Sorry guys, I didn't think that I left you hanging with my last post, but here is the final resolution on the story:
She moved out and I haven't seen her since, she's called my cell phone a few times since, but not at all for the past few months. In any case I didn't answer nor will I answer. Things were a little weird with my other friends for a few weeks while I determined where I stood with them, but that has since passed and we can hang out. Things really have gotten better for me, I have a lot more stressful activities in my life now (working more, started my own company, and school) but I don't feel nearly as stressed as I used to, and I'm almost never depressed.
I've gotten everything back that was mine, I decided against restraining orders because I just didn't feel there would be a tangible benefit that would justify the time and money. My other room mate is still "friends" with her, which means he has to leave parties that we are at occasionally to go help her through some crisis. I don't talk about her to people and I don't give him any advice about her because I think its just asking for trouble.
Again sorry for the lack of updates, I don't want anyone to feel syringered! Things are good now and much less complicated. Thanks again for listening to my insane problems back in November!
So I moved into an appartment this year with my bestfriend since 8th grade and a girl that I have known since I was 8. Everything was cool for a while all good, one day things just change, and she starts like acting weird around me so I'm like screw it start hangin out with other people etc.
Well basically for the past 6 weeks at least once a week we'll get into a huge argument and she flips out over something really small, like me having a girl over to watch a movie or spend the night. So skipping a lot here to keep it short her mom came down to go shopping with her for the day thursday, ended up staying, is still here, yesterday my room mate said she was moving out by tuesday and I'm like wtf why so we talk and her mom is like there is nothing you can do you're causing her to make bad decisions I don't want you two hanging out etc. I don't think its a great idea for this girl to live alone, she gets depressed really easily and I was like I don't want you to live alone and she said its either that or move back home and live with her parents and go to a different school so I'm like eh aight if its good for you then do it.
Then just now her mom comes down and is like I don't want her living alone what if you just moved out, and I'm like no way am I paying 2 leases so she said she would take care of everything, all the papers everything (she's a lawyer) pay for the rent here and pay the difference in rent between this place and wherever I move to, but she wants me out by next monday.
I really don't wanna leave, I have all my HT stuff set up here, gonna be hell to move, plus then it would basically be like her and all my friends hang out and I live by myself, (all of our friends hang out at our place) and her mom doesn't want me coming back. WTF would you guys do?
/edit oh yeah about the bad decisions I made her quit smoking and stop taking X, wonder if those are the bad decisions she is talking about...
/edit UPDATE yeah not that I needed more advice, but I still had to at least talk to my dad about the situation. After I got off the phone with him I went up stairs and calmly told her that I had decided it was best for me to stay in this apartment and asked her to give me a few days notice when she intended to move out so I could get utilities put in my name. She looked really depressed, but I didn't want to risk going into another long talk with no resolution. She walked out of the room got her cell phone and left without saying anything to me other than "OK"
UPDATE #2 Last night I was helping them pack up, my room mate seemed cool so I was just trying to make things go smoothly. I Offhandedly asked her mom what they were doing about the lease because each month each of my room mates pays me $17.64 because my room is smallest (the complex normally charges that price for people that didnt know each other going in, but because we signed up as friends they let us deal with it) so I wanted to make sure that if she was going to have to continue paying the lease, then I wanted to have my 17.67 a month, its not a lot, but helps with utilities etc.
Anyways at this point her mom says "I don't know what I'm going to do, I haven't even decided if I'm not going to sue you yet" So I said "Ok, I'm not going to get into this with you, I just want things to go smoothly here" so she said "you'll get into whatever I tell you to get into you piece of sh!7" Then my room mate was like mom chill out so I'm like "I'm going to stay out of the way" and her mom said "you need to get the f#@% out while I'm here, come back in a few days" So at this point I seriously can't handle that so I said "I'm not goin anywhere, and you are being very petty here...its like arguing with a child" which wasn't a great thing to say heh. My room mate was like show my mom some fscking respect and I'm like you need to chlll, you two deserve each other. That sent her over the edge so she started hitting me, so at this point I'm like I don't want them messing with my stuff so I called the security guard to get the number for the police.
