RANT: Good female friend...

[PsychoAndy]

*sigh* Just because she's asking if you still like her doesn't necessarily mean she wants to go out with you. I went out with my good female friend that I liked, because i thought I should've asked her out because of a signal she gave me, but I really should have waited a little bit...and we broke up because we couldn't communicate about relationship type stuff, and now it's all awkward and crap and it sucks. I'm not saying this would happen to you, but it happened to me, and it could've happened to you. Sometimes people have too much in common and the other doesnt think of a relationship. I didn't, until i discovered that when we'd chill and watch a movie we'd go from the opposite sides of the couch to next to each other like a magnet :\. I say don't worry about it and just wait til you find another girl.
And i disagree, girls are just as, if not more, confusing as guys are.

 

[Orsorum]

<< *sigh* Just because she's asking if you still like her doesn't necessarily mean she wants to go out with you. I went out with my good female friend that I liked, because i thought I should've asked her out because of a signal she gave me, but I really should have waited a little bit...and we broke up because we couldn't communicate about relationship type stuff, and now it's all awkward and crap and it sucks. I'm not saying this would happen to you, but it happened to me, and it could've happened to you. Sometimes people have too much in common and the other doesnt think of a relationship. I didn't, until i discovered that when we'd chill and watch a movie we'd go from the opposite sides of the couch to next to each other like a magnet :\. I say don't worry about it and just wait til you find another girl.
And i disagree, girls are just as, if not more, confusing as guys are. >>



lol Thanks for your interpretation.

In all actuality, I think everyone's reading far too much into this, including myself... I think she was just curious, that she had always suspected, but I never told her.

The people that we are now are different than the people we were in jr. high, obviously... we've both changed a lot, and matured in different ways. She leads a lifestyle that I don't agree with, and she's not Christian. I pray for her, but I don't think I would ever be interested in a relationship with her.

Bites about your lady friend.

 

[toph99]

what sucks more is when you do tell them how you feel and they prefer you as a friend. Are you guys also sick of having to be the one to initiate a relationship? It'd be nice for once if a girl would come up and ask if you wanted to go to dinner or a movie :disgust:

 

[Eli]

I know how it feels. I had feelings for this girl for like 2 years, but remained friends. When I finally did ask her out, the answer was no. We're still friends, and that's okay.. cause I've found the girl for me.

 

[LostHiWay]

I don't see why your pissed at her for not knowing you liked her. What do you expect her to say.."Yea I know you liked me but I thought you were ugly and boring..I just wanted a jerk that treated me with no respect"

Now that she has finally come around a realizes what she missed you blow her off.

It looks like maybe now you can date the little hotties that are immature and only want jerks.

 

[911paramedic]

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[LoTecha]

It's alright - the same situation is happens to all of us. I think this guy deserves some slack. He's already frustrated enough and he's admitted he's made a mistake and he's learning. I don't think he needs all of us jumping on his back.

To RGN - now that you've made a huge generalization about Christians, you care to try to justify that statement? Not that there's really any evidence that can adequately back-up such a vast overgeneralization as that, but I'm interested in hearing what you have to say.

 

[GrumpyMan]

Give it some time my son.................you are too impatient. Nice women are like wine, some get better with age. Try an older woman like around 30 on up. Heh Heh Heh............talk about wearing you out! And I mean that in a nice way.

 

[Keego]

I still want to know why he turned into a christian out of the blue... besides the fact that it picks up church chicks

 

[dakata24]

<< Got two different issues combined in the same thread, I think I confused a lot of people. >>



that's for sure.. esp this part:



<< So she asks me a couple nights ago online, out of the blue, if I had ever "liked her" in Jr. High... wow. I've never been that close to completely losing it over AIM. I was close to bitching her out severely... then my brief, 10-second period of disbelief expired, and I got over it. I said that I had liked her. She then asked me if I "still liked her"... and I said, in essence, no. I'd gotten so used to her being a friend that I really didn't give a crap about any romantic feelings for her anymore. >>



that part made it sound like you were blaming her.. how'd the conversation go from there? good times..

 

[Orsorum]

<<

<< Got two different issues combined in the same thread, I think I confused a lot of people. >>



that's for sure.. esp this part:



<< So she asks me a couple nights ago online, out of the blue, if I had ever "liked her" in Jr. High... wow. I've never been that close to completely losing it over AIM. I was close to bitching her out severely... then my brief, 10-second period of disbelief expired, and I got over it. I said that I had liked her. She then asked me if I "still liked her"... and I said, in essence, no. I'd gotten so used to her being a friend that I really didn't give a crap about any romantic feelings for her anymore. >>



that part made it sound like you were blaming her.. how'd the conversation go from there? good times.. >>



lol It went fine. I'm thinking it was a totally innocuous question on her part. Our friendship isn't on the rocks or anything, it just came up during the course of a conversation. Whether or not she had any ulterior motives, I can't say.

