Reasons why anyone should get married

[Nitemare]

I thought men get married because they were tired of having a woman who would have sex with him and cook and clean for him.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: alkemyst
so you get hurt

drink all the soda

have a drug problem

while you stay at home all day and he works, wants to pay you to take his laundry to the dry cleaners.

is getting tired of you being at the 'doc appointment today' again.

Didn't catch what you brought to the table above.

I was singing the praises of my husband and marriage.

brag thread? So what have you done for him lately above and beyond? (this was more rhetorical, as a husband/wife team spending time at the same time online at the same forums is a bit odd to begin with).

 

[JJChicken]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: alkemyst
so you get hurt

drink all the soda

have a drug problem

while you stay at home all day and he works, wants to pay you to take his laundry to the dry cleaners.

is getting tired of you being at the 'doc appointment today' again.

Didn't catch what you brought to the table above.

I was singing the praises of my husband and marriage.

brag thread? So what have you done for him lately above and beyond? (this was more rhetorical, as a husband/wife team spending time at the same time online at the same forums is a bit odd to begin with).

:roll: How is that bragging?

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
moar please.

i want to compile all of the reasons.

Why? Do you need convincing or are you using this to do the convincing?

 

[GiggleGirl]

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: Nik
I would have a nice, long, serious conversation with them. If they're that shallow, they're not my type and I wouldn't be involved with them to begin with. I don't like women with their heads in the clouds daydreaming about fairytales and white picket fences.

So you wouldn't do something simple to please your significant other? Seems like you were the one not committed to your "committed relationship".

no ones talking about clouds and fairytales... he didnt say, "would you buy her a huge diamond and have a lavish ceremony and 8 thousand dollar dress?"

if, for whatever reason, your SO felt that the actual being married was important in her mind to solidify or validate the commitment, would you do it? you love her in every way and are totally commited to her, why NOT just sign the paper? if it doesnt matter to you TO get married, then it shouldnt matter NOT to! especially if it doesnt change your love or level of commitment you claim to have...

 

[SonnyDaze]

:thumbsup: for mosh.

This thread is the deliverance.

 

[GiggleGirl]

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus

Originally posted by: dullard
Then lets flip the question around. Why not get married? All it takes is a piece of paper for many emotional, logical, spiritual, societal, and financial benefits. In the worst case scenario, you get divorced and a judge splits up your assets. But that same thing happens if you live together and break up, someone can always sue the other and a judge splits your assets.

Simple answer: I don't want to lose income due to alimony/child support, 1/2 (or worse) of everything I own, the house I live in, and go through the emotional turmoil of somebody I planned to spend my life with leaving me.

Can a judge get involved in a relationship where a couple hasn't been married? Definitely, but that is very rare. Also, I've never heard of a situation where a person has to pay alimony to their ex bf/gf, have you?

lol, its very rare? are you pulling those numbers out of your ass? because you did a study on how many couples take this to court.......... okay! we believe you!

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: alkemyst
so you get hurt

drink all the soda

have a drug problem

while you stay at home all day and he works, wants to pay you to take his laundry to the dry cleaners.

is getting tired of you being at the 'doc appointment today' again.

Didn't catch what you brought to the table above.

I was singing the praises of my husband and marriage.

brag thread? So what have you done for him lately above and beyond? (this was more rhetorical, as a husband/wife team spending time at the same time online at the same forums is a bit odd to begin with).

My husband, if he chooses can answer that question for himself. Believe it or not we don't have a large book around here that we tally up the score of who does what for whom and when. I can say that he frequently tells me what a good wife I am to him and that he's glad he married me. My husband doesn't suffer fools well and isn't known for pulling any punches to spare people's feelings so I will assume he's reasonably happy with me.

 

[JJChicken]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: alkemyst
so you get hurt

drink all the soda

have a drug problem

while you stay at home all day and he works, wants to pay you to take his laundry to the dry cleaners.

is getting tired of you being at the 'doc appointment today' again.

