Really shy guy in my class

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Shame

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Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor
He's afriad of people. You need to prove you are no danger to him and then maybe he'll open his pathetic life up to you and show you his collection of D&D miniatures.

Nah... Guy stalkers wearing dresses just kind of freak me out. :)
 

pulse8

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Originally posted by: gflores
See the thing, I'm not sure if he likes being alone/introverted. That's why I feel sorry for him. It'd be really hard to change that, don't you think? That's why I tried being friendly to him. BTW, I am a guy.

Has anyone ever told you you're an arrogant sonofabitch? :)
 

Barnaby W. Füi

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I don't say much in class and I don't talk to people, even the "regular" ones. I'm an introvert and frankly I just don't like most people enough to want to talk to them. Let's see, we could gossip about people, or we could talk about some sport, or uh... we could just not talk. I'll take option #3.

If you really have some desire to get to know the guy, ask him about himself or what he enjoys or likes or finds interesting or whatever. If you're just talking to him out of pity, well, that seems pretty stupid to me.

Believe it or not, just because someone is different from you doesn't mean they're somehow inferior. Not everyone likes mindless chitchat (I sure don't).

Wait, is this high school?
 
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Originally posted by: gflores
It's just really weird. He doesn't say anything in class and doesn't talk a lot even with regular people. Hence, he doesn't have many friends (as far as I can tell). I tried talking to him a few times, but it's so hard to start a conversation with him, since I'm usually doing most of the talking and he's just like "yeah" or some 3 word response. I kinda feel sorry for him. I guess that's part of his personality? From what I can remember, in general one's personality changes slightly over the course of a lifetime. I don't know, I guess it'd just suck to be him :( :frown:

Why would that suck? Not everyone likes social situations. Many people are perfectly happy existing by themselves, or with only machines/animals, or with only a select few others. There's nothing wrong or abnormal about not randomly talking to others or wanting everyone to be your friend.
 

Aimster

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He goes home and spends 10 hours behind the computer. He has no social skills as a result of this. Save him.
 

TheLonelyPhoenix

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Originally posted by: Aimster
He goes home and spends 10 hours behind the computer. He has no social skills as a result of this. Save him.

Sort of like guys who post a YAGT and their SO sees it, so they change the name to "MODS PLZ LOCK" and then spend the rest of the thread trying to save face.
 

Aimster

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Originally posted by: TheLonelyPhoenix
Originally posted by: Aimster
He goes home and spends 10 hours behind the computer. He has no social skills as a result of this. Save him.

Sort of like guys who post a YAGT and their SO sees it, so they change the name to "MODS PLZ LOCK" and then spend the rest of the thread trying to save face.

trying to save face? It wasn't a big deal and I found it funny. If you think I should be embarrased then that's your opinion. I wonder how many girtfriends or relationships you've had cause if this was to happen to you sounds to me like you'd go cry in a corner.
 

dighn

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no need to feel sorry for him. if he's truly introverted he's happy the way he is. i hope you understand.
 
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my related rant disappeared!

seriously though, dont feel bad for him. some people just arent interested in making new friends. he probably is just counting down the time to when he can go home and play video games with his buddies.
 

PeeluckyDuckee

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I'm the same mostly at work. Being in a cubicle and being criticized/monitored down to the second, there's no time to chit chat, even if one wanted to.

I'm happy keeping to myself. I don't go out of my way to create conversations with people usually.
I go in, do my job. Done, get out. I don't socialize with the people I work with.

I don't need so-called friends to hang around with to make me feel better so to speak or feel normal. I'm comfortable with who I am.

People who know me know that that's just how I am and how I function.

 

FuZoR

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hahaha im a quiiet person in class... only when participating though

other then that i dont shutup

oh at work im kinda reserved with everyone outside my area where i work...


to get a shy person talking.. you just have to talk about something in common