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Originally posted by: Pippy
I'm getting this ring to show we're committed to eventually being engaged
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Wow, your woman is so lucky. You want to commit to the idea of making a commitment, and she can hope that someday you get around to that.

Thanks for proving my point; you are committed to stupidity and wasting money.

Why don't you get her something else instead, something that shows your commitment to getting a ring that will show your commitment to an engagement ring that will show your commitment to getting married?
 
To answer your question:

1. There is no way you are going to avoid the "ARE YOU MARRIED?!!?!" Question. You are wearing something that is or is very close to wedding bands. No matter what finger you put it on, people will ask you if you are married. It's just if you wear it on the wrong finger they will also think you are retarded.

2. With how young you are you will probably get a lot of questions from girls at college. Girls love competition and the thrill of the chase. They hate settling down at this age. So you are setting yourself up to be every girls best friend who they can tell anything and everything to but you will get nothing back from the relationship.
 
Originally posted by: PurdueRy
To answer your question:

1. There is no way you are going to avoid the "ARE YOU MARRIED?!!?!" Question. You are wearing something that is or is very close to wedding bands. No matter what finger you put it on, people will ask you if you are married. It's just if you wear it on the wrong finger they will also think you are retarded.

2. With how young you are you will probably get a lot of questions from girls at college. Girls love competition and the thrill of the chase. They hate settling down at this age. So you are setting yourself up to be every girls best friend who they can tell anything and everything to but you will get nothing back from the relationship.
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Thank you. The reason why we want a band is, they're relatively cheap but most importantly they're not overtly gaudy. Alright, I think those are pretty obvious and easy to deal with. At least I'll be able to be a recon to all of my buddies, heh. Thanks again to all the constructive posts.
 
well being a city apart is a bad start...I personally donk think any ring is warranted...if a girl approaches you, just tell them you are taken and same for your gal
 
If your word is not enough, or her word for that matter - then you're basically getting these rings for everyone else to see, which is also kinda lame IMHO.

Spend your money on a trip together. You can even call it a "promise" trip.
 
If you'd really like to get some kind of ring that's not uber-expensive, get a set of claddagh rings. It has the symbolism you're looking for and the prices range from $40 - $more than you'd probably want to spend.

Just my $.02...
 
If you're so serious why dont you get engaged and just not set a wedding date? It's basically the same thing.
 
Originally posted by: Pippy

Anyways, can someone PLEASE help me with how not to confuse it with a wedding ring. Just wear it on your right ring fingers? Looking online, it can go either waying depending on the country, I'm just wonder what's the american way.
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i don't think you can avoid the confusion. nobody really wears "wedding rings" as commitment rings or whatever you are using them for.

just get engaged. you're already planning on it.

btw, my wedding ring (and my husband's wedding ring) cost approximately the same amount -- and they look identical to the rings you've linked to. what do you ultimately plan on wearing as a "wedding ring" once you do get married?
 
Originally posted by: OpenThirdEye
If you'd really like to get some kind of ring that's not uber-expensive, get a set of claddagh rings. It has the symbolism you're looking for and the prices range from $40 - $more than you'd probably want to spend.

Just my $.02...
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Looks like stuff from Lord of the Rings..kinda cheesey IMO
 
Originally posted by: mrrman
Originally posted by: OpenThirdEye
If you'd really like to get some kind of ring that's not uber-expensive, get a set of claddagh rings. It has the symbolism you're looking for and the prices range from $40 - $more than you'd probably want to spend.

Just my $.02...
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Looks like stuff from Lord of the Rings..kinda cheesey IMO
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Then he is screwed because we all know how the ladies love Lord Of The Rings LMAO!!!!
 
STUPID idea.... i did it, never again.. the bitch cheated on me.. even when ring was around.. just not on her finger.. there is no way to enforce.. trust me.. dont spend more than 20..

i had got my ex a amethyst ring from overstock.. cost me 20.. and frankly that was too much for the 2cent whore.
 
Originally posted by: TheGoodGuy
STUPID idea.... i did it, never again.. the bitch cheated on me.. even when ring was around.. just not on her finger.. there is no way to enforce.. trust me.. dont spend more than 20..

i had got my ex a amethyst ring from overstock.. cost me 20.. and frankly that was too much for the 2cent whore.
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Well, I'm hoping that won't happen but if it happens (which I very much doubt because of her culture) I still wouldn't regret it. It's only a week's pay but still worthy.
 