Didn't catch what you brought to the table above.

I was singing the praises of my husband and marriage.

brag thread? So what have you done for him lately above and beyond? (this was more rhetorical, as a husband/wife team spending time at the same time online at the same forums is a bit odd to begin with).

My husband, if he chooses can answer that question for himself. Believe it or not we don't have a large book around here that we tally up the score of who does what for whom and when.

And that, is precisely the difference between bf-gf and a married couple.

 

[GiggleGirl]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
-It makes sense financially. Two incomes > one income. More financial security, more buying power.

-Children of married parents are more likely to suceed in academically.

-Children need two parents two raise them.

-It makes you look more stable that someone who is not married. It's a bit odd to be unmarried at 40+, and people may begin to assume things about that person's character.

-And finally, when you find that person whom (with whom you wish to spend... etc) you want to spend the rest of your life with, there is no reason not to.

lol with all the errors in this post, were your parents married? academia doesnt seem to come very easily for you.....................

Kindly, point out all the mistakes or go crawl back under the rock you came from.

.........................

happy?

 

[GiggleGirl]

i actually read this entire thread.... i can see both sides of the stone with this question, and its a good thing that i can. my boyfriend isn't sure he would want to get married and we've discussed both sides on many occasions. I could probably be happy having the commitment without the marriage. More for him its the show of getting married that hes opposed to rather than the legal commitment/bond.
i haven't decided how i truly feel about the situation in entirety yet!

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
i actually read this entire thread.... i can see both sides of the stone with this question, and its a good thing that i can. my boyfriend isn't sure he would want to get married and we've discussed both sides on many occasions. I could probably be happy having the commitment without the marriage. More for him its the show of getting married that hes opposed to rather than the legal commitment/bond.
i haven't decided how i truly feel about the situation in entirety yet!

You don't have to throw a 3 ring circus of a wedding that drains your bank account or frays nerves. Our wedding cost around 2K including the dress, rings, tuxes, a sit down dinner for 20, an after party with beer,wine and liquor and the cake and it was lovely,aside from the births of my children it was the happiest day of my life.

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
A boyfriend is a guy who battles friday rush hour traffic to carry you to the doctor's office when you're in a lot of pain..

Fixed.

A shackup is a guy who says" Gee I'm going to hang with my boys tonight, let me call you a taxi, shouldn't cost you more than $12"

A shitty boyfriend, sure. A husband is fully capable of doing the same thing. Getting married doesn't magically transform a slug into a man.

A boyfriend is the guy who sits in a Dr's waiting room filled with elderly asian people for well over 1 1/2 hours without a single word of complaint

Fixed.

A shackup is the guy who calls you as you're sitting in the a waiting room filled with elderly asian people to inform you that there's no juice and he doesn't think you have any tylenol but there's a 7-11 near the doctor's office ,you can stop there on your way home...and while you're there would you mind picking him up some pepsi?

A shitty boyfriend, sure. A husband is fully capable of doing the same thing. Getting married doesn't magically transform a slug into a man.

A boyfriend is the guy who drives to the pharmacy and waits for over 1/2 an hour to be sure you get your antibotics and pain medications.. and asks if you got everything or if he will need to go back.

Fixed.

A shackup is a guy who would never even think about how you would be getting your meds.

A shitty boyfriend, sure. A husband is fully capable of doing the same thing. Getting married doesn't magically transform a slug into a man.

A boyfriend is the guy who cooks you a good meal after your procedure and makes sure the mess is cleaned up.

Fixed.

A shackup is the guy who's already gone out for his planned evening by the time you arrive home from your appointment, Dinner? there's none but there's a note detailing which shirts he'd like you to drop at the dry cleaners, in the morning he's sure you'll feel up to it.

A shitty boyfriend, sure. A husband is fully capable of doing the same thing. Getting married doesn't magically transform a slug into a man.

