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Question on time spent with eachother in a relationship

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illusion88

Lifer
I was once dating this girl. We aren't dating anymore but she is still a good friend.

Now when we were dating we used to see eachother all the time. At school, after school, we would go out to dinner, go hang out, and just generally see eachother 75% of my waking hours. Looking back at that relationship i bet that is what really tore it down. Seeing eachother all the time. And when we didnt see eachother that day, we would call and talk for an hour or more. Anyone else been here? Or are you there and do you feel like its working? I want to get into another relationship but am a bit concerned on how to handle it. I leaning towards not seeing eachother as much, like once a day or something, just not to the extent of my previous relationship. Any thoughts?
 
Sounds good, as to me often once a day can even get old. Try to space it out a bit... hang out with her for a few days quite a bit, then take a day off with the guys. Clingy people make guys look pathetic.
 
I see my girl in the evenings now, but before we just saw each other on the weekends, and called during the week. It was nice to be apart sometimes, but I missed her. Now we're living together, and it's def. an adjustment. She cuts into my BF1942,Q3, and Mohaa time.

Ok Ok, she's totally worth it, and I couldn't be happier.
🙂

Go with what works for you do0d. If you dont' wanna see her all the time, then tell her, but be nice about it, if you wanna see her more then tell her. Personally I would start out seeing her less, and then if you wanna see her more, it's easier to say

"I would like to get to see you more", than it is to have to say "well maybe we shouldn't see each other so often, because you are cutting into my ATOT time"

 
Originally posted by: illusion88
I was once dating this girl. We aren't dating anymore but she is still a good friend.

Now when we were dating we used to see eachother all the time. At school, after school, we would go out to dinner, go hang out, and just generally see eachother 75% of my waking hours. Looking back at that relationship i bet that is what really tore it down. Seeing eachother all the time. And when we didnt see eachother that day, we would call and talk for an hour or more. Anyone else been here? Or are you there and do you feel like its working? I want to get into another relationship but am a bit concerned on how to handle it. I leaning towards not seeing eachother as much, like once a day or something, just not to the extent of my previous relationship. Any thoughts?
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Or get multiple gfs.
 
Originally posted by: skypilot
Sounds good, as to me often once a day can even get old. Try to space it out a bit... hang out with her for a few days quite a bit, then take a day off with the guys. Clingy people make guys look pathetic.
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Yeah that sounds good. Just seeing her a few times a week. My last girlfriend would give me surfing to myself (although she did come on one occasion, it was her last 🙂 ).

But yeah that doesnt sound to bad.

Or get multiple gfs.
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That would be the friggin life wouldnt it?😉

Of corse it is winter... ski season.
Aint no girl is getting in the way of my skiing. She better be the light of my life, the soul of my existance to prevent me from skiing.
 
My girlfriend and I have been dating for 5 years and living together for 4 years. We always 'like' each other less if we spend too much time together. I've never met *anyone* that I could tolerate 24/7 but that's just me. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. We love each other deeply, but if we spend too much time together, we *will* start fighting eventually. So we give each other a little space and everything is great.


And to any Bible thumper who wants to chime in and doomsay our long time no wedding relationship, I've heard your crap before, and I think you're fools.
 
Shrug.

My girlfriend and I spend pretty much every second we can together. No problems here. 😉

We've been together for 1 year on the 21st.
 
Sometimes time apart is good, sometimes it is not. Some people cope with large amounts of time together differently than others...
 
Yeah
At the begining it was really nice. But after te first year we started to fight alot more, and looking back I bet its because we spent all that time together. I mean she was awsome, she was great. But all good things must end right?

Thanks for teh adivce guys
 
She's at college right now, but when she is home in the summer, and we are around each other more than 2 or 3 days in a row for the whole day, I need a day or two away. Right now, when she gets in "THAT mood", I am glad she is 4 hours away.
 
too much time together aint good...... been there, done that! gets old after couple of years.... but then now we're living together things sort of change, also working won't allow you to see eachother much other than dinner time.


--Scsi
 
I am not sure what to say.... For a while my man and I say each other evryday. he would pick me up, we would go to dinner, he would drop me off. That would be it. When he went away to school, it was really hard. We were still in that "honeymoon"stage. Ya know...lovey-dovey all the time. then, when he came home for the weekend, I would spend the night at his house on weekends. Well...2.5 years later, we are bunkin' together and see each other about the same. If he's at work, i am rehearsing. If I am at work, he's at school. All-in-all though, i would say that we haven't spend very much time apart for a while. No, this is not abd at all, and no, our relationship is not draining. I love seeing him and i think he feels the same. It is the most amazing thing to have a best friend there anytime you need it. I feel i am pretty indepenent, as is he, but when we are together, everything just seems so much better. i always assumed that seeing someone SO much would be annoying, but i guess if you find that great person, it can be unbelievable!
 
Well, let's put it this way. The last girl I dated, she wanted to spend a lot of time with me. While I want to space it out a little. Consequently, we aren't dating anymore.
 
Too much time together definitely isnt a good thing. Its one thing if you are in the same room but doing different things, but another thing if every waking minute has to be spent doing somehting "together". Would drive me crazy.

One thing that I've found is sometimes a good thing to avoid is the whole day thing. Its ok just to spend a few hours or even just go out for dinner together, you dont have to see your girl the entire day every time you see her.

Since I'm away at college, I usually call my gf once or twice a day, she drives over for dinner/lunch one of the weekdays, and picks me up for the weekends, which we usually spend mostly together just lounging around being lazy. Works great for me.
 
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