Relationship communication fun

[Exterous]

My wife hit some traffic and got to our house after her friends did so she parked in the road instead of parking them in. After they left she asked me "Can you go move my car into the garage? Its cold outside and I don't want to do it."

Me: "No."

I got a text the following morning "Asshole. I wasn't expecting you to not move it to the garage and had to scrape my windshield off "

Me: "I don't know how I could have been more clear that I wasn't moving your car"

Good times

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

You fail at being a husband.

 

[Exterous]

You fail at being a husband.

Eh - I knew the ATOT judgement crowd would come out. Personally I think there is a balance point in relationships that comes before catering to her every whim. 16 years in so far

 

[Thebobo]

Don't they teach women that no means no?

 

[CraKaJaX]

I support OP's decision. Stand tall.

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

Eh - I knew the ATOT judgement crowd would come out. Personally I think there is a balance point in relationships that comes before catering to her every whim. 16 years in so far

You move the car not, to "cater to her every whim" but, to trade it in for a more onerous task in the future. You have much to learn, young padawan. Thirty years in.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Eh - I knew the ATOT judgement crowd would come out. Personally I think there is a balance point in relationships that comes before catering to her every whim. 16 years in so far

I would have done the same thing. Ignore the haters. I expect my wife to be a grown ass woman who handles her own stuff instead of relying on me to constantly make her life easier at my own expense. That's the kind of bullshit that Hollywood sells and I ain't buying it. I do things for her to be nice and she does the same, but I don't treat her like she's incapable.

 

[Exterous]

You move the car not, to "cater to her every whim" but, to trade it in for a more onerous task in the future. You have much to learn, young padawan. Thirty years in.

I guess keeping score in a marriage works for some

 

[MrDudeMan]

You move the car not, to "cater to her every whim" but, to trade it in for a more onerous task in the future. You have much to learn, young padawan. Thirty years in.

After settling in (10+ years), the length of time is irrelevant because your relationship is different than everyone else's. I don't trade in favors and I never will. If that works for you, fine.

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

After settling in (10+ years), the length of time is irrelevant because your relationship is different than everyone else's. I don't trade in favors and I never will. If that works for you, fine.

Lighten up there, Francis.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Lighten up there, Francis.

I'm fine. I just disagree with you and so does everyone else in this thread. Maybe you should lighten up.

 

[clamum]

LOL. I would've moved the car without much of a thought but I respect you for standing firm. Hahaha.

 

[BarkingGhostar]

LOL. I would've moved the car without much of a thought but I respect you for standing firm. Hahaha.

It may have been firm, but I am sure she wasn't gonna touch it this month.

 

[cbrunny]

I'd have moved it.

 

[deustroop]

You'll pay for that shit buddy. Sure, enforce your rights, like a lesbian at a stag party but you will eventually fail at the relationship thing. See the secret with the fairer sex is to acknowledge they be such. Gentle, gentle wins a smile . Give them a win occasionally , like going out in the cold , or my favorite , letting them decide (really unimportant ) things, like what time to set the dinner date , or the colour of the gun room wall paper.

Success is that they will feel important and you keep the important stuff for yourself. See that ?
If she closes up shop on that "I got my rights" stuff you only got one option.

 

[Nashemon]

LOL

Reminds me of mine except she'd follow up with something after I'd said no. The second part would never have came into play.

 

[highland145]

That reminds me, gotta get flowers for the B-Day tomorrow.

 

[nakedfrog]

Eh - I knew the ATOT judgement crowd would come out. Personally I think there is a balance point in relationships that comes before catering to her every whim. 16 years in so far

Yeah, I expected the same.
I don't know if I would have moved the car or not, depends, but if I said "no" I'd expect her to be not surprised when the car is not moved.

 

[Paratus]

So stance of dominance achieved?

 

[zinfamous]

Well, I see 2017 is off to a roaring start!

 

[Exterous]

It may have been firm, but I am sure she wasn't gonna touch it this month.

Does that really happen that often to guys over something fairly minor? She touched it about 14 hours later.

So stance of dominance achieved?

Damn straight!

Well, I see 2017 is off to a roaring start!

I do what I can

 

[Darwin333]

I guess keeping score in a marriage works for some

It kind of sounds like your wife is even if your not. I kind of agree, pick your battles and get your brownie points when you can my friend.

Yeah, I expected the same.
I don't know if I would have moved the car or not, depends, but if I said "no" I'd expect her to be not surprised when the car is not moved.

Also this.

 

[Paratus]

Look, if my wife my asks for a favor I do it. I mean if not for her then who?

That's how I've been a happily whipped man for almost 20 years.

 

[MrSquished]

How long you been married?

And it all depends how often you do things like this whether you may or may not die a lonely old man.

 

[Pulsar]

Look, if my wife my asks for a favor I do it. I mean if not for her then who?

It took me some time but I moved into the same mode. Took me a while to grow up and figure it out I guess. Every now and then I say no to something and she gets a little upset, but that's just learning where the 'nope' line is. Moving the car? Getting her a glass of water? Going to get her medicine if she asks? Not even a question, it gets done.