I called the police and talked to an officer who said they would send a unit out if I would like and have them arrested for assault if I wanted, but that was not going to help the situation, I asked if they could just send an officer to supervise and they said they don't do stand by but they will take them off to jail if that is what I wanted. I told them not to do that, so they gave me some advice on what to do.
I started taking pictures of all of my stuff and the whole process, the security guard came down and was supervising the process making sure everyone kept their cool, I called my dad and told him the situation and he just said, if she wants to be petty and try to sue let her, she'll just be wasting her time, but that I shouldn't worry about it too much, not worth wasting the time on. So after that I packed some stuff up to head to a friends apartment, left the video camera running making sure they didn't go in my room, I was gonna spend the night at a friends house, but we all decided screw that, I pay rent here no way in he11 I'm sleeping on the floor because her mom has issues. So I came back and slept here with my door locked.
That whole night sucked, I don't know why they felt it was necessary to leave at midnight but they did, the worst part was having my room mate blow up at me, her mom I can handle I don't give a sh1t what that crazy ho does, but basically this means I'm not talking to that girl again.
/edit UPDATE: Couldn't update because they took the DSL modem and Router out of my room while I was out. Both of which I paid for. My other room mate has since recovered them, but the service was in her name so I'll be without internet for a few days.
Last night her dad came into my room while I was on the phone with my dad (who got me a lawyer yesterday) and said that he didn't want me to see his daughter ever again and if I did he would "come down and settle the score"
I drove home last night before I did anything I would regret. Anyways just met with the lawyer today, he's a friend of my dads. They want me to file a restraining order against her and her family. Also it won't be the first for either the mother or the daughter.
To answer a few questions: No I have never done anything remotely sexual with this girl, no kissing, nothing, you don't date room mates, and even before that it was platonic. Also I don't know what has caused it to come to this level. My other room mate said her mom asked her if I ever hit her or ever would, and mentioned something about her asking about "voices" I have no idea where that comes from, both her and her younger brother have tried to commit suicide and a few christmas's ago her mom went after her dad with a knife, so talking about my stability is a little hypocritical.
She moved out and I haven't seen her since, she's called my cell phone a few times since, but not at all for the past few months. In any case I didn't answer nor will I answer. Things were a little weird with my other friends for a few weeks while I determined where I stood with them, but that has since passed and we can hang out. Things really have gotten better for me, I have a lot more stressful activities in my life now (working more, started my own company, and school) but I don't feel nearly as stressed as I used to, and I'm almost never depressed.
I've gotten everything back that was mine, I decided against restraining orders because I just didn't feel there would be a tangible benefit that would justify the time and money. My other room mate is still "friends" with her, which means he has to leave parties that we are at occasionally to go help her through some crisis. I don't talk about her to people and I don't give him any advice about her because I think its just asking for trouble.
Again sorry for the lack of updates, I don't want anyone to feel syringered! Things are good now and much less complicated. Thanks again for listening to my insane problems back in November!
So I moved into an appartment this year with my bestfriend since 8th grade and a girl that I have known since I was 8. Everything was cool for a while all good, one day things just change, and she starts like acting weird around me so I'm like screw it start hangin out with other people etc.
Well basically for the past 6 weeks at least once a week we'll get into a huge argument and she flips out over something really small, like me having a girl over to watch a movie or spend the night. So skipping a lot here to keep it short her mom came down to go shopping with her for the day thursday, ended up staying, is still here, yesterday my room mate said she was moving out by tuesday and I'm like wtf why so we talk and her mom is like there is nothing you can do you're causing her to make bad decisions I don't want you two hanging out etc. I don't think its a great idea for this girl to live alone, she gets depressed really easily and I was like I don't want you to live alone and she said its either that or move back home and live with her parents and go to a different school so I'm like eh aight if its good for you then do it.
Then just now her mom comes down and is like I don't want her living alone what if you just moved out, and I'm like no way am I paying 2 leases so she said she would take care of everything, all the papers everything (she's a lawyer) pay for the rent here and pay the difference in rent between this place and wherever I move to, but she wants me out by next monday.
