Relationships between people with a LOT in common...

[Juice Box]

What is the general opinion on relationships between two people with A LOT in common.....and when i say in common i mean things like music tastes, movie tastes, and views of the world. Ive been talking to someone that i met the other day and I have never met someone with so much in common with me. A lot of people have told me to stay away from people that are the same as you, and i was just wondering what you guys though. Not that i am saying I will do what AT tells me....just trying to get a geneal concensus.

 

[BriGy86]

wtf? your life will be drama free take it and RUN!

 

[GTaudiophile]

I would like to know too. My GF and I have little in common aside from mutual respect and attraction. While the latter is good, the former often bothers me

I always thought I was looking for a woman who was as close to my personality as possible.

 

[Sluggo]

If you agree on everything, what in the world will you ever talk about?

Your general agreededness?

 

[Juice Box]

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
I would like to know too. My GF and I have little in common aside from mutual respect and attraction. While the latter is good, the former often bothers me

I always thought I was looking for a woman who was as close to my personality as possible.

see, that's how i feel about it too.....and i can only hope the latter afore mentioned develops....having the former makes me happy about the friendship.

 

[BriGy86]

for me, i think a girl friend should be nothing more than just another good friend except you get to bang her

 

[Xonoahbin]

Inbetween says I.. I know if I was with someone a lot like me, there'd be heated debates, hardheadedness and a slight amount of ego..
Wait, that doesn't sound too bad!
Anyway, too much alike is going to be like I said, too little doesn't work great. Inbetween.

 

[Juice Box]

Originally posted by: BriGy86
for me, i think a girl friend should be nothing more than just another good friend except you get to bang her

and you happen to be one of the guys i hate

 

[EyeMWing]

A duplicate of yourself is a bad thing. You're familiar with all your own flaws whether you're conscious of them or not. You'll hold those against your partner as well. And then there's the problem of there being no mystery or surprise or newness. It's the most COMFORTABLE way to go, but also one of the more stressful in the long run.

 

[GTaudiophile]

Originally posted by: Sluggo
If you agree on everything, what in the world will you ever talk about?

Your general agreededness?

While I agree in many respects, there are some areas of disagreement which are harder to live with than others. Such as religion and politics. And the fact that I am 25 and my GF is 36 doesn't always help matters.

 

[BriGy86]

i've found that people i have nothing in common with i get bored with

i could really care less about what they have to say because im not on the same plane of thinking as they are

 

[GTaudiophile]

Originally posted by: BriGy86
i've found that people i have nothing in common with i get bored with

i could really care less about what they have to say because im not on the same plane of thinking as they are

Or you avoid many areas of discussion to avoid confrontation. Then vital things just don't get said.

 

[BriGy86]

Originally posted by: Juice Box

Originally posted by: BriGy86
for me, i think a girl friend should be nothing more than just another good friend except you get to bang her

and you happen to be one of the guys i hate

muah? :shocked:

 

[cjgallen]

Similar interests is fine, similar personalities may be an issue.

 

[Juice Box]

Originally posted by: cjgallen
Similar interests is fine, similar personalities may be an issue.

well....i do not know her personality as well yet...she seems to be a lot more reserved than I...so that may work out well...I am just saying very similar interests as me...almost identical

 

[Xonoahbin]

Originally posted by: Juice Box

Originally posted by: BriGy86
for me, i think a girl friend should be nothing more than just another good friend except you get to bang her

and you happen to be one of the guys i hate

Agreed!

 

[BriGy86]

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile

Originally posted by: BriGy86
i've found that people i have nothing in common with i get bored with

i could really care less about what they have to say because im not on the same plane of thinking as they are

Or you avoid many areas of discussion to avoid confrontation. Then vital things just don't get said.

yeah cause more stress is always good, i hate bitching back and forth on issues such as religion, politics and money. because it never goes anywhere and the other person just ends up hating you with the fury of a thousand suns... or maybe they just end up hating me that much

 

[LookingGlass]

Why not have things in common? So what. I wouldn't care what others think. I would rather share much in common, and explore life together. Isn't that what it's about anyway? Living life, and going through it with someone you have so much in common with. That works for me.

 

[archcommus]

My girlfriend and I are exactly alike and it has been beneficial in many situations.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: Juice Box
What is the general opinion on relationships between two people with A LOT in common.....and when i say in common i mean things like music tastes, movie tastes, and views of the world. Ive been talking to someone that i met the other day and I have never met someone with so much in common with me. A lot of people have told me to stay away from people that are the same as you, and i was just wondering what you guys though. Not that i am saying I will do what AT tells me....just trying to get a geneal concensus.

Who cares what they think? If YOU are interested in her, then see where it leads. It might work out, it might not. You won't know if you don't try.

 

[Juice Box]

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: Juice Box
What is the general opinion on relationships between two people with A LOT in common.....and when i say in common i mean things like music tastes, movie tastes, and views of the world. Ive been talking to someone that i met the other day and I have never met someone with so much in common with me. A lot of people have told me to stay away from people that are the same as you, and i was just wondering what you guys though. Not that i am saying I will do what AT tells me....just trying to get a geneal concensus.

Who cares what they think? If YOU are interested in her, then see where it leads. It might work out, it might not. You won't know if you don't try.

i agree, and I plan on doing what I want. I am just trying to see what other people have experienced with this, that's all

 

[EmperorIQ]

Originally posted by: Juice Box

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
I would like to know too. My GF and I have little in common aside from mutual respect and attraction. While the latter is good, the former often bothers me

I always thought I was looking for a woman who was as close to my personality as possible.

see, that's how i feel about it too.....and i can only hope the latter afore mentioned develops....having the former makes me happy about the friendship.

My gf and I don't have much in common. We both have a mutual respect for each other's appreciation, and our relationship is still going strong, 4 years and 2 months so far. I don't think its what you have in common, but more of how well youg et along together.

 

[Hyudra]

One way to look relationships is with personalities. Say you are generally reservered and stuff, then maybe it's good to find someone who's open. This kinda makes things "complete" in your life, because you have both reserved and opened in your life, and not too much of one. I guess it's good to have some common interests tho.

 

[archcommus]

If you like the girl just go get her!