Reasons to Break Up

[Isla]

OK, Namuna's break up thread has me thinking of why certain relationships work or don't work.

I would like to hear from some of you the reasons why your relationships didn't work out. Could be fun, could be scary! I'll come back later and tell you mine.

 

[snow patrol]

She was obsessed with my toes

 

[IBhacknU]

Oh no...:Q

What's wrong with Mr. Isla???

 

[bigvince]

is your relationship ending? (just curious)







in the past i have broken up with girls or vice versa because i have been unwilling to share every aspect of who i am with them. it's just not something i can readaly do. there are some parts of me that no one will see....ever, and whoever i'm with has to understand that or it just wont work out. and that has been the source for many a break-up. most girls that i've been with have this thing of haveing to know EVERYTHING about me well i just dont go for that.

 

[Ranger X]

Distance (Physical), lack of common interests, and simply bored of everything about that person.

 

[yakko]

Because you keep thinking about me when you are with Mr. Isla or Mr. GirlFriday.

 

[StageLeft]

My brother put it eloquently when he quoted "No matter how hot a chick is some guy out there is tired of f**king her." Very insightful - if also base.

 

[bigvince]

hey skoorb,


that just f'uckin blew my mind man WOW!!!!

 

[Isla]

Oh, Mr Isla and I are okay... we have our problems to be sure, but we have agreed to put them aside for the greater good.

I wonder sometimes if we are going to make it in the long run, but I try not to think of it too much.

Anyway, I am curious about reasons people have for ending things.

I have made it past a lot of stuff most people consider reasons to break up. Am I just a masochist?

edit: Skoorb, that hits close. Ouch!

 

[Total Refected Power]

OK, here's a few:

One: Boring, boring lady.
Two: Sexually confused. Totally hot and horny one day, cold as ice the next.
Three: Nutcase. Stalker type.

 

[Yeeny]

What yakko said...

But seriously, if my relationship were to break up, it will be because I am tired of being alone. People take each other for granted so easily once you have been with the person for a while, and forget that it's something you should want to put effort into. Keeping the fire alive is not always easy, but if you want that person in your life, then it should be worth it. Being comfortable with your better half is one thing, just taking them for granted all the time is another.

 

[bigvince]

no your not a masochist. the fact is that most women feel that need to stand by there man (for lack of a better phrase) when things go bad. i know from personal experiance that a good women will stand by you no matter what. i have a girl like that now and i thank god for her, i love her dearly. and to think that only a month ago i was ready to leave her. any way people break up for meriad reasons but the ones that can last true hardships are the ones that will last forever. so if you and Mr. Isla have been through some rough ones chances are you'll be together for a long time.

 

[Frenchie]

distance, too many differences, chemical imbalance, couldnt see a future with her, immaturity, et al.

 

[Passions]

WHO LET THE DOGS OUT! WHO WHO WHOO

 

[nateholtrop]

obsessive and too ez I know I know is there such a woman?

 

[Isla]

Here's my history:

First husband:

Aside from the fact that I should never have married him when I was 17, he had a drug problem, serious emotional problems, and was never on the same intellectual level as me. That was a sympathy marriage, dumb move on my part. He was living in his car when I met him... a stray puppy for me to save! Ah, the stupidiy of youth. Good news: He has come a long way. I'm actually proud of him, considering his sad story.

Interim boyfriend #1: Emotionally crippled/constipated. Brilliant musician, very intellectual, but could not publicly proclaim his relationship with me because I was not a 'metal maiden'. I think the real problem was I wasn't coke-slut skinny and I would never lapdance to support him, as was the style back then. Bottom line: Major lifestyle differences.

Interim boyfriend #2: Actually, I would have married him knowing full well he was incapable of being faithful. Didn't because Mr Isla came along and started teaching me to repect and value myself more.

Mr. Isla: Still kicking. Feel like kicking him sometimes, but all in all, we are fairly equally matched. We are not what I consider emotionally compatible, but we seem to be able to navigate the uglier moments better as the years go by.

That's it for me!

edit: LOL! I see a pattern here... I am a masochist, I pick emotionally incompatible mates!

 

[Regine]

He was being too clingy. It was my senior year in high school and we had different plans for college. So I wasn't really looking for anything too serious. Anyways, one day he asked me if I thought we'd still be together in the summer (this was in November), and I said that I wasn't sure. I asked him the same question, and he said "I don't think so, I know so". At that time it was just not what I was looking for.

