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RE: Appropriate item to bring to cemetary

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OCGuy

Lifer
My best friend's 19 year old brother was killed last year, and tomorrow would have been his 20th bday. I have not been to the cemetary since the funeral, so I figured I would show my support tomorrow and show up.

Should I bring flowers? What color?

A card? Nothing at all?


I am really bad at this kind of stuff. Any insight would be appreciated.
 
I'd do flowers, or a single rose, or perhaps nothing at all. Sometimes a quiet homage and moment of reflection is all that's necessary. Do what feels right. Your heart will guide you.
 
Get a bunch of white flowers from the supermarket. That's what I do when I visit the grandparents' grave. They're fairly cheap.
 
Bring an iPhone 5 with the flickering candle app, oh, and beer*.








*True story: all my family funerals are followed by beer.
 
Damn can you guys act serious for just a moment?

I dont think you actually bring anything. A lot of people send flowers if they can afford it (not that its insanely expensive, but it is expensive and if you can't fit it into your budget don't).
 
Bring the third 'e'.

Sorry, couldn't resist. Just dress nicely and show up.
 
Your instincts are good. Different cultures have different flowers for this situation. White is common for remembrance. Showing up is the most important thing.
 
God Mode said:
A bottle of booze. Get permission and pour some for him.
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This is definately an option for next year on his would-be 21st.

It wasnt booze that killed him, if you look at the photo of the perp in my previous post, that looks like Meth all the way.


By the way, the asshole only did 7 months.
 
Baked said:
There's no justice for what this asshole did. He should've been run over by a bus several times.
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It appears from this article that the asshole in question didn't kill him, but in an almost Final Destination type of fate, he was struck by another car while riding his bike 6 months later. 😱

http://www.myvalleynews.com/story/59466/

Rosen, a BMX competitive bicyclist, remained in a coma for weeks. He suffered paralysis on the right side of his face and struggled with short-term memory loss, but made strides in his rehabilitation, according to family members.

On July 30, he was riding his bike late at night on a dark stretch of Hamner Avenue in Norco, near Citrus Street, when he was struck by an oncoming car. The driver, an Eastvale woman, stopped and called 911.
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OCGuy, this was your best friends brother and you didn't know this? 😕
 
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I don't see the big deal on which flowers to bring. Maybe there are cultural issues, but who's to say it wasn't the deceased's favourite flower? As long as the intent is good.
 
Lifted said:
It appears from this article that the asshole in question didn't kill him, but in an almost Final Destination type of fate, he was struck by another car while riding his bike 6 months later. 😱

http://www.myvalleynews.com/story/59466/



OCGuy, this was your best friends brother and you didn't know this? 😕
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There are a lot of behind-the-scenes story lines with this, and if the Norco Riverside Sheriffs were competent at all, the charges would have been increased.

I know the full story, and the responslibilty lies on Andrew Murvine, the first person who intentionally ran him down on a horse trail, not accidentally hit him and then leave out of fear.
 
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