A boyfriend is the guy who tells you that he did your laundry so that you have soft PJ pants to wear so as to not irritate your incision site.

Fixed.

A boyfriend is the guy who makes bad butt jokes with you and praises your ability to handle pain, he sits home watching a netflix movie even though it's a lovely night and he'd normally be off having a few with his best friend.

Fixed.

A shackup is a guy you'd be too embarrassed to tell about the details of your medical problem, let alone joke with him about it.

A shitty boyfriend, sure. A husband is fully capable of doing the same thing. Getting married doesn't magically transform a slug into a man.

A boyfriend is a guy who does all of the above and more, confident in knowing that you would and have been there in the same way for him

Fixed.

There is no one "right" reason to marry.. you marry when it feels right to the both of you

Hats off to all the good husbands here... I know there are many

Husband versusu boyfriend doesn't make a difference in every single situation you cited. Just because you date shitty assholes and then find a good man to marry doesn't mean every man is going to be a shitty asshole until you marry them. :roll:

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: alkemyst
so you get hurt

drink all the soda

have a drug problem

while you stay at home all day and he works, wants to pay you to take his laundry to the dry cleaners.

is getting tired of you being at the 'doc appointment today' again.

Didn't catch what you brought to the table above.

I was singing the praises of my husband and marriage.

I was in a supposed deeply committed relationship lasting almost 12 years.. I had an ectopic pregnancy that blew up while I was on the OR table, I damn near died. I lost a ton of blood but the doctors just pumped me with a lot of fluids and have me huge iron pills.

MY SO picked me up after a 5 day hospital stay, I was barely able to walk and became faint easily, he drove me to our shared home, made sure I had my pills and then took himself off to Foxwoods casino for the weekend with his relatives. I didn't have so much as bread or enough coffee in the house to make a single pot.

Yup, that means that it's impossible to have a stable, healthy, committed relationship without being married. Because you had a shitty boyfriend.

 

[GiggleGirl]

awww, i get no replies? booooooooo lol

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: Nik
I would have a nice, long, serious conversation with them. If they're that shallow, they're not my type and I wouldn't be involved with them to begin with. I don't like women with their heads in the clouds daydreaming about fairytales and white picket fences.

So you wouldn't do something simple to please your significant other? Seems like you were the one not committed to your "committed relationship".

no ones talking about clouds and fairytales... he didnt say, "would you buy her a huge diamond and have a lavish ceremony and 8 thousand dollar dress?"

if, for whatever reason, your SO felt that the actual being married was important in her mind to solidify or validate the commitment, would you do it? you love her in every way and are totally commited to her, why NOT just sign the paper? if it doesnt matter to you TO get married, then it shouldnt matter NOT to! especially if it doesnt change your love or level of commitment you claim to have...

If your significant other wants to get married because they feel that marriage will somehow validate the relationship, there's a problem with them and they're not really THAT committed to you. If your significant other feels the NEED to get married, there's a problem.

If your significant other requires a silly legal binding for any reason at all, your relationship has problems and marriage will actually make shit worse.

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus

Originally posted by: dullard
Then lets flip the question around. Why not get married? All it takes is a piece of paper for many emotional, logical, spiritual, societal, and financial benefits. In the worst case scenario, you get divorced and a judge splits up your assets. But that same thing happens if you live together and break up, someone can always sue the other and a judge splits your assets.

Simple answer: I don't want to lose income due to alimony/child support, 1/2 (or worse) of everything I own, the house I live in, and go through the emotional turmoil of somebody I planned to spend my life with leaving me.

Can a judge get involved in a relationship where a couple hasn't been married? Definitely, but that is very rare. Also, I've never heard of a situation where a person has to pay alimony to their ex bf/gf, have you?

lol, its very rare? are you pulling those numbers out of your ass? because you did a study on how many couples take this to court.......... okay! we believe you!

Prove him wrong. Post conflicting data.

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
-It makes sense financially. Two incomes > one income. More financial security, more buying power.

