quick question about gifts

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: AznAnarchy99

Originally posted by: Mike

Originally posted by: AznAnarchy99
person B happens to me and person A happens to be my father

sad eh?

Also, why couldn't you have just said this? Stupid Person a/b bullsh!t

LOL its 3am im not thinking straight.

The gift was a Sony 27in TV

As for taking to court, hes the one threatening to call the cops on me for every random bs thing. He told me he wants it back or hes going to call the cops and tell them I stole it and show them the original reciept.

Sounds to me like you need to throw down with your old man.

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: jbourne77
My Dad was an ass when it came to things like that. Stuff > People FTL.

Think positively. Think how much money you'll save when he is old and feeble and begs you for shelter/care and you can simply say no and remind him of what he did to you in the past. The look on his face when this happens will be priceless.

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: nnnyyy
Personally, I would have given it back when he first asked. Does the TV have some kind of sentimental value? A normal 27" TV isn't worth a father/son relationship. Do you really need to escalate this and call his bluff?

What kind of relationship is there to preserve if his own father is willing to call the cops over said TV?

I've been in the OP's shoes, and it's amazing how fast you "lose interest" in such relationships. I lost quite a lot of respect for my father when he pulled similar bullsh*t on me... and he didn't even threaten to call the cops. He just said "that's mine now".

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: jbourne77
My Dad was an ass when it came to things like that. Stuff > People FTL.

Think positively. Think how much money you'll save when he is old and feeble and begs you for shelter/care and you can simply say no and remind him of what he did to you in the past. The look on his face when this happens will be priceless.

Moot. He died. In fact, he died when we were just starting to repair our relationship from this and a zillion other things.

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: jbourne77
Moot. He died. In fact, he died when we were just starting to repair our relationship from this and a zillion other things.

Sorry to hear about that. I didn't know he was dead. Did you inherit some of the stuff back?

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: jbourne77
Moot. He died. In fact, he died when we were just starting to repair our relationship from this and a zillion other things.

Sorry to hear about that. I didn't know he was dead. Did you inherit some of the stuff back?

No worries... and I definitely didn't mean to imply I was offended by your comments. The things themselves - with one exception - were of little consequence in the grand scheme of things. It was the fact that he even pulled that garbage in the first place that was the problem.

But hey... not much anyone can do about it now. If I took anything positive away from it all, it's that I learned some very valueable lessons with regard to how I want to raise my kids, interact with them, and treat them.

 

[alkemyst]

so hypothetically, you are person A right?

 

[imported_Mike]

Originally posted by: alkemyst
so hypothetically, you are person A right?

um, he already said he was a/b

 

[AznAnarchy99]

Originally posted by: acemcmac
I'd just give it back. You can have a new 27" tv for a few hundred bucks.... (or $60 at Best Buy on sale like I did) not like there's anything on TV anyway. If you're living at home and haven't graduated college yet, you're SOL and really really should just give it back. I am also sure that there's more to the story.

Yes theres more to the story and i wrote it all until FF crashed on me so Imma just do cliffs..

The TV was orginally paid for my mother and my father, half and half, for my birthday a couple of years ago.

Recently
1. Dad kicked me out, willing to sign papers to live with my mom
2. Started moving stuff out, including TV, threatened to call cops if i take TV
3. Called cops, cops made me stay since i was legally under my dads name.
4. I "lived" there, only coming home to sleep, because i needed my computer to study for AP class and driving.
5. Dad prolongs signing me over, tells me, my mom, and my mother's lawyer to talk to his lawyer when we try to talk to him. His lawyer ignores all calls, seems to be in a meeting everyday and never returns calls, over 3 weeks.
6. Fast forward to today, i ask for some money for school supplies and clothes, said he wasnt going to give me a dime until he gets the TV back. I say no, threatens to call cops. I say go ahead, blah blah

I learned today that in the orginally papers to sign custody over he wanted to keep the TV. My mother being as stubborn as she is, she originally said no. A TV that is worth barely over $90 today is worth so much to him that im about to give it to him because i dont care for it so i can get the hell out of here. My mom told me earlier today if he wants it so bad, tell him to sign the papers and he'll get the TV.


She wants to sabotage the TV before giving it to him LOL


For those of you saying why destroy a relationship.. For about four years now, everyday me and my father have not had a single conversation. He remarried, had another child and such. The only conversations i have had with him is "im hungry". Dont get me wrong, ive tried to start conversations and such, but somehow everything ends in "tell your mom to stop suing me" despite the fact that he tried to sue and get a restraining order against my mom to stop seeing me.

 

[alkemyst]

use craigslist to find your same TV free in ANY condition.

Find the worst one, pick it up and bring it to him for the win.

There is an quote that goes something like "What's the worst thing to do to a man that's lost everything? Give him back something broken."

 

[thehstrybean]

Originally posted by: Bootprint
Sounds like Person B needs Person C's help to bury Person A's body.

And Person D can come to record it so it can go on YouTube!

 

[altonb1]

Originally posted by: AznAnarchy99

Originally posted by: acemcmac
I'd just give it back. You can have a new 27" tv for a few hundred bucks.... (or $60 at Best Buy on sale like I did) not like there's anything on TV anyway. If you're living at home and haven't graduated college yet, you're SOL and really really should just give it back. I am also sure that there's more to the story.

Yes theres more to the story and i wrote it all until FF crashed on me so Imma just do cliffs..

The TV was orginally paid for my mother and my father, half and half, for my birthday a couple of years ago.

