romantic date ideas?

Toggle sidebar Toggle sidebar
S

slackerinabox

Lifer
Mar 15, 2003
12,668
103
106
sooO.. I'm really bad at this. I'll call myself a social retard before you guys do. In fact, I've been working 7 days a week so I don't have time to even think of women. And, yes, I'm 24 and too old to be this retarded, but I dated one girl for nearly 7 years so I haven't had to romance a girl in years. I really suck at this so please try to be constructive and don't state the obvious - I know how pathetic this post sounds, I don't need to be reminded ;)

Anyway, here's my problem. I've been talking to and hanging out with this very cool girl for a little time now. We had 2 "outings" ( I wouldn't call them dates) but I want to step things up a bit but feel like I can't make a move unless the whole surrounding date is romantic and warrants a move. What I mean is, the first time we went out we went to an amusement park. We had a blast but there was no moment that just felt right. The last time we hung out was to see "War of the Worlds" and, again, that wasn't exactly the date movie of the year. She already said that she wants to see me again but I want to make sure that this doesn't go into friend territory (isn't there a 3 date rule - make a move by the third time or face the friend zone) so any advice would be great.

Thanks!
 
T

tami

Lifer
Nov 14, 2004
11,588
3
81
go to a nice restaurant at a candlelit dinner with some slow live or romantic music in the background. get to know her more over dinner. see where it takes you.

if it goes well, go on a walk with her, perhaps to some nice park and you can sit on a bench and continue chatting. or go to a fountain or a nice place like that. or the waterfront.
 
G

gigapet

Lifer
Aug 9, 2001
10,005
0
76
taking her on a romantic date puts her in the 'courting' frame which means she's going to make you wait longer and pay more for the sex
 
L

Lola

can you set up a picnic for you guys? nice goumet finger foods that you can be "romantic" eating? some good wine?
thats always nice because it makes you sit together and talk, where at a movie or somthing like an amusement park, there are too many distractions!
 
J

jaedaliu

Platinum Member
Feb 25, 2005
2,670
1
81
take her to wedding crashers.

the problem with "romantic" is that if you want to do it easily, it costs a lot of money:
nice restaurant
taking her to a play
gondola ride around the harbor
huge ass diamond ring (i'm just kidding about this one)

or you can be more creative and save some money:
vials of each others' blood worn around the neck
picnic in the park
star gazing after picnic in the park (bring mosquito repellant if you're smart for the last 2)
movie at your place after you make her dinner

or whatever you can think of. Don't worry about moving too fast, you've gone out twice already (i'm assuming they're both 1-on-1 dates) If she didn't like you, she wouldn't have gone out with you the second time, or will turn you down when you ask her out again. So, make a move, just don't come across as a perv by grabbing her ass or bewbies if she doesn't seem ready for it.

oh, and don't take her to wedding crashers. I hear it's rated R for a reason.
 
S

slackerinabox

Lifer
Mar 15, 2003
12,668
103
106
Originally posted by: pclstyle
wow... 7 years is a long time. what happened?
Click to expand...

I won't get melodramatic so I'll keep it short :) I met her in highschool, dated her through college and we just grew up to be different people. I was always a fun loving slacker sort and she was the hard worker. Then we kinda swapped. She parties constantly and I'm always working my ass off. It led to a lot of frustration and such - I was never free, she bugged me because I saw her as a slacker and too old to JUST be partying. No one was at fault, we just frustrated each other too much to make staying together worth while.
 
J

JoeKing

Lifer
Oct 9, 1999
10,641
1
81
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: JoeKing
show her some of your movies and get some pity action.
Click to expand...

i stopped talking about films months ago.. Grow up..
Click to expand...

the horror of those creations have stuck with me all this time.
 
S

skimple

Golden Member
Feb 4, 2005
1,283
3
81
Wine tasting tours are always excellent - particular if you get a limo (or shuttle). Puts alcohol in the mix (which can't be a bad thing), let's someone else worry about getting from place to place, allowing the two of you to focus on each other, and has some variety. Buy her one bottle of her favorite from each place you stop.