-Children of married parents are more likely to suceed in academically.

-Children need two parents two raise them.

-It makes you look more stable that someone who is not married. It's a bit odd to be unmarried at 40+, and people may begin to assume things about that person's character.

-And finally, when you find that person whom (with whom you wish to spend... etc) you want to spend the rest of your life with, there is no reason not to.

lol with all the errors in this post, were your parents married? academia doesnt seem to come very easily for you.....................

Kindly, point out all the mistakes or go crawl back under the rock you came from.

.........................

happy?

Wow, so you're one of those elitist assholes who thinks that it's not possible for someone to make a valid point if they make grammatical mistakes? :roll: What's the point of your married-parents comment? what's the point of your insulting his education?

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: alkemyst
so you get hurt

drink all the soda

have a drug problem

while you stay at home all day and he works, wants to pay you to take his laundry to the dry cleaners.

is getting tired of you being at the 'doc appointment today' again.

Didn't catch what you brought to the table above.

I was singing the praises of my husband and marriage.

I was in a supposed deeply committed relationship lasting almost 12 years.. I had an ectopic pregnancy that blew up while I was on the OR table, I damn near died. I lost a ton of blood but the doctors just pumped me with a lot of fluids and have me huge iron pills.

MY SO picked me up after a 5 day hospital stay, I was barely able to walk and became faint easily, he drove me to our shared home, made sure I had my pills and then took himself off to Foxwoods casino for the weekend with his relatives. I didn't have so much as bread or enough coffee in the house to make a single pot.

Yup, that means that it's impossible to have a stable, healthy, committed relationship without being married. Because you had a shitty boyfriend.

We had a very stable, committed relationship but he still thought of himself, made decisions about his life, work, hobbies and interests
based on his status as a single, unmarried man, which is exactly what he was in the eyes of the law and most of society.

How we are perceived socially, legally can and does play a role in shaping our relationships, a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend"
is just not viewed to be as serious a relationship as that of a husband or wife.

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl
i actually read this entire thread.... i can see both sides of the stone with this question, and its a good thing that i can. my boyfriend isn't sure he would want to get married and we've discussed both sides on many occasions. I could probably be happy having the commitment without the marriage. More for him its the show of getting married that hes opposed to rather than the legal commitment/bond.
i haven't decided how i truly feel about the situation in entirety yet!

You don't have to throw a 3 ring circus of a wedding that drains your bank account or frays nerves. Our wedding cost around 2K including the dress, rings, tuxes, a sit down dinner for 20, an after party with beer,wine and liquor and the cake and it was lovely,aside from the births of my children it was the happiest day of my life.

So you felt that your marriage somehow validated how you feel for your husband or how he feels for you?

 

[GiggleGirl]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
-It makes sense financially. Two incomes > one income. More financial security, more buying power.

-Children of married parents are more likely to suceed in academically.

-Children need two parents two raise them.

-It makes you look more stable that someone who is not married. It's a bit odd to be unmarried at 40+, and people may begin to assume things about that person's character.

-And finally, when you find that person whom (with whom you wish to spend... etc) you want to spend the rest of your life with, there is no reason not to.

lol with all the errors in this post, were your parents married? academia doesnt seem to come very easily for you.....................

Kindly, point out all the mistakes or go crawl back under the rock you came from.

.........................

happy?

Wow, so you're one of those elitist assholes who thinks that it's not possible for someone to make a valid point if they make grammatical mistakes? :roll: What's the point of your married-parents comment? what's the point of your insulting his education?

hahaha, oh so im not allowed to respond with jokes?! puh-lease! its the rhetoric on this site and im getting stoned for it! whatever guy!

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: alkemyst
so you get hurt

drink all the soda

have a drug problem

while you stay at home all day and he works, wants to pay you to take his laundry to the dry cleaners.

is getting tired of you being at the 'doc appointment today' again.

Didn't catch what you brought to the table above.

