Questions about Dating.

[dfi]

The birthday present thing is abnormal. Unless it was just a card.

Sucks to be in your situation. Just gotta tell it to her straight. Just tell her, "Look baby, I aint made of money! Damn, get your own money, woman!!" Actually, you might not want to say that. Cuz she might either 1) get mad, 2) think it's a joke and spend more of your money.

I once knew a guy who blew $1000 on the first date. He had talked to her a lot before and really liked her, but still...

dfi

 

[Pepsei]

dude, you're sixteen!?!?!?

the answer is easy... just don't do stuff that cost money that often....
$100 for two week is actually cheap....

but if you have no job, don't go out as often... try to rent a movie and eat at home... cook for her.. it will be cheaper...

bday present is normal ONLY if you dated her for a long time and you know the person you're giving it too

 

[SpecialEd]

welcome to the world of dating!!

bottom line: Relationships cost money. Between Birthdays, Valentines day, Xmas, graduation... you gonna spend some doe. Many girls these days offer to pay some of the time. But don't expect much. If you let your girl start paying too much your gonna look like a scrooge. When you go out casually, spliting the bill is nice, but if you take to a nice restuarant, you better beat her to the bill. There are times when its apropreiate for her to pay, split, and you to pay. You just have to figure out what is a appropreiate when.

However, in the end, guys end up spend more cash the girls. Girls don't like it when they become the bread winners in relationships. thats just the way it is!

 

[Hammer]

Cashman, basically she was testing your limits with the gift for her friend. ALL women tests their limits (even saints like HotChic). Basically, she wanted to see what she could get away with and now she know what she can expect from you. It's hard to go back once you've done that.

 

[GrumpyMan]

Some women depend on that embarassment that you feel to keep you paying. They may do it subconciously but it happens none the less. She may not realize that it's a problem for you.
I've been a meal ticket once and I learned my lesson.

 

[TuffGirl]

Ever watch the movie A Bronx Tale? I thought it was boring P) but there's a memorable scene from there you could learn from...

"When you pull up to her house, lock both doors to the car. When she comes out go and unlock her door with the key. Then walk around the car and peer through the back window. If she reaches over to unlock your door she's a keeper, if not, dump her fast." <-- listen to Robert De Niro!

Cashman, it's all about being considerate and your girlfriend has proven to be inconsiderate with money so who knows in what other respects she'll also be that way. Even if she doesn't have the money herself, she can show courtesy to you in other ways just by asking if you're okay with it sometime. Geez. I say you dump her.

That's really sweet of you that you've paid for everything the past 2 weeks. You'd make a wonderful bf for a girl more deserving.

 

[darkjester]

The birthday present situation is a little weird, but otherwise "Welcome to Couplesville, just three miles away from Brokesville"

Actually, that may be the case at the start of a relationship, and especially your first one. But as time progresses, and you start to feel more comfortable around each other, you'll be able to say "Hey, that cheesburger you ate isn't going to pay for itself in you smiling. Cough up some dough!". Well, maybe not exactly like that, but you get the gist of it.

 

[jthsmak]

You still don't get it that its all just a sex for security scam. If you ask me, they're all prostitutes.

 

[Koing]

if she doesn't start to offer to pay for some then I say get rid of her. Better to be single then to be in debt when you REALLY neededn't be.......

I offer to pay all the time and generally do not because she [iexpects[/i] it but because I want to. If she expects me to pay for everything then she can jump.

But its *ALWAYS* good when she DOES offer. You know then its not about the money and the time spent. If she wouldn't offer it would start to annoy and piss me off as she can just be using you for the free ride.......

 

[franksta]

well these days i have no problem paying for my girl wherever we go. but i have a much better job now than i did when we started dating. she had no problem paying for herself back then. ahhh that was almost 2 years ago.....and tomorrow is the day I buy her the ring.................

 

[Danman]

<< Cashman, basically she was testing your limits with the gift for her friend. ALL women tests their limits (even saints like HotChic). Basically, she wanted to see what she could get away with and now she know what she can expect from you. It's hard to go back once you've done that. >>



Damn it. :frown:

 

[squirrelman]

I am in College right now and dont have a job so I dont have a ton of money, but I must say I honestly enjoy paying for my girlfriend. Maybe I am weird I dont know but I do like paying for things.