will have a very hard time existing under this ruling. I certainly would have preferred a more strongly worded decision to make this plain.
As far as the liberal concept of marriage, my understanding of the argument is that marriage has everything to do with commitment, family, security, and values for hetero
and homo couples, and that it is therefore immoral to deny whatever benefits accrue with a good and compelling reason. This is much the same as blacks' struggle for civil rights; that benefits accrue does not mean that the struggle was at its core a struggle for basic human rights and equality.
Honestly, this is shit we're supposed to learn in kindergarten if our families haven't taught us before that. Be nice. Be fair. Don't hurt people. For all the problems I have with the proggies, they are often markedly better at this than we conservative Christians. It's like we too often feel like obedience in Christianity is more important than love.
Would you die (or send your only child to die) for someone to command obedience, or out of love?
And on that note one day before Independence Day, a big thank you to those who have personally made that choice. Freedom isn't free, and some of those who obtained and who guard our freedom make the ultimate sacrifice while doing so. If that is you or your family - thank you and G-d bless.