I was singing the praises of my husband and marriage.

I was in a supposed deeply committed relationship lasting almost 12 years.. I had an ectopic pregnancy that blew up while I was on the OR table, I damn near died. I lost a ton of blood but the doctors just pumped me with a lot of fluids and have me huge iron pills.

MY SO picked me up after a 5 day hospital stay, I was barely able to walk and became faint easily, he drove me to our shared home, made sure I had my pills and then took himself off to Foxwoods casino for the weekend with his relatives. I didn't have so much as bread or enough coffee in the house to make a single pot.

Yup, that means that it's impossible to have a stable, healthy, committed relationship without being married. Because you had a shitty boyfriend.

We had a very stable, committed relationship but he still thought of himself, made decisions about his life, work, hobbies and interests
based on his status as a single, unmarried man, which is exactly what he was in the eyes of the law and most of society.

Like I said, because you had a shitty boyfriend, you're projecting his choices on every single male. Being dedicated to someone and committed to them, to me, won't change one single bit whether we're married or not. I'm completely 100% dedicated to them. I don't consider myself single because I don't consider marriage to be the only way to be bound to someone else.

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
-It makes sense financially. Two incomes > one income. More financial security, more buying power.

-Children of married parents are more likely to suceed in academically.

-Children need two parents two raise them.

-It makes you look more stable that someone who is not married. It's a bit odd to be unmarried at 40+, and people may begin to assume things about that person's character.

-And finally, when you find that person whom (with whom you wish to spend... etc) you want to spend the rest of your life with, there is no reason not to.

lol with all the errors in this post, were your parents married? academia doesnt seem to come very easily for you.....................

Kindly, point out all the mistakes or go crawl back under the rock you came from.

.........................

happy?

Wow, so you're one of those elitist assholes who thinks that it's not possible for someone to make a valid point if they make grammatical mistakes? :roll: What's the point of your married-parents comment? what's the point of your insulting his education?

hahaha, oh so im not allowed to respond with jokes?! puh-lease! its the rhetoric on this site and im getting stoned for it! whatever guy!

You have a terrible sense of humor. It wasn't funny, didn't come across as a joke.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: Barack Obama

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
A husband is the guy who tells you that he did your laundry so that you have soft PJ pants to wear so as to not irritate your incision site.

A husband is the guy who makes bad butt jokes with you and praises your ability to handle pain, he sits home watching a netflix movie even though it's a lovely night and he'd normally be off having a few with his best friend.

A shackup is a guy you'd be too embarrassed to tell about the details of your medical problem, let alone joke with him about it.

A husband is a guy who does all of the above and more, confident in knowing that you would and have been there in the same way for him


There is no one "right" reason to marry.. you marry when it feels right to the both of you

Hats off to all the good husbands here... I know there are many

Red has premature ejaculation problems :beer:

Whiskey dick not withstanding, doesn't everyone? :laugh:

 

[GiggleGirl]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: GiggleGirl

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus

Originally posted by: dullard
Then lets flip the question around. Why not get married? All it takes is a piece of paper for many emotional, logical, spiritual, societal, and financial benefits. In the worst case scenario, you get divorced and a judge splits up your assets. But that same thing happens if you live together and break up, someone can always sue the other and a judge splits your assets.

Simple answer: I don't want to lose income due to alimony/child support, 1/2 (or worse) of everything I own, the house I live in, and go through the emotional turmoil of somebody I planned to spend my life with leaving me.

Can a judge get involved in a relationship where a couple hasn't been married? Definitely, but that is very rare. Also, I've never heard of a situation where a person has to pay alimony to their ex bf/gf, have you?

lol, its very rare? are you pulling those numbers out of your ass? because you did a study on how many couples take this to court.......... okay! we believe you!

Prove him wrong. Post conflicting data.

thats stupid. everything about that reeks of stupid. there probably ISNT any data. saying it doesnt make it so or not so. dont get your panties in a bunch