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Regarding Commitments, is there a point of breaking. . .

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PlatinumGold

Lifer
ok, so everyone took a pot shot at smackem to make themselves feel better, but is there a breaking point for you?


let's say you were dating a hottie, after 8 months, she decides she no longer has to maintain her appearance, 5 months later she has gained 15, 20, 25, 30, 35 lbs. is there a point where you would say enough is enough?

for me there definitely is a breaking point, AFAIC commitment is a two way street. if the other party makes no attempt to maintain the commitment then i'm not obliged to either.

it doesn't just have to be about weight, it could be anything, physical appearance, daily demeanor, physical violence (obvious one).

just curious.
 
My problem with smackem was that he was using the ignore her technique to get rid of her, which I find cold and pathetic. Dumping a girl because she is no longer attractive to you is a perfectly understandable position, particularly if you're young and have no children.
 
Originally posted by: PingSpike
My problem with smackem was that he was using the ignore her technique to get rid of her, which I find cold and pathetic. Dumping a girl because she is no longer attractive to you is a perfectly understandable position, particularly if you're young and have no children.
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i can understand that, many of the responses were, "OMG, you are so shallow". but really who isn't to an extent? isn't there a breaking point for all of us?
 
Originally posted by: PingSpike
My problem with smackem was that he was using the ignore her technique to get rid of her, which I find cold and pathetic. Dumping a girl because she is no longer attractive to you is a perfectly understandable position, particularly if you're young and have no children.
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word...
you might still come off as a dick to her and her friends and her family and most other ppl that know you guys but its all good youll be glad when its over
 
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Originally posted by: PingSpike
My problem with smackem was that he was using the ignore her technique to get rid of her, which I find cold and pathetic. Dumping a girl because she is no longer attractive to you is a perfectly understandable position, particularly if you're young and have no children.
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i can understand that, many of the responses were, "OMG, you are so shallow". but really who isn't to an extent? isn't there a breaking point for all of us?
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Most of those people were probably the same virgins that say any girl thats not jessica alba is a 2/10. They get shown one very old ultra blurry picture and think he's dumping a super model.

She looks pretty enough to me, from what I could tell. And from his own description she sounded like a very good partner, not one I would dump because of a little weight gain. But I acknowledge my level of shallowness isn't the same as anyone's. I mean if she gained 50-60pounds I'd have a pretty hard time convincing myself to stick around.
 
Originally posted by: PingSpike
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Originally posted by: PingSpike
My problem with smackem was that he was using the ignore her technique to get rid of her, which I find cold and pathetic. Dumping a girl because she is no longer attractive to you is a perfectly understandable position, particularly if you're young and have no children.
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i can understand that, many of the responses were, "OMG, you are so shallow". but really who isn't to an extent? isn't there a breaking point for all of us?
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Most of those people were probably the same virgins that say any girl thats not jessica alba is a 2/10. They get shown one very old ultra blurry picture and think he's dumping a super model.

She looks pretty enough to me, from what I could tell. And from his own description she sounded like a very good partner, not one I would dump because of a little weight gain. But I acknowledge my level of shallowness isn't the same as anyone's. I mean if she gained 50-60pounds I'd have a pretty hard time convincing myself to stick around.
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:thumbsup:
 
Being married is a bit different but I am enjoying my wife's weight gain. She went from 5' 4" and 115 to approx 125-130. That 10-15 lbs gave her a much nicer bum and a great set, but added some tummy and thighs. If she lost the weight I would have no issues, if she kept it no issues, if she gained some more we would need to do some talking, though that would be out of concern for her health as becoming very heavy is a BAD thing.

I am no skinny devil myself, but at 6' 185 I am doing ok. We have reached that "were comfortable" stage, though we know that a little working out would not hurt anything.

I did think smackem was a bit shallow, but I guess if you are not in a real commited relationship and all you care about is looks and good sex then maybe you should dump them if they become too heavy for you. For me my breaking point would be the time when she no longer cared for me or herself and just let it all go. I would do all I could to convince her otherwise but if that was her choice so be it. I just doubt it will ever get to that stage as she is definitly concerned about her looks and health.

-spike
 
Originally posted by: Spike
Being married is a bit different but I am enjoying my wife's weight gain. She went from 5' 4" and 115 to approx 125-130. That 10-15 lbs gave her a much nicer bum and a great set, but added some tummy and thighs. If she lost the weight I would have no issues, if she kept it no issues, if she gained some more we would need to do some talking, though that would be out of concern for her health as becoming very heavy is a BAD thing.

I am no skinny devil myself, but at 6' 185 I am doing ok. We have reached that "were comfortable" stage, though we know that a little working out would not hurt anything.

I did think smackem was a bit shallow, but I guess if you are not in a real commited relationship and all you care about is looks and good sex then maybe you should dump them if they become too heavy for you. For me my breaking point would be the time when she no longer cared for me or herself and just let it all go. I would do all I could to convince her otherwise but if that was her choice so be it. I just doubt it will ever get to that stage as she is definitly concerned about her looks and health.

-spike
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I'm married also, my wife after 3 kids has the same figure she did when we got married, she's 5'4" 110 lbs. obviously this isn't the norm nor expected. shoot, i would not be in the least bit displeased if she gained 20 to 30 lbs. i myself have gained quite a bit of weight, i went from 180 (5'10") to 220.

but my point isn't just weight but breaking point. there is a point of nagging, annoying behavior, change in who she is that can just end it for anyone.

relationships are maintained by both parties and they have to recommit constantly for them to work.

 
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