I really don't wanna leave, I have all my HT stuff set up here, gonna be hell to move, plus then it would basically be like her and all my friends hang out and I live by myself, (all of our friends hang out at our place) and her mom doesn't want me coming back. WTF would you guys do?
/edit oh yeah about the bad decisions I made her quit smoking and stop taking X, wonder if those are the bad decisions she is talking about...
/edit UPDATE yeah not that I needed more advice, but I still had to at least talk to my dad about the situation. After I got off the phone with him I went up stairs and calmly told her that I had decided it was best for me to stay in this apartment and asked her to give me a few days notice when she intended to move out so I could get utilities put in my name. She looked really depressed, but I didn't want to risk going into another long talk with no resolution. She walked out of the room got her cell phone and left without saying anything to me other than "OK"
UPDATE #2 Last night I was helping them pack up, my room mate seemed cool so I was just trying to make things go smoothly. I Offhandedly asked her mom what they were doing about the lease because each month each of my room mates pays me $17.64 because my room is smallest (the complex normally charges that price for people that didnt know each other going in, but because we signed up as friends they let us deal with it) so I wanted to make sure that if she was going to have to continue paying the lease, then I wanted to have my 17.67 a month, its not a lot, but helps with utilities etc.
Anyways at this point her mom says "I don't know what I'm going to do, I haven't even decided if I'm not going to sue you yet" So I said "Ok, I'm not going to get into this with you, I just want things to go smoothly here" so she said "you'll get into whatever I tell you to get into you piece of sh!7" Then my room mate was like mom chill out so I'm like "I'm going to stay out of the way" and her mom said "you need to get the f#@% out while I'm here, come back in a few days" So at this point I seriously can't handle that so I said "I'm not goin anywhere, and you are being very petty here...its like arguing with a child" which wasn't a great thing to say heh. My room mate was like show my mom some fscking respect and I'm like you need to chlll, you two deserve each other. That sent her over the edge so she started hitting me, so at this point I'm like I don't want them messing with my stuff so I called the security guard to get the number for the police.
I called the police and talked to an officer who said they would send a unit out if I would like and have them arrested for assault if I wanted, but that was not going to help the situation, I asked if they could just send an officer to supervise and they said they don't do stand by but they will take them off to jail if that is what I wanted. I told them not to do that, so they gave me some advice on what to do.
I started taking pictures of all of my stuff and the whole process, the security guard came down and was supervising the process making sure everyone kept their cool, I called my dad and told him the situation and he just said, if she wants to be petty and try to sue let her, she'll just be wasting her time, but that I shouldn't worry about it too much, not worth wasting the time on. So after that I packed some stuff up to head to a friends apartment, left the video camera running making sure they didn't go in my room, I was gonna spend the night at a friends house, but we all decided screw that, I pay rent here no way in he11 I'm sleeping on the floor because her mom has issues. So I came back and slept here with my door locked.
That whole night sucked, I don't know why they felt it was necessary to leave at midnight but they did, the worst part was having my room mate blow up at me, her mom I can handle I don't give a sh1t what that crazy ho does, but basically this means I'm not talking to that girl again.
/edit UPDATE: Couldn't update because they took the DSL modem and Router out of my room while I was out. Both of which I paid for. My other room mate has since recovered them, but the service was in her name so I'll be without internet for a few days.
Last night her dad came into my room while I was on the phone with my dad (who got me a lawyer yesterday) and said that he didn't want me to see his daughter ever again and if I did he would "come down and settle the score"
I drove home last night before I did anything I would regret. Anyways just met with the lawyer today, he's a friend of my dads. They want me to file a restraining order against her and her family. Also it won't be the first for either the mother or the daughter.
To answer a few questions: No I have never done anything remotely sexual with this girl, no kissing, nothing, you don't date room mates, and even before that it was platonic. Also I don't know what has caused it to come to this level. My other room mate said her mom asked her if I ever hit her or ever would, and mentioned something about her asking about "voices" I have no idea where that comes from, both her and her younger brother have tried to commit suicide and a few christmas's ago her mom went after her dad with a knife, so talking about my stability is a little hypocritical.
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