relationships and arguments

[thirtythree]

Do you think getting into arguments and working through them makes a relationship stronger or do you think memories of things said will hinder the relationship in the future?

 

[AreaCode707]

So don't say damaging things. Arguments don't have to be fights. And yeah, I think working through issues (often requiring an argument) makes the relationship stronger.

 

[thirtythree]

Originally posted by: HotChic
So don't say damaging things.

Yeah... what if it's too late for that?

EDIT: And no this thread isn't related to anything going on in my life right now

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: HotChic
So don't say damaging things. Arguments don't have to be fights. And yeah, I think working through issues (often requiring an argument) makes the relationship stronger.

Agreed. Arguments are fine. Fights aren't.

Argument = difference of opinions, usually positive result, angry makeup sex optional.
Fight = name-calling, usually negative, and you're on the couch for sure!

- M4H

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Deslocke

Originally posted by: HotChic
So don't say damaging things.

Yeah... what if it's too late for that?

Enjoy the couch.

- M4H

 

[Mookow]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: HotChic
So don't say damaging things. Arguments don't have to be fights. And yeah, I think working through issues (often requiring an argument) makes the relationship stronger.

Agreed. Arguments are fine. Fights aren't.

Argument = difference of opinions, usually positive result, angry makeup sex optional.
Fight = name-calling, usually negative, and you're on the couch for sure!

- M4H

What about angry make up sex on the couch... and the floor... and the kitchen counter...

 

[iwearnosox]

I'm beyond arguing. My girlfriend is cute and sweet but she drives me nuts, I want her out.

Out! Get out!!

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: Deslocke

Originally posted by: HotChic
So don't say damaging things.

Yeah... what if it's too late for that?

EDIT: And no this thread isn't related to anything going on in my life right now

Then you back down, apologize for saying inappropriate things in the heat of anger, ask forgiveness for saying them. You have to take the first step on this, not wait or expect the other person to do so. Explain that you want to learn to argue without using accusatory words.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Mookow

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: HotChic
So don't say damaging things. Arguments don't have to be fights. And yeah, I think working through issues (often requiring an argument) makes the relationship stronger.

Agreed. Arguments are fine. Fights aren't.

Argument = difference of opinions, usually positive result, angry makeup sex optional.
Fight = name-calling, usually negative, and you're on the couch for sure!

- M4H

What about angry make up sex on the couch... and the floor... and the kitchen counter...

... and the table ... and the washer/dryer ... and the recliner ... and the shower ... and maybe even the bed

- M4H

 

[johnjohn320]

Between two mature adults, yes, it should make the relationship stronger. Course, there are always those people who are so non-confrontational that if you try to resolve something with them they think you're "picking a fight." That always pissed me off.

 

[iwearnosox]

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: Deslocke

Originally posted by: HotChic
So don't say damaging things.

Yeah... what if it's too late for that?

EDIT: And no this thread isn't related to anything going on in my life right now

Then you back down, apologize for saying inappropriate things in the heat of anger, ask forgiveness for saying them. You have to take the first step on this, not wait or expect the other person to do so. Explain that you want to learn to argue without using accusatory words.

Unless you want them out, then you kick it up a notch, but they don't leave. EVER.

Argh.

 

[iwearnosox]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Mookow

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: HotChic
So don't say damaging things. Arguments don't have to be fights. And yeah, I think working through issues (often requiring an argument) makes the relationship stronger.

Agreed. Arguments are fine. Fights aren't.

Argument = difference of opinions, usually positive result, angry makeup sex optional.
Fight = name-calling, usually negative, and you're on the couch for sure!

- M4H

What about angry make up sex on the couch... and the floor... and the kitchen counter...

... and the table ... and the washer/dryer ... and the recliner ... and the shower ... and maybe even the bed

- M4H

Don't yell at your dog whilst drinking with a jar of peanut butter around, you'll hate yourself in the morning.

 

[Lager]

Yes Deslocke, you are the father!

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: iwearnosox

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Mookow

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: HotChic
So don't say damaging things. Arguments don't have to be fights. And yeah, I think working through issues (often requiring an argument) makes the relationship stronger.

Agreed. Arguments are fine. Fights aren't.

Argument = difference of opinions, usually positive result, angry makeup sex optional.
Fight = name-calling, usually negative, and you're on the couch for sure!

- M4H

What about angry make up sex on the couch... and the floor... and the kitchen counter...

... and the table ... and the washer/dryer ... and the recliner ... and the shower ... and maybe even the bed

- M4H

Don't yell at your dog whilst drinking with a jar of peanut butter around, you'll hate yourself in the morning.

That's your own dumb fault, dude. You are crazy sniffable, after all.

- M4H

 

[iwearnosox]

Apparently there's only a two drink difference between crazy sniffable and crazy lickable.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: iwearnosox
Apparently there's only a two drink difference between crazy sniffable and crazy lickable.

And on that note, I think it's time for me to sign off. :Q

- M4H

 

[iwearnosox]

:beer:

(The above was fiction, I only own cats.)

 

[thirtythree]

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: Deslocke

Originally posted by: HotChic
So don't say damaging things.

Yeah... what if it's too late for that?

EDIT: And no this thread isn't related to anything going on in my life right now

Then you back down, apologize for saying inappropriate things in the heat of anger, ask forgiveness for saying them. You have to take the first step on this, not wait or expect the other person to do so. Explain that you want to learn to argue without using accusatory words.

It's been done so I guess there's not much else I can do...

 

[Linux23]

yeah, i don't like to get angry. you wouldn't like me when i'm angry.


seriously, i turn into a different person when people push my buttons. i had this one girl who knew the right buttons to push, and unfortunately she pushed them too hard and...

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Fight = name-calling, usually negative, and you're on the couch for sure!

Why do you have to get stuck with the couch? Make her sleep out there...

 

[Mookow]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Mookow

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: HotChic
So don't say damaging things. Arguments don't have to be fights. And yeah, I think working through issues (often requiring an argument) makes the relationship stronger.

Agreed. Arguments are fine. Fights aren't.

Argument = difference of opinions, usually positive result, angry makeup sex optional.
Fight = name-calling, usually negative, and you're on the couch for sure!

- M4H

What about angry make up sex on the couch... and the floor... and the kitchen counter...

... and the table ... and the washer/dryer ... and the recliner ... and the shower ... and maybe even the bed

- M4H

awww... come on... not the bed... its make-up sex

 

[Mookow]

Originally posted by: Linux23
yeah, i don't like to get angry. you wouldn't like me when i'm angry.


seriously, i turn into a different person when people push my buttons. i had this one girl who knew the right buttons to push, and unfortunately she pushed them too hard and...

... and you got b!tch-slapped?

 

[Mookow]

Originally posted by: iwearnosox
:beer:

(The above was fiction, I only own cats.)

I dont know if that exonerates you... because I dont know the licking habits of cats as related to peanut butter.