RANT : Gifts are stupid

[jadinolf]

3/10

 

[Geekbabe]

The only thing that bothers me about all the "event" related gift giving and collections for gifts is that it seems that the few occasions I have to celebrate are met with "gee, so sorry we forgot"

 

[tami]

Originally posted by: Doboji

If you can't afford to throw a wedding then don't throw a big wedding... it's not fair to think your gift registry is somehow going to comp you for the money spent on the wedding. Where's your spirit of compensation when your man buys you a 5 thousand dollar engagement ring? hmm?

Part of starting a life together is figuring out things like dishes and furnitue... sure it's nice when your close friends and family get together and give you a grand send off... but they don't OWE it to you. And this attitude of feeling they do because you threw a nice wedding party, and they drank lots of beer... is just selfish, and arrogant.

who says i'm throwing a big wedding? i'm not throwing the wedding. my parents are. they've wanted this since i was a little kid. READ my posts. i already addressed this.

i know very well that my gift registry won't compensate me for my wedding, nor do i expect it to. i obviously didn't put the most expensive items on the registry, and if you combined everything i have on my registry, you'd probably be looking at 5% of what the wedding cost.

and i never said that i *expect* a gift and that it's "owed" to me. it's just the socially acceptable thing to do. you had previously said, and i quote:

I'm at your wedding... I'm witnessing your marriage... thats f-in good enough...

the wedding is a different thing entirely from the reception, where the cost factor comes into play. and if it's socially acceptable just to witness the marriage (or as you phrase it, "f-in good enough"), there would be no receptions.

please, don't go to weddings. ever.

 

[CrackaLackaZe]

lol your mom buys your clothes

 

[piroroadkill]

Thanks for the topic, OP, you just reminded me that my parents offered to pay for all my driving lessons as my Christmas present.

Just need to arrange them now, cheers.

My parents are also signing me up for a new dentist for my birthday.

Call those gifts crap and get a kick in the teeth. At least nobody can say they're useless.

 

[Avalon]

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Zanix

Originally posted by: Doboji

Originally posted by: tami
i'm getting married and i want a gift. ok? that's why i'm inviting you to my wedding. i am registered at bed bath and beyond, among other stores. please see what has not been purchased and buy me those items.

think about the fact that wedding budgets are usually on the high side, and often there are no finances left over for uh, say, a dish rack. that's why these registries exist. and if you think we haven't thought of the "let's elope and take the wedding money instead!" idea, you're wrong. some folks want to walk down an aisle and want to make a big to-do about their children's wedding.

Why am I your guest obligated to buy you what you want for your wedding?... Thats just bullcrap... I'm at your wedding... I'm witnessing your marriage... thats f-in good enough... Why do I have to put myself out for you?... Thats bullcrap... I don't owe you a gawdamn thing.... If you're my best friend.... then I wouldn't need a registry... I would know what you would really like and be able to get it for you. If I can't figure out what to get... I don't know you well enough to get you a damn thing.

Same with christmas, everybody asks me "what do you want for christmas?!!"

Well, if you don't think you know what I need, don't buy me anything! The last thing I need is more sh!t laying around.

Yeah, every Christmas "What do you want?" Nothing. I already bought everything I wanted. Anything else is a waste of your money.

I purposely don't buy any clothes all year so my mom has something to buy that I actually need.

Same here
Every Christmas I get badgered by everyone asking what I want as far as gifts...when I tell them I don't want anything, they act like I'm pulling their leg. I really don't want anything, as I have everything I need. Food, clothes, oxygen, a roof, friends, a wonderful woman, and my mighty computer. What else do I need? Crap to clutter my comp desk?

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

Originally posted by: acemcmac

Originally posted by: tami
i'm getting married and i want a gift. ok? that's why i'm inviting you to my wedding. i am registered at bed bath and beyond, among other stores. please see what has not been purchased and buy me those items.

think about the fact that wedding budgets are usually on the high side, and often there are no finances left over for uh, say, a dish rack. that's why these registries exist. and if you think we haven't thought of the "let's elope and take the wedding money instead!" idea, you're wrong. some folks want to walk down an aisle and want to make a big to-do about their children's wedding.

A very dumb idea to be so fiscally reckless. Bear in mind that most bride's families still pay for the wedding themselves... If I were to have it my way, two of my buddies would be at my wedding, a few of the girl's gf's and the surviving family. 20 people tops and prime rib and beer back at my house when we're done... life goes on....

actually these days most often the bride and grrom are paying for the wedding themselves.

 

[DainBramaged]

Heh, I misread the thread title as "Girls are stupid"

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: CrackaLackaZe
lol your mom buys your clothes

She buys him clothes as gifts, moron. :roll:

- M4H

 

[tami]

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats

actually these days most often the bride and grrom are paying for the wedding themselves.

not here. but then again, a lot of my friends got married while they were still in college.

if you get married at age 35, then yes, you'll be paying for your own wedding more likely than not.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: tami

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats

actually these days most often the bride and grrom are paying for the wedding themselves.

not here. but then again, a lot of my friends got married while they were still in college.

if you get married at age 35, then yes, you'll be paying for your own wedding more likely than not.

Both my parents and my fiances parents are chipping in for our wedding. I'm 24. Her parents do not make a massive amount of money. I didn't expect anything from them, however.

 

[KarenMarie]

My ex husband believed that holidays... valentines day... mother's day... christmas...easter.. all of them... are just man made holidays that are designed to get him to spend money... that any sentiment was ruined by the commericalism... he wanted to buy gifts the day AFTER the holiday... when everything goes 1/2 price.

I was heartbroken many times a year... funny thing is now i agree with him 100%. I dont want to spend a dime on anything but birthdays.

 

[Cerb]

I fully agree with the OP.

 

[daniel1113]

I agree, especially when the gift giving simply becomes an exchange. For example, each year my family sends birthday cards with money to our close relatives, and on our birthday, we get the same. Same gift (cash or giftcard) for the same amount. We could all just save ourself the postage and not exchange any gifts, since no one experiences a net income.

The only gifts worth giving are the ones that truly remind you of someone, or for extremely special occasions, such as weddings. As such, I don't give gifts anymore unless I happen to receive one (just so I don't seem like a cheap bastard).

 

[RegularK]

I'm not big on the gift giving thing...and i don't really care to receive either, but every now and then, something calls out to me and I just think to myself, "OH. THIS WOULD BE PERFECT FOR SO-AND-SO." Otherwise, I couldn't care less.

Growing up in an Asian family, most of the "gifts" i received were monetary, and my parents always gave money as wedding gifts. We Asians (at least the ones I know) aren't particularly creative or thoughtful when it comes to gifts...

 

[Bv3]

"A donation has been made in your name to the Human Fund."


I completely agree. 95% of all gift giving is stupid. I don't give gifts, and I don't want gifts.

 

[Bullhonkie]

I don't buy my friends gifts. They don't buy me gifts. That's the way I (and we) like it. Just buy each other a few cold frosty ones whenever we go out and that's pretty much it.

 

[cmdrmoocow]

I misread the title as "RANT: Girls are stupid 90% of the time", and I was going to make a comment along the lines of "Thank you, Captain Obvious!" and move on with my little life.

I do agree about the gifts, but you can never win in this: not giving gifts makes you stingy.