Recently
1. Dad kicked me out, willing to sign papers to live with my mom
2. Started moving stuff out, including TV, threatened to call cops if i take TV
3. Called cops, cops made me stay since i was legally under my dads name.
4. I "lived" there, only coming home to sleep, because i needed my computer to study for AP class and driving.
5. Dad prolongs signing me over, tells me, my mom, and my mother's lawyer to talk to his lawyer when we try to talk to him. His lawyer ignores all calls, seems to be in a meeting everyday and never returns calls, over 3 weeks.
6. Fast forward to today, i ask for some money for school supplies and clothes, said he wasnt going to give me a dime until he gets the TV back. I say no, threatens to call cops. I say go ahead, blah blah

I learned today that in the orginally papers to sign custody over he wanted to keep the TV. My mother being as stubborn as she is, she originally said no. A TV that is worth barely over $90 today is worth so much to him that im about to give it to him because i dont care for it so i can get the hell out of here. My mom told me earlier today if he wants it so bad, tell him to sign the papers and he'll get the TV.


She wants to sabotage the TV before giving it to him LOL


For those of you saying why destroy a relationship.. For about four years now, everyday me and my father have not had a single conversation. He remarried, had another child and such. The only conversations i have had with him is "im hungry". Dont get me wrong, ive tried to start conversations and such, but somehow everything ends in "tell your mom to stop suing me" despite the fact that he tried to sue and get a restraining order against my mom to stop seeing me.

Meh...how old are you, OP? get a job after school and buy your own stuff.

 

[AznAnarchy99]

Originally posted by: altonb1

Originally posted by: AznAnarchy99

Originally posted by: acemcmac
I'd just give it back. You can have a new 27" tv for a few hundred bucks.... (or $60 at Best Buy on sale like I did) not like there's anything on TV anyway. If you're living at home and haven't graduated college yet, you're SOL and really really should just give it back. I am also sure that there's more to the story.

Yes theres more to the story and i wrote it all until FF crashed on me so Imma just do cliffs..

The TV was orginally paid for my mother and my father, half and half, for my birthday a couple of years ago.

Recently
1. Dad kicked me out, willing to sign papers to live with my mom
2. Started moving stuff out, including TV, threatened to call cops if i take TV
3. Called cops, cops made me stay since i was legally under my dads name.
4. I "lived" there, only coming home to sleep, because i needed my computer to study for AP class and driving.
5. Dad prolongs signing me over, tells me, my mom, and my mother's lawyer to talk to his lawyer when we try to talk to him. His lawyer ignores all calls, seems to be in a meeting everyday and never returns calls, over 3 weeks.
6. Fast forward to today, i ask for some money for school supplies and clothes, said he wasnt going to give me a dime until he gets the TV back. I say no, threatens to call cops. I say go ahead, blah blah

I learned today that in the orginally papers to sign custody over he wanted to keep the TV. My mother being as stubborn as she is, she originally said no. A TV that is worth barely over $90 today is worth so much to him that im about to give it to him because i dont care for it so i can get the hell out of here. My mom told me earlier today if he wants it so bad, tell him to sign the papers and he'll get the TV.


She wants to sabotage the TV before giving it to him LOL


For those of you saying why destroy a relationship.. For about four years now, everyday me and my father have not had a single conversation. He remarried, had another child and such. The only conversations i have had with him is "im hungry". Dont get me wrong, ive tried to start conversations and such, but somehow everything ends in "tell your mom to stop suing me" despite the fact that he tried to sue and get a restraining order against my mom to stop seeing me.

Meh...how old are you, OP? get a job after school and buy your own stuff.

16. I actually have a part time job at a friends mortgaging office and I do buy my own stuff. That TV was actually one of the last big things that have been bought for me.

I ask for school supply money because i would think the person that has custody of me would actually help me in school rather than just sign the papers i have to bring home.

 

[Kyanzes]

Shouldn't you be thinking about how to resolve your problem with your family instead?

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: AznAnarchy99

16. I actually have a part time job at a friends mortgaging office and I do buy my own stuff. That TV was actually one of the last big things that have been bought for me.

I ask for school supply money because i would think the person that has custody of me would actually help me in school rather than just sign the papers i have to bring home.

Unfortunately *they* really don't have to, but a college will *expect* them to contribute X dollars depending on their financial status until you are either married or around 24.

This killed me as my parents were both hospitalized during my first college year, however; they look at last year for reporting purposes. Unfortunately I qualified for nothing, and had to pick a good junior college instead of accepting UF's invitation to go Pharmacy. Fortunately working since I was 12 in a mortgage company and later on doing chinese food delivery at night (more fun than work esp with co-pilots) for a private restaurant I only had to borrow $7k over almost 7 years and I wasn't working at all.

I went back to college in 1999, after living a pretty good life and the chick I was living with
was siphoning off the top (she was making almost double what she told me from the beginning). I racked up $30k in 2 years on loans not working mostly. I didn't even see it coming I was so busy making a BA in 2 years in an unrelated college (pharmacy/biology-zoology vs comp sci).

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[HBalzer]

Possession = 9/10 of the law

 

[AznAnarchy99]

Originally posted by: Kyanzes
Shouldn't you be thinking about how to resolve your problem with your family instead?

Yea its past the point of resolving things with my father..

I mean just today he told me cousin "Bring back my TV or dont ever show your face in my house again."

And yea they dont "have" to help with school supplies, but normally a parent would at least put what 5 bucks down to get paper and pens.

 

[tridium9]

She wants to sabotage the TV before giving it to him LOL

That's spiteful. Two spites (other spite is your dad's behavior) only make an ugly situation uglier. Be the better person, and just give your dad the tv as it is. Reclaiming a gift is petty. Giving it back intentionally damaged is petty too.

 

[DainBramaged]

Originally posted by: Mike

Originally posted by: AznAnarchy99
person B happens to me and person A happens to be my father

sad eh?

Also, why couldn't you have just said this? Stupid Person a/b bullsh!t

Especially since he let it out anyway.