EDIT: I was being truthful, when I said that my feelings for her had changed; that I, ironically, "no longer thought of her in that way"... she is attractive, and intelligent, but we lead completely different lifestyles. To say that there was some part of me that wants to date her is truthful; but no where near as strong as it was four years ago.

 

[Instagib]

I think your mad at yourself for not initiating your relationship farther.

 

[Orsorum]

<< I think your mad at yourself for not initiating your relationship farther. >>



Of course that's part of it, dude. That was one of my biggest regrets in high school. Now... now, I really don't care, one way or the other. She's a dear friend to me, but beyond that... I don't think there's anything more.

 

[Instagib]

Well I suggest you tell her how you feel now then.

 

[Orsorum]

<< Well I suggest you tell her how you feel now then. >>



It already came up. She asked me if I had liked her in Jr. High, I said yes, she asked if I still liked her now, I said no. I was just ranting about it, is all... I had always thought that she knew about my feelings for her. Turns out she didn't, and that shocked me and surprised me. Looking back, no, it probably shouldn't surprise me that much, being as I never told her.

 

[Instagib]

So thats that then

 

[eakers]

its funny when boys rant about girls not being mind readers.

*kat. <-- not approving i think.

 

[Alex]

<< go get drunk or something >>



sounds like a plan!

btw i would have said that i still liked her...

you never know... i have a friend like this but we both know that were attracted to eachother and we went out many times and almost hooked up once but her ex showed up and she felt bad about it. like she once said that if it werent for her boyfriend that shes totally in love with shed get with me... im sure she's just stringing me along though

 

[Orsorum]

<< its funny when boys rant about girls not being mind readers.

*kat. <-- not approving i think. >>



It's not eakers approved??

lol I'm not really ranting, I guess... I was just frustrated a couple days ago and needed to vent. In my younger days, yes, for some stupid reason I expected this girl to know what I was thinking.

Looking back, no, no one knows what I'm thinking until I tell them... which is probably while people still like me... So, yes, folly on my part.

Anything I can do to gain your approval for this thread?

 

[littlelilith]

Zakath.. how old are you?

I'm sure that if you keep looking, you'll find a decent woman somewhere. There are plenty of us looking for a decent guy. Unfortunately, it seems like most people (at least most people that you meet, or that you notice) aren't like that.

 

[Orsorum]

<< Zakath.. how old are you?

I'm sure that if you keep looking, you'll find a decent woman somewhere. There are plenty of us looking for a decent guy. Unfortunately, it seems like most people (at least most people that you meet, or that you notice) aren't like that. >>



I'm 18, freshman at the Univ. of Washington. I got time, .

 

[Fritzo]

You

<< *sigh* I'm getting to a point where I'm completely irritable and fed up with females in general. >>



You could become gay! Think about it! You could be gay...but not put out That way, you could hang out with the guys, they buy your dinner and drinks, and when they lean over to kiss you, you just back away and say "IIIIII'm not quite ready for that step in our relationship." All the benefits of a relationship without the effects of "the monthly visitor!" What a plan!

 

[Orsorum]

<< You

<< *sigh* I'm getting to a point where I'm completely irritable and fed up with females in general. >>



You could become gay! Think about it! You could be gay...but not put out That way, you could hang out with the guys, they buy your dinner and drinks, and when they lean over to kiss you, you just back away and say "IIIIII'm not quite ready for that step in our relationship." All the benefits of a relationship without the effects of "the monthly visitor!" What a plan! >>



??? That makes no sense. I'm still interested in women... just haven't found a single one to hook up with yet; yet, I'm not interested in playing the field.

 

[KennyTheGreat]

man
usually when chics ask me that
i'm like nah

but ther like ya u do

 

[Kadarin]

<< EDIT: I was being truthful, when I said that my feelings for her had changed; that I, ironically, "no longer thought of her in that way"... she is attractive, and intelligent, but we lead completely different lifestyles. To say that there was some part of me that wants to date her is truthful; but no where near as strong as it was four years ago. >>



So what kind of lifestyle could she be leading that is so alien to you that you're willing to be a (good) friend to her, but to not be involved romantically?