Sounds like your GF has pussywhipped you to the point where a ring will be an overkill. Spend your money on something more useful, like a new collar for yourself.
 
Originally posted by: AnyMal
Sounds like your GF has pussywhipped you to the point where a ring will be an overkill. Spend your money on something more useful, like a new collar for yourself.
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or try one on her, hell, she may be into it
 
Originally posted by: Pippy
Originally posted by: PurdueRy
I need to know, how old are you

EDIT: Looks like you just graduated HS(2006)....sad. Lemme guess, your going to different colleges and you want to promise to stay together? Good luck with that.
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Yes we are going to different college, though they're only a city apart. The point of the ring is not to "promise" each other in anyway, getting a ring to do that is lame, our love is enough. It's just to let people know that we're not interested in any one else. I can easily afford it so it's not like "it's a waste of money". We really like each other and I could see myself marrying her down the line. So screw you pessemistic nay sayers. I tend to see the good and best in things, so I have hope. I have a "gut feeling" and I'm just going to ride it.
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hahahaha. thats sweet.

but, in all seriousness, i wish you the best.

however, this whole plan is quite stupid. having a ring is going to work as well as telling other people that you have a gf (and for her, a bf).

the ring should symbolize a hell of a lot more than "letting people know that you're not interested in anyone else."
 
I think it is sweet that you want to wear a ring to show your love for each other. My fiance gave me a "promise ring" a year after we dated and I wore it on my left ring finger. I know you said you didn't want a "promise ring" but look into something similar to that. I have seen some rings that you personalize and you could have both of you names on it. I want one that has our names on it, it will say something like "Tyler & Carolyn" so you may be able to get that. It will have the meaning of you being together without the look of a wedding band. You can get gold or silver. Here is an example from walmart they have other styles at the store. Whatever you decide will look fine.
 
i got my bf a ring in white gold with a band of brushed gold around the center. its a very simple, "man ring" but it looks nothing like an engagement ring.
I have a white gold/diamonds/aqua marine ring that is really nice but looks nothign like an engagement ring.

We wear them on our right hands.
 
Originally posted by: Pippy
We're not getting married or engaged
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Stop right there.

Don't get her a ring. It's shallow. It's half-assed. If you're going to get her a ring, then just freaking marry her.

Ask yourself this: Why do you NEED a ring? if you don't, then don't.
 
Originally posted by: Pippy
Originally posted by: TheGoodGuy
STUPID idea.... i did it, never again.. the bitch cheated on me.. even when ring was around.. just not on her finger.. there is no way to enforce.. trust me.. dont spend more than 20..

i had got my ex a amethyst ring from overstock.. cost me 20.. and frankly that was too much for the 2cent whore.
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Well, I'm hoping that won't happen but if it happens (which I very much doubt because of her culture) I still wouldn't regret it. It's only a week's pay but still worthy.
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You don't get it. College age students, especially freshmen, are horny bastards. Being away from the parents for the first time gives EVERYONE a feeling of feedom that is very, almost impossibly hard to resist. Unless you're there on a regular (daily or every other day) basis, she is going to cheat on you... or you on her. One good party where one of you is drunk enough to justify it is all it takes. A lame ring isn't going to change anything. At some point, one of you is going to make the call to the other that 'you have to talk' and 'it's not working out.'

Either get engaged to her or accept the normal LD relationship rules and stipulations. A promise ring means less than the rubber that the random frat boy will be wearing when she gets drunk and decides she's waited long enough.

I'd tell you good luck, but I have met less than 3 guys who have actually pulled off what you are attempting to do, out of about 100. And don't give us the "I don't want girls hitting on me to think the wrong thing" line... if you have to say that, it means that no girls are hitting on you and you want to look tough for the internet community.
 
On second thought, here's a quote that is ingrained into most peoples heads but needs repeating: Sh!t or get off the pot. Either ask her to marry you or accept that when you part ways that's going to be it.
 
Originally posted by: ThaGrandCow
On second thought, here's a quote that is ingrained into most peoples heads but needs repeating: Sh!t or get off the pot. Either ask her to marry you or accept that when you part ways that's going to be it.
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QFT :thumbsup:
 
Alright, forget this thread. She just e-mailed me today she bought 2 white gold rings with diamonds encrusted over in vietnam. I guess she's one step ahead of me, heh. Thanks to the peole who tried to help!
 
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