 

[KMFDM]

here's a few reason's my gf gave me. although we havent broken up yet...
(btw, this is an online relationship which has been going on for 6 months)

You'd really have to narrow that down before I could
answer..... There's a lot of things I like, and some
things I don't. i mean, i really do love you more than
anything, but there are just times when i feel like i
don't want a bf. you're the type of person i would
really want to spend the rest of my life with. but i
wasn't looking to feel like that for at least another
5 or 10 years. after all, i did just turn 15.... and
we even started dating when i was 14. i just wanna be
able to go out and do what i want, and not have to
worry about anyone else. you only live once, right? on
the other hand, i love you. i really truly
from-the-bottom-of-my-heart love you. i don't wanna
lose you. i feel secure with you, i trust you, i love
you... i don't wanna give all that up. i get so mad at
myself sometimes because i don't wanna have a bf, but
i don't want to not have you. urgh it's confusing. and
being so far away and having to wait so long to meet
just doesn't help things. i'm sure if you lived here,
things would probably be different. i'm busy a lot so
i don't really have the time i used to. plus, you're
getting a job. and i will be too pretty soon. we
hardly ever get to talk on the phone, and our time on
line is getting less and less. we get to talk maybe 2
hours a day, if even that. i know that's prolly my
fault. like i said, i'm just 15, i want to get out and
do stuff. i don't want to be sitting at a computer
while my friends are out having fun. i already lost
one set of friends cos of the internet, i don't wanna
do that again. but every time i'm away, it hurts. i
miss you constantly when i'm not on here. and i know
it prolly hurts you too that things aren't like they
used to be. and i'm really sorry because the last
thing i would ever want to do is hurt you. honestly. i
wish we lived near each other, i really do, cos then
things would be different. we could go out and do
stuff together, and not have to miss each other. i
would change that if i could, but i can't. i really
wish i could though... like i said last night, i just
dunno what i want.

 

[Electric Amish]

Whether good or bad, I've only ever had one relationship.

Been with her for 9 years, 8 of them married.

Got married a year out of high school and never looked back!

Amish

 

[Noriaki]

Only "relationship" i've ever had was online...maybe you classify that as a relationship or maybe not. Anyhow...what it eventually came down to was me seeking physical affection from my other female friends. she wasn't very happy with that...and in the end I broke it off partly because I was starting to fall in love with one of said female friends, but mostly because the more I got to know her the less I realized she matched me. When I look for a woman I look for someone who can be a close friend as well...I have no delusions of having a wife being a 24 hour per day sexfest, so I look for qualities in a woman that would make her a good companion. Someone I can spend alot of time with doing things I enjoy, so that I can spend time with her but not get bored senseless doing dumb things like sewing no offense girls that like sewing.
The online girl was also too much of a "housewife" type, and there is nothing that turns me off more...I'm attracted to strong willed inteligent women who want something in their lives. Not to live at home all their life while their husband provides for them because their mothers and mother's mothers tell them they should. (again no offense to housewife types, there's nothing wrong with it, it's just not what I want in a wife) My online girl did not have nearly a strong enough will....if I ever told my wife to cook me dinner I'd expect to be told to fvck off...she would have started cooking...I could go one but you get the idea...*shrugs* mebbe I'm just to demanding in what I want from a woman, so I broke it off because if I didn't find her suitable after a year, what would it be like after 10?

Ok I admit it, I like girls that are tomboys preferably cute ones, but it's not required.

 

[Yeeny]

Noriaki: There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a woman who will speak her mind, and who has other interests in life besides cooking and cleaning. Donna Reed went out with the 50's, and thats the way it should be. But you might be surprised at how spunky some of us "housewives" can be...

 

[lowtech1]

Haven't got it fully figured out yet.

I seemed to attracted to women with different value & life style than myself.

Main complaint is that I'm too difficult to live with anyone. I don't know how to forgive. Too strick, becasue I like the people around me & myself to live up to our word. And, I'm tactless.

Maybe it is just too much pride/tupidity

 

[unxpurg8d]

Let's see....reasons.

Husband #1 - compulsive liar and idiot slapped me day 3 of being married to him. Told him to expect divorce papers ASAP and bye.

Husband #2 - wouldn't get the !@$#@!!@# jigsaw puzzles off every flat surface and put the dishes away wrong. Oh, AND wouldn't get a job. But think the jigsaw puzzles clinched it.

Husband #3 - told me I couldn't go do something career-oriented 'cause he couldn't get time off to take care of the kids, then a day or so later something related to HIS career came up that he had to have known about wayyyyyyyyy ahead of time and zip, off he went. Heh. There were other contributing factors, but this is the one that sticks out.

Husband #4 - was overly attached to his mommy. Plus while I was working from 7 to 5 full time AND taking 5 classes a quarter in college would wait until I walked in the door at ten thirty at night, look up, and ask "what's for dinner?". ARGH. I divorced him 'cause I was just too darn tired to make dinner and figured maybe he'd have better luck not starving if he were single at the KFC drive-through.

These SEEM like kinda trivial reasons, but...okay, they might BE kinda trivial reasons, but they made sense at the time.


(For the sake of brevity I left out the various and sundry "almost married"s )



I'm starting to think maybe it's ME.....hmmmmmmm....



EDIT: After careful consideration I decided nope, not me.

 

[Soybomb]

The last one was becuase she went from being hot (if you know what I mean) to practically icy. Thats confusing let me tell you .

 

[Isla]

LMAO, unexpurg8d!

Darn good reasons, every single one. You are one tough cookie and a hot tamale to boot, you just tried to grace the wrong guys with your presence. I've done that, too!