It's not as "intense" as a candlelit dinner, so there's less pressure, plus she will have some "presents" to take home that will remind her of you.

It also gives her an opportunity to invite you over at a later date to sample some of the wines.

If it doesn't work out, you don't have the ackwardness of a "date"
 
S

slackerinabox

Lifer
Mar 15, 2003
12,668
103
106
Thanks for the suggestions guys. The problem with some of these, and I know this sounds weird, is that some are too obviously romantic. Like, I don't want it to be so obvious that I have a plan or something. I want her to have a good time, even if she rejects my move. That sounds weird, I know. But, ideally, the date should be fun regardless of the romance involved. Does that make sense? Like going to a romantic dinner and a boat ride is so obvious, though a nice walk in the park sounds like a good idea. battery park city sounds like another good idea. any ideas like that would be much appreciated - dates that are romantic yet worthwhile, regardless of whether we end up making out or end up just hugging each other goodbye.

make sense?
p.s. we've had dinner together twice and have had time to talk to each other quite a bit. i just gotta find a quieter place since bars/restaurants in nyc or either really loud or really pricey!
 
S

slackerinabox

Lifer
Mar 15, 2003
12,668
103
106
Originally posted by: skimple
Wine tasting tours are always excellent - particular if you get a limo (or shuttle). Puts alcohol in the mix (which can't be a bad thing), let's someone else worry about getting from place to place, allowing the two of you to focus on each other, and has some variety. Buy her one bottle of her favorite from each place you stop.

It's not as "intense" as a candlelit dinner, so there's less pressure, plus she will have some "presents" to take home that will remind her of you.

It also gives her an opportunity to invite you over at a later date to sample some of the wines.

If it doesn't work out, you don't have the ackwardness of a "date"
Click to expand...

we're on the same wavelength - great advice, lemme check if there are any in the tri-state area. though I can't afford a limo ;)
 
S

skimple

Golden Member
Feb 4, 2005
1,283
3
81
we're on the same wavelength - great advice, lemme check if there are any in the tri-state area. though I can't afford a limo ;)
Click to expand...

Some wineries set up tours that include transportation for a very reasonable price. It's usually a shuttle van, but the ones I have been one are very well maintained.

Save time after the tour for dinner, but don't make plans. That way you can offer dinner at the end of the tour, or back out if things didn't go well. If she wants to accept dinner, let her pick the place.

 
S

slackerinabox

Lifer
Mar 15, 2003
12,668
103
106
Originally posted by: skimple
we're on the same wavelength - great advice, lemme check if there are any in the tri-state area. though I can't afford a limo ;)
Click to expand...

Some wineries set up tours that include transportation for a very reasonable price. It's usually a shuttle van, but the ones I have been one are very well maintained.

Save time after the tour for dinner, but don't make plans. That way you can offer dinner at the end of the tour, or back out if things didn't go well. If she wants to accept dinner, let her pick the place.
Click to expand...

Dude, you are SOOooO smooth! Thanks for the advice :)

 
C

chowmein

Platinum Member
Oct 31, 2004
2,252
1
0
Originally posted by: maziwanka
Originally posted by: chowmein
battery park city at night is gorgeous.

:music:strangers in the night:music:
Click to expand...

indeed. the weather is kinda nasty though. too humid
Click to expand...

it's never humid near the hudson at night, in fact it's quite breezy.

thus enabling semi-romantic intimacy. :thumbsup:
 
S

SouthPaW1227

Golden Member
Aug 4, 2004
1,863
0
0
Freaking PICNIC dude!!!!!!

I spent like $30 total and had a hooked up picnic in a basket/cooler, and we went out to a local waterfront and setup the food on a big old beach towel. OMG she loved it. Couldn't stop talking about it.

After lots of expensive meals in the ~4 years we've been out, that $30 picnic was probably the MOST romantic to her at this point. Picnic!
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

TRENDING THREADS

COMPANY
RESOURCES
FOLLOW
Top Bottom